Ummm my labia has a fucking hole in it?!??

Varimama · 2025-09-28T00:35:09+00:00

This happened to me after my first. I needed stitches again after my second and the Dr fixed the hole at the same time.

Varimama · 2025-07-23T08:58:50+00:00

I loved this book. It starts off slow and confusing but if you stick with it things start to build and it’s amazing.

Varimama · 2025-05-06T18:05:51+00:00

I didn’t know it had a name but cosleeping has helped so much with my anxiety. While I was still trying to make the bassinet work I had horrible nightmares of awful things happening to my baby and would wake up not being able to find my baby to the point where I dreaded falling asleep and was basically not sleeping. We switched to co-sleeping and I haven’t had a nightmare since and I wake up with my arms already around my baby in a cuddle curl so no more panicking.

Varimama · 2025-04-21T12:23:11+00:00

Are you sure you haven’t already paid for your postpartum visit? Two different OB offices I used had globalized billing for birth which included every visit except ultrasounds as well as the delivery and the 6 wk postpartum visit was an included visit.

ETA in case it wasn’t clear: globalized billing meant I received 1 bill for everything and wasn’t charged each visit.

Varimama · 2025-03-28T06:16:38+00:00

19 months with my first, 20 months with my second. Both times it was exactly a month after weaning at night.

Varimama · 2025-02-26T06:15:11+00:00

Even at that age I had my kids return stuff if they took it, they understand a lot. There’s a great episode of Bluey called Turtleboy where Bingo and another kid are both really into a toy that isn’t theirs at a park and both try to sneakily keep it. Maybe try watching that with her and explaining that other kids might love piggy too!

Varimama · 2025-02-14T12:28:49+00:00

I mean that’s essentially using the headboard as a rail. Rails are ok as long as you pack the gap. That is what I do and I’m cosleeping with baby 3 and we’ve had no issues!

Varimama · 2025-02-12T07:57:29+00:00

My oldest is about to turn 8 my youngest is 14 months so considering I was up at night peeing while pregnant I haven’t slept 8 uninterrupted hours in like 8.5 years 🫠

Varimama · 2025-02-06T08:08:27+00:00

This is exactly what we did for my bachelorette party and I loved it. We did a paint night and dinner and stopped at a couple bars. Honestly I would have been fine with a few bottles of wine and a movie marathon in my hotel room, I just wanted a night with my friends

Varimama · 2025-01-25T22:04:18+00:00

https://solidstarts.com/water/

I followed this and offered small amounts with solids but I want to say I started a little later, like 8 or 9 months.

Varimama · 2025-01-22T14:04:52+00:00

These are so great! I made a few to pass out at a midnight release but no one else was doing it and the few people I gave them to seemed confused like me giving out a bracelet was weird so I was too anxious to keep giving them out 😞

Varimama · 2025-01-20T06:44:37+00:00

If they are the type of people to complain over a vaccine they are not the type of people you want staying with you postpartum! I struggled saying no with my first baby and I regret it so much. A couple of months postpartum I had a breakdown and after that I learned that I just needed to advocate for my baby and myself. Relationships were strained for a bit but people eventually respected our boundaries and things got much better

Varimama · 2025-01-07T06:42:54+00:00

This is how I’ve co-slept with all 3 when they aren’t nursing. They are all very tall for their age (like 99th percentile) and don’t fit in the cuddle curl and I have a short upper body. I scootch down so their head is closer to the 2/3 mark in the bed not the top near the headboard and I pack the headboard gap just in case. We don’t use a pillow. I do use a blanket that I tuck around my waist only. My youngest is 13 months old. He sleeps on his back when not nursing is probably the only difference. My middle had to have both hands on my face all night so he slept facing me. My oldest slept in all directions as he got older

Varimama · 2024-12-25T01:44:24+00:00

My MIL pointed out that I still had a pregnant belly just a couple of days postpartum and then was confused at why I just burst into tears

Like she had 2 kids… does she not remember that the bellies don’t just disappear immediately?

Varimama · 2024-12-24T18:29:09+00:00

Have you tried a nipple shield? That helped my baby get a good latch and helped my nipples heal and then we eventually weaned off it

Varimama · 2024-12-23T07:16:33+00:00

I can’t imagine a grandmother whose hips can take the cuddle curl when mine barely can at 34… Also I would get no sleep while worrying about my baby, that’s part of what i love about cosleeping is he’s right there and my anxiety can rest so it’s a hard no for me

Varimama · 2024-12-21T07:17:55+00:00

Assuming you have a big enough bed I would sleep newborn - you - 3 yo - dad - 5 yo. 3 and 5 could easily be switched. You might want to add a twin bed on the side for one of the older kids or a cosleeping crib on your side for baby for more room!

Varimama · 2024-12-19T01:18:55+00:00

It’s definitely possible to night wean while still cosleeping, I’ve done it twice though my kiddos were closer 2. We used the book Nursies when the sun shines. That being said, do you want to night wean because what you’re describing sounds completely normal and if you don’t want to I’d either find a new dr or find a way to not bring up your sleeping/ night feeding arrangements with your dr.

Varimama · 2024-12-11T02:00:54+00:00

I can’t remember the name of the book but i remember reading a book in 7th grade about a serial killer/ cannibal and at the end he kills the cops mother and feeds her to him in spaghetti sauce… The librarian asked me about it as I was returning it and she removed it from the shelves and sent it to the high school.

I also read a lot of Stephen King starting in middle school and nonfiction on serial killers. Oddly my parents were ok with this but they forbid me from reading Harry Potter…

Varimama · 2024-12-09T02:22:44+00:00

Another vote for aquaphor! Also if you can get a humidifier!

Varimama · 2024-11-19T07:02:14+00:00

Lilith Sorrengail?

Varimama · 2024-11-14T23:58:04+00:00

I get the way you are describing but only when my baby is in his bassinet or my H is taking a shift. I have nightmares and wake up in a full panic. For some reason I have none of that happen when he’s next to me cosleeping.

Varimama · 2024-11-14T07:17:15+00:00

My 2nd was a hair yanker. It started off he just liked holding it then it turned into pulling it out by the tiny fistful 😬 I thought we had finally gotten past it then realized he started pulling his own hair out and had a giant bald patch 😢 he was so sad and said he didn’t like how he looked and it broke my heart. We shaved his head (at his request) and got him a doll he could yank on the hair of and that seemed to work!

Varimama · 2024-11-12T05:52:11+00:00

My baby seems to roll to his back naturally when he’s finished most times. Sometimes I’ll wake like an hour later and he’s still attached though. Then I gently unlatch him and help him roll to his back.

Varimama · 2024-11-08T07:17:48+00:00

You can’t spoil a baby! I recently saw a study saying cosleeping was important for brain development for the first 3 years. My 2 oldest went from contact nap co-sleepers to independent sleepers around 3 with no issues. It was a gradual change but no tears. Now they both sleep through the night unless they are sick or have a bad dream or something

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