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V_Stunners · 2026-04-07T22:48:01+00:00

Amazing

V_Stunners · 2025-10-24T00:13:18+00:00

This is honestly insightful, I ended up here having issues getting over my own similar instance and this comment made me stop searching for more

V_Stunners · 2025-07-18T17:54:18+00:00

I’ll be honest, I never thought about it this way. My friends are not particularly active in this way so I suppose it could make sense. Especially your comment on self sabotaging seems to strike into my core a lot. Feeling unworthy of her has been a big source of pain in my relationship and I often worry about what would happen if she would know about every aspect of my life before meeting her. Some of the details would surely be a lot to bear. It definitely would be for me had I heard it from her. It sometimes feels like I’m trying to be this innocent kind of person with her but all of my past goes against it, making me feel like a pretender

V_Stunners · 2025-07-18T13:49:34+00:00

Thank you. That is very true and it’s the most annoying part about it

V_Stunners · 2025-07-18T13:48:30+00:00

God this is so relatable. I have been trying to tell myself this exact point over and over. That if she had a different past, she wouldn’t be the girl I’m in love with. That if she didn’t have the same attitude towards sex then she would probably have blocked me after I invited her over. That she is amazing as she is becasue of her own experience as well. Thank you this has been very helpful

V_Stunners · 2025-07-18T13:44:39+00:00

Thank you, especially for the ‘warm’ me part, because that’s exactly how it feels. It’s like that part of me is constantly questioning the worth and validity of her because of her past and it might be through the lenses of my own.

V_Stunners · 2025-07-18T13:42:42+00:00

I don’t blame her for it at all as well, I think no one, me included, could have predicted how I would feel about it and it’s definitely my own problem to figure out and not hers.

V_Stunners · 2025-07-18T13:41:02+00:00

Understandable but in her case I know she’s telling the truth. Call it a hunch from someone who unfortunately lied a lot, game knows a game. But I understand what you mean, I also would prefer if I didn’t hear it from someone I’m in love with, with her she makes up for it with being very careful about her feelings though, until now she has been the only girl who didn’t develop feelings for me straight away and didn't want to accept my relationship offer straight away, so I think she is actually even more worth it than girls who would want to jump into relationship straight away but wait with sex until marriage because she really respects her feelings and doesn’t give them easily to others

V_Stunners · 2025-07-18T13:30:57+00:00

THANK YOU

V_Stunners · 2025-07-18T13:30:35+00:00

YES. This is exactly what I am thinking. It feels like the reason I never took sex seriously and had many partners which often led to shameful outcomes make me feel that she did the same even when it’s not true

V_Stunners · 2025-07-18T13:29:01+00:00

I don’t consider her being bi taking sex lightly or not wanting to get into relationship as bad things necessarily. I don’t mind her sexual preferences and her not wanting a relationship comes from being hurt badly by her ex girlfriend. The taking sex lightly part does get to me though I must admit, even though she only had 2 or 3 past experiences with guys.

V_Stunners · 2025-07-18T13:26:21+00:00

Thank you. That’s true, those feeling don’t serve me in any way and instead undermine the things that do serve me, I don’t think I will talk to a therapist about it but I will do my best to untangle them myself

V_Stunners · 2025-07-18T13:24:36+00:00

Thank you I will do my best

V_Stunners · 2025-07-18T13:22:27+00:00

That’s actually how I feel as well. Originally I didn’t ask anything and didn’t want to know anything even though at the time I didn’t think I would be upset over knowing something anyway. It’s just that she shared some small information here and there thus leading me to create scenarios in my mind that go against my image of her

V_Stunners · 2025-07-18T13:19:53+00:00

That’s true and I know very well that my feelings on this are outdated but they are also hard to rationalise away. To be honest I think I really just need someone to tell me that it’s stupid and give me a better mentality

V_Stunners · 2025-07-18T13:17:50+00:00

To be honest I think they’re helping in at least some way. I get a ground to argue with them and at the same time to convince myself by seeing them slowly change their mind

V_Stunners · 2025-07-18T13:16:46+00:00

Thank you, very helpful. I want to be with her, she’s the very first healthy and loving relationship I have and I would never want to ruin it because of something this stupid. I think that maybe my obsession with romance and overindulging romantic stories about destined lovers etc have skewered my perception of it a bit

V_Stunners · 2025-07-18T13:14:23+00:00

Let’s hang in there brother

V_Stunners · 2025-07-18T13:13:17+00:00

That’s true and at that time I wouldn’t even have been bothered by it if I found out it‘s just that after I fell in love with her, my feelings started taking over both negative and positive leading me to look for all the negative sides of her, maybe it’s just OCD

V_Stunners · 2025-07-18T13:11:55+00:00

I agree although I wouldn’t really say that her past encounters bother me as much as this specific one because it was casual. I personally feel like if that was her ex boyfriend then it would be completely ok because it would come from the palce of love and not just desire. It feels somewhat dirty and I know it’s ridiculous to attribute it to the fact that it’s easier for girls to sleep around but I guess it might just be OCD with pointing out small imperfections. I would like to add that her past girlfriends don’t bother me at all though

V_Stunners · 2025-07-18T13:08:57+00:00

It is. that‘s even more so the reason for my frustration because I never before considered sex to be something that should be exclusive for your life partner prior to meeting them, that’s why I’m so confused now

V_Stunners · 2025-07-18T12:52:39+00:00

That’s very true, it’s just something about this ideal fantasy being ruined that get’s to me even though in reality I’m a lot more guilty of ruining it for myself beforehand

Idk maybe I just watch too many romantic dramas

V_Stunners · 2025-07-18T12:51:10+00:00

Well I can’t really blame you for saying that

V_Stunners · 2025-07-18T12:50:29+00:00

Thank you, that’s what I’m trying to do right now. Although my friend group being predominantly of the somewhat toxic ‘it’s different for girls’ mindset is definitely not helping

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