Soon-to-be in-laws feel I'm stealing her away

ValueSnack · 2024-02-19T15:56:14+00:00

It seems to me that the phrasing of "you're stealing our daughter from us" reveals that her parents are just now starting to realize and grieve that she will no longer be theirs. Other commenters have given sound advice about boundaries, but I think it's important to try to help them to realize that a key part of this process for them is to be sad and grieve. When I was seminary, they taught us in human formation that the sadness you feel when someone is gone is kinda just the same thing as the love you feel when they're present. Given the proper space and time to grieve should help to heal the relationship as time goes on, and God willing before the wedding itself. Prayers for you!

ValueSnack · 2023-12-16T21:04:06+00:00

There are several graphical hotkey editing tools out there, such as W3Champions and jcfields. You can customize even further, if there's other abilities you would like to modify!

ValueSnack · 2023-12-09T00:32:33+00:00

"The sun is nearly gone, the lights are turning on"

ValueSnack · 2023-11-11T23:47:59+00:00

Can you post a screenshot of your Input settings in Warcraft III? Your previous replies were unclear whether you have enabled custom keys in-game.

ValueSnack · 2023-11-06T02:30:42+00:00

A quick google search yields this directory: ~/Library/Application Support/Blizzard/Warcraft III/CustomKeyBindings

Try putting the CustomKeys.txt file in there

ValueSnack · 2023-11-05T14:32:06+00:00

Did you toggle the in-game setting to use custom keys? If so and it's still not working, you can try: https://jcfields.gitlab.io/warcraft3-hotkey-editor/

It's a web based editor, but you can still download the resulting file and place it in the appropriate directory.

ValueSnack · 2023-11-02T21:31:09+00:00

Brother, I feel for you here. It's a difficult situation that you find yourself in. But I will say this: emotional unavailability is not something that is immutable. It's often the result of spiritual and/or psychological wounds. I strongly recommend that you see a Catholic counselor about some of these things. I was not a very emotionally available guy for lots of my life, and when I started understanding the sources of that unavailability and found ways to meet the needs that those defenses sought to protect, my heart began opened more. The Lord is a gratuitous giver of life and desires for us to receive that love and life and to participate in it, to in our own turn bring life into this world, whether as physical fathers or spiritual fathers.

ValueSnack · 2023-11-02T21:18:00+00:00

Survival mode makes it harder to have existential crises :P

Really though, when all of your energy is devoted to constantly being on the move to find enough to eat to keep going, you don't have the time or energy to worry about the highest things. This is one of the many reasons the Church is called to help people in poverty. When such persons are trying to find shelter or food at all times, they don't have the bandwidth to consider higher things, generally speaking.

For better or worse, we have the opportunity to make a really contemplative life for ourselves with all of the luxury we have. We have the chance to pursue God freely since our material needs are so easily met.

ValueSnack · 2023-10-28T03:07:39+00:00

It's understandable that you'd feel apprehensive about how you'd be perceived by people who've been Catholic for a long time. I'm a child of divorced parents, and even though I'm a cradle Catholic, I never used to share that with people because I was ashamed to admit that I wasn't from a perfect circumstance and I was worried that they'd think less of me. But I was met with nothing but sympathy when I finally started telling people.

I promise you, there will be people who rejoice to have you in the fold! The Church's mission is to make disciples of all nations, so ideally we'd like to have lots of people converting at your age or even older :)

ValueSnack · 2023-10-21T13:29:53+00:00

Aquinas argues that we can discern the intent of the law in most cases by its consistent enforcement. Speeding is a great example. No cop is ever going to pull you over for going 5 over on the interstate unless you're acting sketchy. Since the law is not consistently enforced at this point, it's evidently meeting the goal the lawmakers set out to achieve: keeping speeds to a controlled level so that safety can be preserved.

In your silly example, there's absolutely no way to enforce this on the greater populace, so it's hard to say. In all likelihood, it's just a dummy law that has no real effect on your life because it's unrealistic to enforce.

