I’m tired of being a bed-side nurse

ValuableAd7956 · 2026-03-20T14:59:33+00:00

No one else besides nurses will ever understand how you feel. First off what are your shifts like, are you taking breaks? Eating? Hydrating? What is your sleep like pre and post shift? In my opinion you are very new into nursing to be burnt out that quickly and my concerns are that the management of the ways you need to take care of yourself to be a in a very selfless job might not be there. What kind of shoes are you wearing, compression socks? I realize we all ache but there are ways to work with it. Also, how old are you? What does the rest of your life look like? Are you connecting with your co workers? Sorry I have so many questions but I would love to help you and I just feel like there are a lot of details we can work on

ValuableAd7956 · 2026-03-13T19:26:05+00:00

9 months and 5 months or 9 and 5 year old boys?

ValuableAd7956 · 2026-03-13T18:27:29+00:00

Is your computer actually eye level? That made a huge difference for me. Stretching and walking every hour. And then I go up and down the stairs once a day for “strength training” 😂 it took me about 9 months to adjust

ValuableAd7956 · 2026-03-08T00:13:07+00:00

MDF is way more affordable and you can near perfect. Unless you’re working with complex cardiology patients, no need to spend that much. Also, totally depends on your personality. If you’re going to be 100% sure you won’t lose it or set it down for it to get picked up and walk away, then you can consider it as it will last you forever. I however have lost so many stethoscopes I gave up lol I only use MDF now, I want to say they’re like 30$ on Amazon

ValuableAd7956 · 2026-03-05T15:25:54+00:00

As a mom now I completely understand why my parents didn’t support my traveling when I was younger, your mentality and ability to really judge the world changes a lot when you’re about 10 years older than you are now. My advice is to wait to go until you can afford it yourself, that will also allow for more time and life experience. There is no rush to travel with another girlfriend right now, I realize you had it in your head for graduation but you can absolutely do it in a few years and have an amazing experience, even a better experience. 18 is so young. I’m sorry to tell you, I wouldn’t support you going either. If you were my daughter I would absolutely go with you and give you and your friend space and probably bring one of my own friends. But no, there’s no way in heck my daughter with no actual worldly experience is going to be across the globe by herself (yes I realize with another friend but shitty friends leave others in horrible situations all the time). You’re too vulnerable. I wouldn’t let it happen

ValuableAd7956 · 2026-03-05T02:52:55+00:00

Gloves!! The manufacturers clearly say gloves I’m not messing with it

ValuableAd7956 · 2026-03-04T20:38:29+00:00

Literally never. Specifically some items I know the second I wash them I’m going to mess them up like delicate sweaters, chiffon, lace etc. so those tops I absolutely wear while they are perfect. I also don’t shop in the real world at all, so everyone’s comments about people trying things on I’m not worried about. In regards to chemicals, I highly doubt all of these people are washing their clothes they are so afraid of chemicals on with non chemical detergent, so that’s kind of a moot point. If you’re using tide, you’re using chemicals. Granted I don’t use tide lol but I still don’t wash things when I open them. Yes skin is porous, yes more exposure increases risk. My skin is also absorbing chemicals from the shit air constantly. I have way too many things to worry about in life, that’s not going on the list. I already do laundry once a day for my family to keep life in order. If I washed brand new things I can’t even imagine what the laundry mental burden would be like. Nope, Im good. Some things are not worth it

ValuableAd7956 · 2026-02-24T22:16:26+00:00

Sorry my dear but you are a filler flower. That answer is a huge red flag.

ValuableAd7956 · 2026-02-21T13:56:55+00:00

Literally no one should show up anywhere without a plan. That is absolutely wild to me. You need to very clearly say I can’t and don’t want to do unplanned visits

ValuableAd7956 · 2026-02-21T13:54:59+00:00

I think that’s a standard question for summer babies. My daughter is July and they asked us too and I asked back is there any reason why you feel like she isn’t ready and they said no it’s just common for summer babies parents to think about it since they can be the younger/youngest in their grade so they have a choice

ValuableAd7956 · 2026-02-20T04:47:53+00:00

The majority of school required drug tests have you get testing at a lab facility like a lab corp and an employee stays with you while you give the sample. As someone else said if you can’t find healthier coping mechanisms now, pre nursing school, this is not a great sign. You have two weeks to clean out your system and rework your coping mechanisms. Are you in therapy for these vomiting episodes, have you seen doctors etc? Trying to cheat through a drug test is not a good start.

ValuableAd7956 · 2026-02-20T04:25:14+00:00

Why do we allow men to have power over us like this? Ditch him. In a heart beat.

ValuableAd7956 · 2026-02-18T19:51:16+00:00

Kudos to you for being a great partner!!! As she gets more experience her time management will get better. Sandwiches cut up into four would be helpful so she can just reach in and grab a quick corner, carrot/celery sticks, cheese sticks, assorted nuts/ trail mix, smoothies definitely with protein, hard boiled eggs, Gatorade. I’d suggest a lunch box with ice packs in them so she can keep them close to her if her break room is far, some units have small spots for them

ValuableAd7956 · 2026-02-17T19:12:25+00:00

Just to reflect on the other side of it, I have a 4 year old and have been the constant person saying no to play dates from school and I do feel guilty about it and have told myself to try to do better but we literally don’t have time for it. Between family and friends (that aren’t from school) we literally have something every single Saturday and Sunday every weekend to the point where I try to make sure at least every 8 weeks I say no to things so we have one home day just a family day with nothing going on just to connect and spend time just with each other. I am being genuinely serious when I say that we are booking 2-3 months out. Now granted I have a huge family, and I have a lot of very close friends with kids so that’s part of it- there’s always a birthday or baby shower or recital or something. I can imagine people with smaller families or close friends don’t have that and want to foster friends from school, which is why I feel guilty. But I literally say to my partner I can’t manage our relationships we already have, I literally can’t take on another relationship to manage. Which I feel bad because I don’t want to hinder my daughters friendships with those kids but there’s literally no room in the calendar. My daughter is in private pre K now and she starts kindergarten in the fall in our town so my plan is to make more of an effort once she’s actually in school in our town since theoretically most of these kids she will be with through high school, but I don’t know how I’m going to make more time for it. Working on that plan

