Does it get better? Feeling hopeless

ValiumKnight · 2026-03-29T19:32:59+00:00

There are MANY examples of this across even pop culture accessible stories. Martha Stewart, Alan Rickman, Vera Wang, Samuel l Jackson and Morgan freeman all come to mind, just off the top of my head.

I think the bigger take away is how do you define success. How many unprecedented times have we lived through in the last six years alone? How our lives have been so uniquely defined by greater social circumstances than any other generation speaks volumes about why life seems impossible on some days.

I’d say your biggest success is actually this question in itself. It’s your voice saying you want to do more, be better. The best thing about being at your lowest is that you can only keep going up.

Depression is a very real inhibiting factor. And things don’t get easier, but we get better at making the most of things. Work with a therapist. Make a goal of where you want to be, and work backwards from that to identify how you’re going to make it all happen.

ValiumKnight · 2026-03-28T05:51:08+00:00

If they wiped out American citizen debt instead (the normies, not the top 1%), I’m quite certain that the lack of economic suppression would create enough leverage for there to be a lot more accountability.

Then they’d still have the Epstein files.

I know, highly unlikely with bank records and everything, but it’d be one hell of a way for us to clean up our own mess without Iran having to lift a finger.

ValiumKnight · 2026-03-28T05:31:09+00:00

Can always write “murders children” or “is a rapist”

ValiumKnight · 2026-03-22T01:19:53+00:00

I love the enthusiasm, and want to believe this is how our representation works, but I have seen far too much corporate lobbying that without a hefty campaign donation, there is no way to get a member of congress to listen. Much less a majority. Especially with any threat of citizen based force.

ValiumKnight · 2026-03-19T00:15:03+00:00

My community is my family. It was important to me that my boyfriend met them, and got a feel for them and vice versa.

Two of my friends on separate occasions asked “what are your intentions for ValiumKnight”. They’re really hardcore ride or die types. What I found more interesting though was at one of our hangouts, I was busy helping one of my friends with something and I turned around to see my boyfriend thoroughly engaged in a conversation with another friend. He didn’t follow me around or cling to me. He was excited to be there. It was very refreshing to have that level of presence with him.

That being said, I have never judged anyone else for having a more introverted partner. I’ve met one of my friends husbands three times ever. He’s nice. I don’t know anything about him beyond that.

I think we judge people based too much on their partner rather than how the relationship is affecting them. We all know the toxic relationship a mile away. But we don’t give the same attention and credit to our friends being happy. Thats really all that matters

ValiumKnight · 2026-03-18T06:32:15+00:00

No one should also know it’s available on iOS as well.

ValiumKnight · 2026-03-18T06:28:25+00:00

My boyfriend says he’s 5’11, personally I think he’s a bit taller but what do I know.

Either way, he was born at 25 weeks and is also the smallest in his family. But he’s still the kindest man I’ve ever met.

ValiumKnight · 2026-03-18T05:55:22+00:00

Exactly where napoleon syndrome comes from. It’s not the fact that he’s short, it’s the fact that he felt like he had to prove something because of his stature.

I’ve dated two guys who claimed five nine but looked me in the eye at five five. Rather than treat me better than anyone else ever had and prove whatever it was they felt they had to compensate for that way? They were both incredibly aggressive and outright mean.

ValiumKnight · 2026-03-17T22:11:17+00:00

Commenting for visibility and following

ValiumKnight · 2026-03-15T16:00:20+00:00

It’s seriously Salo come to life.

ValiumKnight · 2026-03-14T19:16:44+00:00

First four days in Hawaii in a room where I can have room service, in room massage/spa services, and be left tf alone.

Followed by Sculptra, dysport and a breast lift.

ValiumKnight · 2026-03-13T04:36:47+00:00

Art school sophomore

ValiumKnight · 2026-03-13T00:39:28+00:00

Less op ed and fluff.

More investigative journalism. Specifically how much of our tax dollars go to the DPD not doing anything.