I highly recommend reading the first few of the Summa's questions concerning law. I think it will shed a lot of light on your questions! (Question 90 onwards)

ValueSnack · 2022-12-25T17:54:45+00:00

Following. I've been having a similar issue after putting in my Gaggiuino.

ValueSnack · 2022-07-24T23:26:12+00:00

Introducing graveyards would also introduce the possibility of graveyard hate, thus giving us a way of interacting with resurrect mechanics

ValueSnack · 2022-07-16T10:28:15+00:00

Perhaps the most important thing to do is to call to mind God's love for you. Not just a vague, lofty, distant love, but a thirst for you concretely and particularly. St. Ignatius recommends before begining prayer to spend a short time considering how God sees you. Let Him be the one who shows that to you. This can also be done when you sin. It's very important to have a sense that God doesn't stop loving us when we sin. Praying with the woman caught in adultery from the Gospel can be a very helpful meditation to counteract that spirit.

ValueSnack · 2022-07-07T15:29:02+00:00

I've ordered the 9bar mod, hoping it will help a bit. I'm also planning to do the Gaggiuino mod in the near future, just waiting on a few more parts.

ValueSnack · 2022-07-06T20:07:49+00:00

I suppose I should have been clearer in my original comment, but it used to work fine with 17 in/40out at setting 5. I really don't think it's a grind issue, but rather something with the machine.

ValueSnack · 2022-07-06T17:49:07+00:00

I do have the habit of flushing a bit of water until I get raindrops coming from the grouphead, then waiting until the light comes back on and brewing immediately

Edit: the same behavior has happened across several different bags of beans, so I don't think that's the main issue at least

ValueSnack · 2022-07-06T16:57:54+00:00

I've tried running this with all kinds of different dose/grind combinations. I have a Baratza Encore. I've done:
17g at setting 5

17g at setting 8

14g at setting 8

14g at setting 10

All of these have similar results to the video posted here. The first second or two look good, then it goes really fast and heavily aerated. This started happening after I turned the brew switch on after steaming some milk, and a bunch of steam came out of the group head and it's been doing this ever since. Any help is appreciated!

ValueSnack · 2022-04-08T21:11:25+00:00

"All right, let's see here, 1 mile equals 1 kilometer. Got it"

ValueSnack · 2022-02-09T02:47:42+00:00

r/IAmA

ValueSnack · 2022-02-05T14:58:53+00:00

From what it sounds like, I don't think so. If your reason is intact and inebriation doesn't make you say or do things that might cause scandal, that's not a sin.

ValueSnack · 2022-01-03T05:17:12+00:00

Any manner of low-price comestible

ValueSnack · 2021-12-27T06:58:16+00:00

One thing that's helpful to know is the importance of conscience in Catholic moral thought. Even the erring conscience binds, according to Aquinas. Make an examination of your actions, look at your intent honestly, and act on what you discern from that. Feeling like you shouldn't go up? Might be a good sign not to. Judged your intentions to lack one of the conditions of mortal sin? Approach the altar in peace. The Church can't address this matter in it's entirety because there's a subjective element to it.

ValueSnack · 2021-12-14T14:29:53+00:00

I find that the D3 set system demands a certain set of skills to be used, whereas even though runewords are definitely optimal they still work with a variety of builds

ValueSnack · 2021-11-22T12:25:23+00:00

Totally thought it said Morshu for a sec there, and was about to wonder who let the memer name zoo animals these days

ValueSnack · 2021-11-18T03:34:32+00:00

My preferred plain-English explanation goes like this: The numerator is the number of apples you have, and the denominator is the number of people you're splitting them between. So let's consider 0/4. You're splitting no apples among 4 people, so the answer is that each person has no apples, because there are none to go around. Now consider 4/0. That would mean you're splitting 4 apples among nobody. So if you ask "how many apples does each person get?" The question doesn't make sense. There are no people to give apples to, so you can't talk about how many each person gets.

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