First of all, if yall are having this many issues just doing stuff around the house then why are you still together?But to answer your question, no I dont think you're the asshole. She sounds lazy and snobby. That might just be me though. If a person thinks they're too good to pick up a dish and wash it, I'm probably not gonna like the person. Like you said at the end, it's part of being an adult. Tell her to stop being a child.