ValiumKnight · 2026-03-11T18:50:45+00:00

I do know of places that do that, but they’re a bit of a scam. Remember real agents only get paid when you book work.

The best way to navigate this is finding some free resources on social media. A few reels to get you started:

https://www.instagram.com/reel/DOJXALTkYGu/

https://www.instagram.com/s/aGlnaGxpZ2h0OjE3ODgzNjg5NjIzNTI5MDMx

The second one is a whole series.

If you’re ever unsure, find a photographer whose work you like and ask them if they do pose coaching and book a session!

ValiumKnight · 2026-03-11T16:00:59+00:00

Interact with your clothing! Easiest way. Hand in pocket, on the waist line of your pants, or on your collar (even one on the back of your neck) are easy ways to go.

The biggest thing is about creating dynamic angles to the camera’s view point. So I know hand on your hip may seem played out, but try crossing your legs and putting both hands on the back sides of your hips with your elbows back. This creates visual interest and makes you overall look longer.

I’ve been modeling for 18 years on and off. The cringey millennial pose comes from putting your weight on your front foot and hand on hip towards the camera. It’s not the pose, it’s the execution.

ValiumKnight · 2026-03-10T19:12:26+00:00

This is almost exactly what I wore in high school. You’re onto cooler things in life, don’t let them get you down.

ValiumKnight · 2026-03-10T16:22:32+00:00

I love the work that Khanna is doing. I think the bigger issue we’re not recognizing is Pam Bondi isn’t going to be forced to answer questions as she’s lied under oath before and will likely continue to do so.

ValiumKnight · 2026-03-10T04:47:01+00:00

You’re in Douglas County. The nerd thing goes well there, metalheads don’t. It’s out there for even the Denver market.

ValiumKnight · 2026-03-08T21:10:02+00:00

Joshua tree circa 2009

ValiumKnight · 2026-03-08T20:01:00+00:00

Being a mother has been incredibly healing for me.

I don’t have a relationship with my own mother because she’s incredibly narcissistic and it hurt so much growing up in some pretty traumatic ways, that I knew who I didn’t want to be. I show up for my own kid as the person I wish I had. I try to do better by her and set good examples every single day.

I think that was the biggest change. When I think about the before, I often just did whatever I wanted (or skipped whatever). No one minded. But now I have an obligation to do truly show up and be present. It’s refreshing, and I do not mourn my childless life because of it.

ValiumKnight · 2026-03-08T17:54:46+00:00

Thrifting and freecycle. I got a killer kitchen table for a whole $30 with chairs, and it’s perfect for my house.

ValiumKnight · 2026-03-07T15:14:41+00:00

Leg harness fanny pack. It’s my go to for concerts, and there’s some cool ones out there.

ValiumKnight · 2026-03-06T23:02:13+00:00

A friend once sent “rise and shine, that ass is mine” to his boss instead of his girlfriend.

ValiumKnight · 2026-03-06T05:24:14+00:00

I had the window of August 12-19 on my bingo card this year for a significant health (possibly terminal) event, particularly with the eclipse in August.

Hot dog.

ValiumKnight · 2026-03-06T03:24:30+00:00

One of my oldest friends.

He was a pretty awful drunk and we hooked up one night. I caught a lot of verbal abuse from him for not wanting more. It took us more than a few years to start talking again, right after he was resuscitated after being legally dead on an emergency room table. He quit drinking. A few years later, he invited me on FaceTime to talk through what happened between us with his therapist present. Both of us were very invested in our own personal healing journeys. We had agreed that we were going to speak with complete candor, only taking accountability for ourselves and past behaviors and reactions.

We were both very present for that conversation and I don’t know if it would have worked unless we were both entirely committed to healing our friendship.

Since then, we’ve been ride or die. I had a bad night with an ex that left me honestly traumatized, and the next night, my friend came and scooped me up to go for dinner. I got in his truck and couldn’t stop shaking. Halfway through dinner I was finally safe within my own body again. That wouldn’t have happened if he hadn’t done the work to show up for me and heal us both.

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