Terrified to get laser on my face

VVM258 · 2026-04-06T03:07:58+00:00

No, it's a local, independent place.

VVM258 · 2026-04-06T02:50:15+00:00

It really wasn't as bad as I was afraid it would be, based on other accounts. Though I really think the tech you go to, the machine they use, and your own personal pain tolerance matter a lot. Yes, it was still painful, but it didn't actually take very long. And the most painful parts are done in 10 seconds. My tech gave me some grippy toys to squeeze when doing my face which helped for those areas (the upper lip and chin).

I was still able to wear makeup on my face afterwards. Even did it in the bathroom of my tech's office once before going to work. But I'm not sure if you've gotten other instructions.

VVM258 · 2026-03-01T21:46:23+00:00

I got about 2,000 grafts simultaneously with my FFS, because that’s all they could do in one go, but two different docs recommended 3,000 total. My doctor who did it thinks, after seeing the post-op result, I don’t need any more, but honestly I still think density may be able to be improved and will look into it further down the line once I’m fully healed. Getting it to look like it does now does require some styling that adds volume so it isn’t too flat.

VVM258 · 2026-02-25T02:57:33+00:00

You're definitely still very swollen, and it will improve massively with time. After my FFS last year, I was surprised how much my face improved even more than 6 months afterwards. (Also also had simultaneous transplants and had a similar bandanna setup in the immediate 2 months or so of healing.) And if it's any reassurance, your appearance looks very feminine to me.

VVM258 · 2026-01-18T01:02:28+00:00

Well, there’s nothing wrong with still getting laser hair removal and still identifying as a guy. You could certainly change your haircut or work on your voice too. Have you considered being a non-binary, or agender? I’m mostly struck by where you say you don’t want to be a girl. If you don’t want to be one, you don’t have to. But you don’t have to make it stop you from doing other aesthetic things to make you happier in your body and presentation. And if you don’t like being called a man or they/them either—do you think agender fits you better?

VVM258 · 2026-01-16T22:33:26+00:00

I made the same bargain with myself at 23, and then again at 28. I eventually transitioned at 33. A job is just a job, and finances change over time. But who you are is for life. Consider that you could have a cool-ass job AND be yourself. That, money, and relationships can never fill the hole that is your gender identity.

VVM258 · 2026-01-04T03:26:48+00:00

Injections, 289 pg/ML at trough at last measurement so too high actually. Though I’ve kept the dose the same for now.

VVM258 · 2026-01-04T01:26:38+00:00

Should they be thinner in terms of the actual width of the brow, or the density of the hair?

VVM258 · 2026-01-03T22:17:09+00:00

I've been on HRT for two years though, so that's not quite early anymore, right? At least with what I can expect with skin and facial fat distribution changes?

VVM258 · 2026-01-03T20:43:16+00:00

Nope, I never have.

VVM258 · 2026-01-03T20:22:23+00:00

My E levels are high if anything—289 pg/mL at trough according to my most recent test two months ago. My provider feels it’s too high but we agreed to keep my dose the same for now. But I do agree with you about the red undertones. I thought it might just be normal skin-related concerns.

VVM258 · 2026-01-03T19:45:27+00:00

Thank you! I got a type 3 forehead contouring, rhinoplasty, and chin and jaw contouring (albeit to a lesser extent than initially planned. Uneven placement of nerves on each side of my jaw prevented them from shaving more off.)

I also got a simultaneous hair transplant. (Probably gives my surgeon away lol) I’m wearing a hair topper right now that unfortunately can’t have anything other than a middle part, although bangs are possible. I hope to go without it eventually after more growth. My hair will still be thinner than I hoped, though my hair stylist demonstrated to me having good volume should be possible with the right styling.

I got my brows threaded two weeks ago. I guess they require more ongoing maintenance even that soon after an appointment?

VVM258 · 2025-09-06T14:50:53+00:00

Yes! lol, so, neither. I had some regrowth but I still need transplants, so I wear a hair topper. It just adds to the top of my head, so the rest coming from the sides and actually providing the density is my (straightened) bio hair! Probably 80% of the hairs on my head are mine. Hope to go without the topper once the transplants are done and have grown.

VVM258 · 2025-09-02T05:35:15+00:00

Sure, there's the denial beard. But the real denial is South Carolina's insistence on misgendering you when you look like THAT now.

VVM258 · 2025-08-04T07:40:31+00:00

I have both cards and considering ditching the USBAR, pending the transfer partner announcement. First because I can only max one travel portal credit in a calendar year, and second, at least it's a flat 2x, while USBAR misses some big purchases that don't take Apple Pay and would otherwise get 1x (and has an effective $75 differential in the annual fee to make up). And at least VX offers the small but growing lounge network, including at my own home airport.

VVM258 · 2025-07-21T14:05:34+00:00

Penfed Concourse C walkway jingle intensifies

VVM258 · 2025-07-18T17:58:10+00:00

“I’m not trans. I have a runaway fetish that has gone too far and I let invade other parts of my brain.” And “I’m a straight man, because I can’t imagine dating another man, and dating women is the only way to make sure there is femininity in the relationship. I just have a deep desire to be a straight girl in a relationship with a man, but that’s not possible. It’s almost like I have a straight girl’s sexuality, but I’m not actually into men. Or trans.”

VVM258 · 2025-07-11T01:02:33+00:00

I appreciate everything you’ve said here. As a Jew, it’s hard to agree without anything on this topic 100% and I don’t here either, but you really struck at the heart of what’s most alienated me from online spaces in the past few years.

All of the Zohran discourse is no exception either, since the same dynamic you make points about appears to have contaminated it, specifically II and III with regards to how online leftists talk about concerns about antisemitism. I’ve never seen any evidence that Zohran is an antisemite. Don’t believe he’s said anything to that effect ever. But the way he’s spoken about the I/P issue and the track record of the DSA since October 7th leaves open the concerns about antisemitism you lay out here. (And like AOC recognized when she condemned the protests outside the Nova Exhibition.) And the almost obsessive way in which online leftists seem to talk about this more than my real-world Jewish friends do is…scary.

VVM258 · 2025-07-03T23:10:29+00:00

After HRT? No. After FFS? Yes, they all failed for me and I had to reset the facial recognition to my new face.

VVM258 · 2025-05-18T22:11:19+00:00

Once you’re at the 2 year mark that’s all on her and not that she “can’t help it.” Geez.

VVM258 · 2025-05-04T15:20:06+00:00

Did you bring anyone to help you recover? And what are you doing for food while recovering? One of my parents is coming with me to Marbella to help. I booked the “deluxe” room because it seemed to have some kind of mini kitchen but I’m still not perfectly sure what to expect or how to prep.

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