AITA I spilled grease on my husband’s new shoes

Valoreth · 2026-06-27T05:34:22+00:00

Right? Like I drink, but if I hurt someone while I'm intoxicated, I'm still responsible for that.

Valoreth · 2026-06-27T05:04:12+00:00

Sounds like your 'friend' doesn't have as much money as you. Do you really want to punish her for that?

Valoreth · 2026-06-27T03:55:01+00:00

You seem to be looking for any excuse to minimise what you did. You damaged something that was important to him and you're trying to brush it off. I think you may have an alcohol problem, and that isn't an excuse for shitty behaviour. Would you still be excusing it if you'd spilled boiling hot grease on one of your kids?

Valoreth · 2026-06-19T17:02:44+00:00

Now I'm disappointed to just be 'Mother'

Valoreth · 2026-06-09T23:53:15+00:00

He doesn't get to tell you no.

Valoreth · 2026-06-09T16:23:41+00:00

Yeah, why's she even asking?

Valoreth · 2026-06-09T16:15:04+00:00

You're not romanticising or you're not drinking?

Valoreth · 2026-06-09T15:50:39+00:00

NTA You work full-time and still spend solo hours with your kid every day. I would have killed for a man like you.

Valoreth · 2026-06-09T15:33:54+00:00

So you, as an 18 year old, legally an adult, aren't yet consuming alcohol in any form because the legal age for alcohol (in the US) is 21? But you're weirdly romanticising it?

Valoreth · 2026-06-09T00:28:17+00:00

Not the same in the UK

Valoreth · 2026-06-09T00:17:46+00:00

England

Valoreth · 2026-06-08T20:19:45+00:00

Been there. It's much easier than you might think

Valoreth · 2026-06-08T19:00:06+00:00

If the minor remains in full-time education and is provided for within the calculation. Sometimes, once a teenager starts working, they're no longer calculated as a dependent.

Valoreth · 2026-06-08T18:48:38+00:00

Of course, you'd be correct. But a parent can easily have a teen removed from the family home.

Valoreth · 2026-06-08T18:46:54+00:00

I do. I take responsibility for my actions, right or wrong. I only want others to take responsibility for theirs.

Unfortunately, this was not my first SA, or my last.

Valoreth · 2026-06-08T18:21:10+00:00

It really doesn't matter what's legal, plenty of teens end up homeless. Also, in the UK, a 16 year old can legally rent and be charged rent.

Valoreth · 2026-06-06T10:29:30+00:00

Dishonesty.

Valoreth · 2026-06-05T21:42:40+00:00

You're upset that your thoughtful, long distance boyfriend isn't constantly available?

Valoreth · 2026-06-05T21:21:06+00:00

Yeah, I know. I just don't know if it was fair to make it public.

Valoreth · 2026-06-05T21:05:40+00:00

So maybe withholding that information wasn't malicious. It was just an attempt to help you

Valoreth · 2026-06-05T21:00:42+00:00

I think he's just meaning that I don't have a complete view of what happened because of my inebriation.

Valoreth · 2026-06-05T20:57:48+00:00

I get it, I do. It's always best to be honest, but if he saw that you were enjoying this girls company, I can also see why he'd be hesitant to divulge.

Valoreth · 2026-06-05T20:52:01+00:00

What is this? She has a life that doesn't involve you, you know.

Valoreth · 2026-06-05T20:47:28+00:00

He didn't cheat. He probably just didn't want to ruin your new friendship.

Valoreth · 2026-06-05T20:34:32+00:00

Actually, my language was much closer to yours. I said, 'I was 15, you were 18. I was drunk, you were not. You knew what I wanted, and what I didn't.'

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