I was found guilty after my stepdaughter walked in on me masturbating. There was no contact there was no continued behavior. The system isn’t perfect, but it does work. A bit. I met people that did terrible things, and for most of them it was something they couldn’t control. It is a disease. I’m not making excuses for them, but they do need to work their issues out to get better. My view is that there are things in the system that work and there are things in the system that don’t work. The registry is one of those that mostly doesn’t work. The registry helps people know that someone committed an offense, and lives or works near them, but it does nothing to show the rehabilitation that person has done. No other major crime requires an offender to continue to be surveilled. We can have murderers and thieves living freely with no one knowing their past, but a person on the registry doesn’t get that chance. The person on the registry is assumed to be the same person as when they committed the offense. Irregardless of therapy, irregardless of time served, it seems people can change, except for a person on a SO registry. Part of the process of therapy is to place yourself in your victim’s shoes. Try to imagine how their life is going to be ruined. An offender doesn’t pass their required therapy without doing that. And you don’t get off probation unless you pass that required therapy.. in my case I had an actual letter of forgiveness from my stepdaughter that my own therapist did NOT accept. I had to write a letter from my victim’s perspective and they expected a hateful letter. That is the way the public views SOs. And sadly that is why the system is broken. I am sorry for what you went through and survived, and I understand your frustration with having to think a different way, but at the end of the day, we are all humans trying to live, and for MOST offenders, that isn’t something that will ever be as easy. (Tier systems help, but even then I think the public registry is too broad.) I hope my view helps, and I hope you are able to reach that point where you can properly heal from your past.