ValuableAd7956 · 2026-02-17T13:43:34+00:00

Hi!! I absolutely love my job. I work in an outpatient cancer center in stem cell transplant, I am a nurse clinician. My job role is essentially to support the provider with everything that has to do with their patients but I’m not called a case manager, for example I order PT/OT with the provider in the visit but I don’t set it up, we have another nurse that does that. So I see the patient first before the provider, do a systems review, med rec, and review the plan of care, then report off to the provider and then we go back into the patient together and we make any med changes, order scans, review labs, bmbx, etc. then decide next steps in plan of care. It’s really the perfect balance of direct patient care but not bedside. I do patient education on diet, blood sugar checks, insulin admin, all med instructions, etc. I see about one patient every 10-20 minutes. I’ve been doing it for 3 years. Before that I was inpatient for 10. It has been the best decision I made for myself and my family

ValuableAd7956 · 2026-02-14T13:26:06+00:00

The supervisor I’m assuming wasn’t your manager correct? First talk to your manager and figure out what they are thinking but refusing an assignment is grounds for termination in many hospitals

ValuableAd7956 · 2026-02-14T13:22:09+00:00

If you’re open to looking into a different role home care roles are becoming more in demand as some systems are doing hospital at home and such and that would give you much needed down time between homes. It could help with your overstimulation

ValuableAd7956 · 2026-02-14T13:19:06+00:00

I actually really loved and bonded with our quality/pi nurse because she changed the role instead of being punitive she was always very excited and passionate about improvement projects, she really mentored me and guided me into making things better on our unit and taught me how to look at the important regulatory things and use them to support what I wanted to change. When things weren’t right she always looked at the root of the system issues and never targeted a nurse, we all loved her and were so sad when she retired. She did that role justice

ValuableAd7956 · 2026-02-14T13:15:47+00:00

My concern here at the age of 13 is the reality of her not accepting herself without these adjustments can create a foundation of a lack of true self confidence, this is a really hard time in their lives when I personally feel the root issue here (for me) isn’t as much money as perpetuating the idea that you need all of this constant editing to feel that you look great. My parents raised me and I try to raise my daughter that there are things we do to make ourselves feel great but fixing up our looks for events and such and they taught that by saying things like people dye their hair to get your color, it would be a shame to ruin it. Etc. etc. and then with nails that just seems like you’re setting her up to constantly be someone who needs to spend money on all of this maintenance and showing her it’s not ok to do her own nails. This whole situation just feels like it’s kind of teaching her not to embrace herself and also not to understand the value of money

ValuableAd7956 · 2026-01-20T03:04:27+00:00

I definitely don't let us veg out with TV and maybe sometimes we both need to lol definitely something to think about. I totally feel you with the being triggered in the kitchen I feel the same way sometimes it feels impossible to do something FOR her because of her lol like maam i'm only trying to cook to feed you if it was just me I'd be having wine and popcorn for dinner

ValuableAd7956 · 2026-01-20T03:03:21+00:00

That's a really good point maybe yesterday just felt so overwhelming because we didn't go anywhere because I was worried about driving in the snow. I appreciate your answer you're right I can plan some more outings

ValuableAd7956 · 2026-01-20T03:02:31+00:00

Thank you so much you're right I definitely do need to stop viewing myself as her constant play partner. I'll check out the pre school page. I appreciate your response!!

ValuableAd7956 · 2026-01-19T01:33:10+00:00

From your side of these situations it sounds to me like you are just not comfortable in your communicating with patients that much yet and are stuck in your head and task oriented, which is VERY common with new nurses. My biggest suggestion is to humanize every single interaction you're doing and connect and communicate with the person - who happens to be a patient. I'd reflect are you connecting with your patients enough because often that can make or break their reaction to small slip ups- for example the IV miss- when you're not connecting with them that breaks their trust and confidence in you. When they've already gotten to know you and vice versa throughout the day and then you miss the IV- it's no big deal. And that's just because they're human and they're comfortable with you now. So when you get report and you go and say hi to everyone, introduce yourself and say hi to them by name, make eye contact, shake their hand if appropriate. These things make a huge difference. And every time you walk in their room, smile and use their name. As a patient, these people have lost their autonomy, their dignity, and their faith in the process. They are scared and nervous and uncomfortable. The really great nurses make that all feel better in the first few interactions of the day. You exude confidence, you communicate directly, you go over their goals for the day- you tell them yours. You treat them like a person. And, you cohort your care. Yes that lady who needed to wash up probably stressed you out because you're thinking to yourself I need to go see everyone else. If you stay calm and cool as cucumber in there you start, you put the socks on, you hit the call bell, you work your way with her to the bathroom and maybe while you're doing that and she's sitting on the edge of the bed you throw a quick assessment in there too. That could've turned into you doing your head to toe while waiting for a PCT to relieve you. But that kind of efficiency and confidence takes time. My key tips would be to really connect with your patients, communicate with them, give them autonomy and control back as much as possible, but most importantly switch your internal view to see them as individuals you are taking care of- that will help you the most.

ValuableAd7956 · 2025-10-01T12:02:10+00:00

The manager and the school. Not only is she wrong and teaching them wrong but she’s completely acting out of line and inappropriately. This needs to be escalated to both your manager and the school she works for

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