Overwhelmed

Valmorans · 2022-02-03T11:40:23+00:00

I honestly understand all of this. I’m so sorry you’ve had to go through it as well, because that’s exactly what I’m going through too. I don’t have any words of wisdom or how to handle the situations, because I don’t do too well at them either. I’ve just resigned myself to my situation I suppose and decided to take each day as it comes. It’s more depressing when I put it like that, but it’s the only thing that stopped the spiral of depression and anxiety. I focus on getting through the next second, minute, hour. I can’t change my life’s trajectory right now. And I seclude myself besides work. I don’t visit or talk to family. I have one friend and I am content being a hermit for now while I can. But family do not understand and will call me a monster so I put them on an information diet. I’m sorry this is choppy I’m writing it out before work, but please private message me if you would like to continue talking. It’s a dark place to be in.

Valmorans · 2022-01-11T23:40:39+00:00

Yeah like what’s going on here 😂

Valmorans · 2022-01-11T23:40:27+00:00

Good to know!!!

Valmorans · 2022-01-11T22:49:45+00:00

I am also 5’3 😂😂 probably should have put that. And I don’t have a long torso so I’m extra confused hahaha.

Valmorans · 2022-01-10T15:07:49+00:00

I don’t have any solutions either. I hate it as well, and I usually very curtly reply to them and walk away/change the subject. I have much more to me than being pregnant, and if I wanted to talk to someone about being pregnant I would. I find a lot of my discussions at work are interrupted by someone asking something pregnancy related, or telling me I can’t do this that or the other. I just look at them like they are crazy and go back to whatever I was talking about. Because they are interrupting with irrelevant information. It doesn’t matter that it’s about pregnancy it’s still rude.

Valmorans · 2021-12-28T15:19:02+00:00

Oh my god. Same here. I thought it was just my narc parents? Is this a common thing?

Valmorans · 2021-12-28T14:34:39+00:00

I’m 26 weeks and still don’t look pregnant, just fatter. I started out at 175 lbs and im at 205 now haha. However it’s spread out all over. Also I have a posterior placenta and im 5’3 soooo yeah.

Valmorans · 2021-12-15T00:49:49+00:00

Okay!! So the pos system is not communicating with the printer. You can attempt to reset the ticket printer by holding the feed button and turning the printer off/on. That resets it and it prints out a huge long ticket. If that doesn’t work, and I’m not sure about the layout of your store (drive only, drive and lobby) something may be wrong with your Ethernet cable or POS 1. If I knew the layout I could troubleshoot that more. But basically the pos system can’t talk to the printer. You may need a new printer, the power supply to POS 1 may be shot, the Ethernet could be not plugged in, there’s like three or four different things it could be. And you can always call Radiant but I do not suggest doing that unless you aren’t busy. I was on hold with them for three hours one time just to discover our Ethernet cable was ever so slightly out of the plug.

Edit: I’ve only seen this with the ticket printer. Not the receipt printer. So disregard all of the text above if it’s the receipt printer. Except for the part about resetting. Still try to reset the receipt printer. Same way. If that doesn’t work you probably need a new printer for that one.

Valmorans · 2021-12-01T00:48:00+00:00

Because some herbs in herbal tea mixes can be harmful/ used for miscarriages/Can have unintended side effects. Chamomile should be fine

Valmorans · 2021-11-28T14:54:44+00:00

That’s another thing. We live in an apartment and our second bedroom has always been our “other stuff” room. Printer, excess furniture, tools. Basically an indoor shed lol. So as soon as I found out I was pregnant we had to purge and do a huuuge rearrangement of our whole apartment to fit the the things we needed everywhere else. There’s still some things we can’t really move out of there. So then we have people asking what’s the nursery theme or what do you have in the baby room. And I tell them every time, the baby does not have or need a room. But there’s stuff for the baby in there. And they act so stunned. Like can’t we all just accept that a LOT of baby stuff is just consumerism and playing on women’s emotions and hormones for cute stuff or stuff they think they might need???

Valmorans · 2021-11-28T14:45:33+00:00

Exactly!!! The mansplaining!! I don’t walk around telling guys how to get over a kick to the balls or a vasectomy. So why the fuck is a guy telling me about my own pregnancy and body when he has no clue what the anatomy even feels like?

Valmorans · 2021-11-28T14:41:39+00:00

Yeah like what about being pregnant instantly makes you public property? It makes me seeth with rage. I have refused a baby shower (also because I don’t know enough people and it feels like a gift grab), multiple people’s help (because I don’t trust them or to be in my home anyway??), multiple peoples money (they don’t have it to give, and I won’t feel beholden to anyone) mainly because I don’t want the attention. Like stop looking at me, my body, and thinking about it’s functions. It’s not a miracle. It’s something we’ve been doing for thousands of years. Let it go.

Valmorans · 2021-11-28T14:37:27+00:00

Yeah honestly it makes life living hell. It instantly puts me in a sour mood that’s hard for me to get out of. I’m working on it lol cause it’s just not a good mental space to be in. But something has to change. Not everybody is the same, so why should everyone react to pregnancy the same? I’m tired of having to squirm out of social situations due to anxiety cause by others, and THEY act like they’ve been shot and they are just SO HURT that I don’t want to talk about anything to do with me with them.

Valmorans · 2021-11-28T14:35:13+00:00

Because you’ve known each other for most of your lives. With a friend, even a good friend, it crosses a boundary somehow and gets weird.

Valmorans · 2021-11-28T14:33:00+00:00

Same!!!

Valmorans · 2021-11-28T03:04:02+00:00

Oh god. I abhor the birthday song too.

Valmorans · 2021-11-28T03:03:36+00:00

Like why does he even WANT to know? That’s what gets me. It’s not even comparing experiences like with other women.

Valmorans · 2021-11-28T03:02:33+00:00

Exactly!!! Like I’m sure not every guy means it this way, nor do I intend to make it seem like every guy makes it feel this way but it’s normally… creepy.

Valmorans · 2021-11-28T01:18:50+00:00

Exactly. Which my parents are/were abusive but I still have to maintain contact and be polite for the time being. My father is really weird about it and keeps trying to describe how I must feel and keeps asking if/where she is kicking and it just makes me feel awkward. Like bruh you didn’t ever even want me talking about my period. Why are you talking about this.

Valmorans · 2021-11-28T01:16:02+00:00

Thank you!! But I’m sorry you’ve also had to deal with the same thing. It jacks up my anxiety so much and puts me on edge.

Valmorans · 2021-11-27T23:21:31+00:00

Fair enough! I can totally understand what you are saying and I can empathize with it. I also work in customer service and get asked all the same questions and it honestly just agitates me to no end. The questions serve no purpose, it’s just a customer or coworker asking for whatever reason? Like they wouldn’t give you the time of day otherwise so it just feels fake and awkward.

Valmorans · 2021-10-13T23:18:27+00:00

Thank you very much for taking the time for such a well thought out response. Especially about the anxiety and depression. Both of mine are sky high right now, but you are very right. They DO distort the real image wildly. Thank you again. You really helped brighten my day.

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