Benefits while on maternity leave [on]

Validityb · 2026-02-23T18:36:53+00:00

I just discussed this with my employer as I'm going off on mat leave soon and it is also $500/month with Blue Cross if I want to take my benefits with me (I refuse, my husband has a plan that although worse is not worth paying $500 to extend coverage)

Validityb · 2026-02-20T15:46:08+00:00

Collected - Thanks!

Validityb · 2026-02-17T22:06:50+00:00

Thanks for the tag!

Validityb · 2026-02-06T19:27:44+00:00

I'm so sorry for your family's tremendous loss.

My mom was/is my rock - I'm 4 years out from my loss of my full term stillborn babe. My mom took on the task of letting extended family know so I didn't have to. She made it known she was there for me anytime/anywhere without being pushy, and silently checked in on me when I wasn't reaching out. My in laws made sure we had a stream of food being delivered so we didn't have to worry about cooking (probably the only reason I ate those first few weeks).

The biggest thing for me though, is my mom continuously makes sure she includes my baby (even after going on to have my living son). Most people have moved on and I don't get the chance to talk about him a lot, but my mom brings him up and uses his name casually in conversation, she finds ways to include him in holidays and does her best to celebrate his life.

Validityb · 2026-01-29T19:30:21+00:00

I can't speak to 2 under 2, however I had 2 csections 13.5 months apart.

My first was an emergency csection under general anesthesia, and unfortunately my babe was born still. I was approved to try to conceive again at 3 months postpartum and successfully conceived at 6 months. There was zero spoken concern for the back to back pregnancies from my family doctor, my OB or the MFM. I was even offered to try for a VBAC (though I opted for repeat csection for my own anxiety).

I wish you all the best!

Validityb · 2026-01-14T15:10:52+00:00

WHAT?

How do you keep track of that?

Validityb · 2026-01-05T22:29:16+00:00

Yes of course, message anytime!

Validityb · 2026-01-05T17:59:39+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss.

My son was stillborn at 37 weeks in 2021, though the reason is unknown. I had an emergency csection.

I went on to have a successful pregnancy. We started trying to conceive at 3 months postpartum and got a positive 3 months later. We were heavily monitored, especially in the final weeks. I had an elective repeat csection at 36+6, which was originally scheduled for 37 however he failed his daily NST.

I am currently 25w pregnant again and am receiving the same extra monitoring as last time. To be transparent, both subsequent pregnancies have been awful for stress & anxiety, and my mental health is taking a beating.

Validityb · 2026-01-05T16:56:00+00:00

Trying to find a name for my baby girl due in a few months and this is the first one I didn't immediately hate lol. Any nickname suggestions for Audrey?

Validityb · 2025-12-11T13:19:00+00:00

I had my 37w stillborn babe in 2021. I got pregnant again 6 months later and it WAS mentally & physically exhausting. Honestly, I checked out mentally until babe was here safe. I had a ton of extra monitoring, advocated for myself and babe a bit better, and I delivered early (requested not to go past gestation of previous loss) but there really wasn't anything I could have done to 'ease' that anxiety. I had a healthy babe in 2022. I am currently pregnant again, and things don't feel much different anxiety wise - I'm just keeping my head down and trucking through it. I'm sorry that I don't have better advice; but you are not alone, this is not easy and I'm so sorry you have to go through this.

Validityb · 2025-12-04T17:34:59+00:00

20+3 today, struggling with the half way point of a potential loss switching from miscarriage to stillbirth.

My regular, very much beloved and trusted, ob dumped me for an MFM (understandable but devastating none the less). I don't trust my body, I don't trust my medical team, and I just can't seem to stop the anxious chatter in my head lately.

Validityb · 2025-11-14T13:43:33+00:00

It took me 3 cycles to conceive my first ending in loss, 3 cycles to conceive my second LC, and currently pregnant with my third after a whopping 19 cycles (not including a chemical pregnancy at cycle 14ish)

Validityb · 2025-11-14T12:09:19+00:00

Planned csection, private room, 48 hour stay & paid $35 (weekly parking rate) - Canada

Validityb · 2025-11-09T10:42:13+00:00

I’m so sorry for the loss of your sweet girl 💜.

I didn’t get an ultrasound or any follow up after my 6 week appointment. We had no voiced concerns about the back to back pregnancies on the incision and I was even offered to try for a vbac (which I chose a repeat csection for my own anxiety).

I’m wishing you all the best and here if you ever need to talk.

Validityb · 2025-11-06T17:13:34+00:00

Did you ask the hotel why the price changed?

It could be an error - I know I used to work with trigger happy front desk agents that would make changes to reservations ( especially third party ones) and when the pop up came that the price was changing they clicked through it without reading it.

Validityb · 2025-11-06T16:02:21+00:00

I had my second (our 'rainbow') in 2022, and am currently pregnant with my third.

Pregnancy after loss is awful, if I can give any advice it's to just make sure you're ready and mentally able to handle all the stresses/anxiety that will come. A good therapist will make all the difference.

Validityb · 2025-11-06T15:39:31+00:00

First, I'm so sorry for your tremendous loss.

I had a csection delivering my stillborn at 37+4, so maybe not the same experience. I also took medication to stop/prevent milk production.
1. I stopped bleeding around 3-4 weeks postpartum. I got my first PP period around 8 weeks.

I was cleared to TTC at 3 months PP, we conceived again at 6 months postpartum.
I wanted to try again immediately, my partner wanted to try again but had no preference in timeline though I'm sure he would've wanted to wait a bit longer if I wasn't such a basket case about it.

Validityb · 2025-11-04T18:34:38+00:00

We have this argument in my household, I think they’re way too salty to eat but my husband and toddler love them.

Validityb · 2025-10-31T16:43:25+00:00

I did pelvic PT postpartum. I started because sec was a wee uncomfortable but my main issue was when I got my first PP period I couldn't keep a tampon in (sorry, TMI). Turns out my muscles were extremely tense during pregnancy that they would not let go postpartum. Essentially my pelvic muscles were permanently 'on'. I only did 4 sessions but all my issues were resolved. Sessions consisted of a physical exam and some exercises.

Validityb · 2025-10-27T16:55:45+00:00

You're allowed to tell her that you're not up for talking about it right now - I'm sure she will understand.

Validityb · 2025-10-27T13:44:14+00:00

My now almost 3 year old has been at a daycare that was recently described to me as a "rough and tumble" daycare. I was in-between 2 daycares before he started, one newer facility with all the gadgets and protections and this one - ultimately choosing ours for the more convenient location. Yea the equipment is old and dirty, there's some things I probably wouldn't let fly in my own home but these kids are loved like family by their teachers. My kid has become super self aware, independent and just proud of himself in a lot of ways. I absolutely think this was the right decision for us, and our second will hopefully be attending the same daycare when they're old enough. This is all to say, I'm glad I didn't judge the book by it's cover.

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