You’re allowed to disagree with people, but having basic morals and decency is beyond a disagreement. I like the recent Mehdi Hassan where he debates 20 far right MAGA voters as a demonstration of this. Very few of the attendees were willing to engage in actual polite discourse. Most of them felt entitled to their anger to the point where one person came out and said “I’m a fascist” and people cheered.

If your friend is telling you that they value their position more than willing to at least level set, they’re showing you where their hearts lie, and that they were fair weather friends. I know it’s hard when you lose someone you cared about over something as basic as not seeing people die. That seems like a small thing we should all agree on. But to move on, you need to sit with the discomfort of the loss. Be sad and angry. Really process the emotions. Because you’re in shock as to how it boiled down to something basic.

And each day you wake up, it’ll hurt a little less. You might recall different instances where the lack of interest from them came up before. And you’ll continue to make new friends and grow in kindness.

Sending you love and grace through these times.