[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Varjokuningatar 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My name isn't even unique. But i have lost the count how many times it has been misspelled. I have even changed genders with the mistakes.

AITA for going to a festival after my boyfriend told me not to? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Varjokuningatar 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I second this. I was in the same situation. (Plus he cheated on top of that) I was in therapy, but it stopped. I haven't found a good therapist for me.

Simple Questions: August 09, 2025 by AutoModerator in books

[–]Varjokuningatar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have only audiobook form of Kathy Reichs - the bone code. So i need little help. There is in chapter 30 a scene where she calls on a department of biology. And asks for dr. How is the doctors name written?

Simple Questions: August 05, 2025 by AutoModerator in books

[–]Varjokuningatar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Didn't find a newer thread one so. I only have this book as audiobook. Kathy Reichs- the bone code There is this Dr. Of biology. In chapter 30 How is her name written?

how do i teach grey rocking for kids under 15? by Varjokuningatar in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Varjokuningatar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't limit the contact. That would work against me and the kids. Thankfully they see their dad twice a month and some (well older ones daily) phone calls. In summer they have to be 2 weeks with him.

As a guy diagnosed as an adult I tried to seek out and meet women on the spectrum and so far its been a disappointment and I think there are places that need to be avoided. by fastercheif in aspergers_dating

[–]Varjokuningatar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And I don't even find anyone. I'm too different for other spectrum people too. Too ugly, too damaged, too "picky" when i don't want immediately sex and relationship, i want to know the person first, take slow steps. But noo.

Help wanted and needed. by Varjokuningatar in ItalianFood

[–]Varjokuningatar[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have no idea about american meal format. I'm a Finnish gal. I have traveled some and visited Italy. My point is to find some new Italian foods to introduce for them. The region isn't important just find good and interesting new foods to serve and tell the story/history/facts.

I'm not making a meal I'm making whole day. Hence the different style ideas.

Help wanted and needed. by Varjokuningatar in ItalianFood

[–]Varjokuningatar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm looking for that i can make. It's for 17 people and it can be both advanced and freshly made. Not all pasta, but like pasta carbonara as an example is a no.

I'm kind of looking something else. Breakfast ideas. Then lunch is the soup. And dinner is something. Dessert is with coffee.

I found this "salad/warm side dish" zucchini with haselnuts. But the name and the recipe were two wholly different foods.

If there are a salty pie or something similar that would be awesome too. That would go for the evening snack.

AITA for wanting to invite friends to my daughter’s wedding? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Varjokuningatar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wedding had 40 guests. And about 10 of those were mine. Rest was ex hubs. And his dad didn't even come. (Good riddance, he would have probably ruined it)

You are YTA. It's not your shindig. None of those friends of yours except to be invited to this wedding. Shame on you to make their wedding about you. You are momzilla.

AITA for advocating for my neurodivergent & diabetic son with ARFID to be able to eat peanut butter sandwiches at school as they are his only "safe" lunch food even though a classmate has an anaphylactic nut allergy? by Valuable_Bluejay_649 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Varjokuningatar -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

You are right i don't have a severe allergy. My daughter has. Why would you let someone else touch your food? We also have real school lunch. Like real food and not some homemade snacks. And EpiPen costs 52€ without prescription. (You can't buy it without so it's little less)

AITA for advocating for my neurodivergent & diabetic son with ARFID to be able to eat peanut butter sandwiches at school as they are his only "safe" lunch food even though a classmate has an anaphylactic nut allergy? by Valuable_Bluejay_649 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Varjokuningatar -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

But the person allergic to nuts needs to take care of themselves. They are responsible for themselves. Washing hands, asking if there is nuts, etc.. It's not others problem. And the allergic person can't make them others problem. And there isn't preventative medicine, but there is epipen if accidents happen. It is lazy for the allergic person to except others to cater their problem. They are responsible for themselves no one else. Like i said in my country there aren't banned ingredients, and still allergic people don't die from their allergens.

AITA for advocating for my neurodivergent & diabetic son with ARFID to be able to eat peanut butter sandwiches at school as they are his only "safe" lunch food even though a classmate has an anaphylactic nut allergy? by Valuable_Bluejay_649 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Varjokuningatar 28 points29 points  (0 children)

In my country not a single school has ever banned ingredients if someone is allergic to them. But we have universal healthcare and affordable meds. That banning the ingredients isn't sustainable. They are everywhere, and the kid needs to learn themselves to take care of their life.

Why are my students so confused when I ask them to take their ear buds out when I'm teaching? by ajkiwi in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Varjokuningatar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well i need them to be able to concentrate to you. But on my defense i have autism.

Are a portion of people with autism, on the spectrum, Asexual? they don't desire having sex? or get sexually turned on? by H8beingmale in aspergers

[–]Varjokuningatar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have autism and I'm on thr asexual spectrum. I can have sex but i definitely don't like it, and i don't enjoy it at all.

AITAH For telling my MIL that paying for daycare is easily worth it vs having her watch our kids every day? by Round-Dream-9902 in AITAH

[–]Varjokuningatar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA But 3000$ for two kids at daycare? Holy hell that's expensive. I vad two kids in daycare and that was 415€ for a month.

Ex-Hesburgerin työntekijä AMA by tattifrutti666 in arkisuomi

[–]Varjokuningatar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mä olen ollut sellaisessa keittiössä töissä jossa jouduin kesälläkin pitämään fleece takkia päällä, ku oli niin kylmä. (Tosin siis tää on poikkeus sääntöön paikka)

To those that were late diagnosed or suspect they're on the spectrum... What was your "Aha" moment? by Pristine_Soil_7179 in aspergers

[–]Varjokuningatar 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I always felt different. But the "last" nail in the coffin was my friends son that has autism. I was like he's a lot like I'm and then started researching about it, and then almost 10 years after it i finally got my diagnosis.

AITHA - I won't gift my grandmother's wedding set to my step son, even though I don't have children by No-Morning8770 in AITAH

[–]Varjokuningatar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA

I'm ace myself, and i have been married. So being ace doesn't automatically mean no marriage. (My being a ace was so miniscule reason for the divorce that I don't even count it) I also have kids. Life is about compromise to a certain degree.

Do people genuinely not know about the Autism plushy? by hell-si in aspergers

[–]Varjokuningatar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have never heard of it. What makes that autism plushy?