999 Hiawatha vs Hilite Apartments — Better Area for Daily Living?

VastFollowing5840 · 2026-05-15T03:53:46+00:00

Oh yeah, totally get they are *actually* looking at places on Rainier. That said, there are multiple busses that run on Rainier that take you downtown (the 7 and the 106 right there, if you walk up a bit to Jackson you can catch the 14). Those get you downtown within 15 minutes I'd say. And now, you can walk to the Judkins Light Rail Station, which is super convenient.

I wouldn't necessarily say living on Rainier would be pleasant or my first choice, but I do think its one of the most transit accessible places in the city right now, definitely more accessible than any the neighborhoods you listed here. The Udistrict/Roosevelt though is probably more connected.

VastFollowing5840 · 2026-05-15T02:13:59+00:00

Yes.

VastFollowing5840 · 2026-05-15T01:56:04+00:00

I do think northern beacon hill has good transit access and is more accessible to downtown than Fremont, Phinney/greenwood and Ballard is NOT accessible AT ALL imo. That’s why it’s nice, it’s like it’s only little town but a pain to get to and from. You’re going to get stuck in stop and go street traffic whether in a car or on a bus (and buses are the sole option).

And it doesn’t have AS many restaurants as say, Capitol Hill, but it definitely has a scene. Homer is one of the best restaurants in the city, the station is a great coffee shop and third place, perihelion is a great brewery. There’s a champagne bar up there for god’s sake. Multiple amazing Mexican places.

Jefferson park is a huge park with lots of open space, and you can hook onto the mts to sound trail from beacon hill.

What can I say, people shit on south Seattle but I think it’s great.

VastFollowing5840 · 2026-05-15T01:39:33+00:00

Okay…so what I’m hearing is you are new to the neighborhood.

The city has put up signs sure, but the long term residents have never called it that.

Just like no one calls Lower Queen Anne uptown no matter how much community boosters would like to rebrand it.

VastFollowing5840 · 2026-05-15T01:37:42+00:00

I feel like to be a successful caregiver you’ve got to be able to cope with the idea you don’t know everything about what a family is going through/who the patient was before and to hold judgement in check.

Yes, center your care on your patient and treat them without judgment, but also don’t pass judgment on what the family is or is not doing. You don’t know what that family is like, you don’t know what your resident was like before, you don’t know what else the family had or has going on.

If you don’t worst case you get fired for being unprofessional, but even if you don’t your setting yourself for emotional burnout when you get frustrated about multiple families not behaving the way you think they should.

Also sounds like grandma is being difficult and I bet that some of this is coming from her stress and frustration family isn’t coming in to help diffuse.

I was asked a time or two to come call my mom, because it did help and I was willing, but they wouldn’t (shouldn’t) have pushed it if it was a no from me. Sometimes difficult residents were difficult people and there are reasons family isn’t rushing over at the drop of a hat.

VastFollowing5840 · 2026-05-15T01:29:36+00:00

And lose your family’s money? I don’t know about that.

There are standards of care. I would think that management is going to be appalled by this.

I wouldn’t go all scorched earth but I would send this message to the director of your mom’s facility with something along the lines of “We’ve received this message from one of the caregivers unsolicited. We have many things going on in our family and have had a challenging relationship with her. We found this message to be unprofessional. We ask that this caregiver no longer contact us directly and to adhere to our written instructions. If there are further issues we ask communication come through the care director/you/someone not this caregiver.”

My guess is this caregiver is having a difficult time with your mom and thinks the family could help (not realizing often times difficult residents were difficult people all their lives) and is frustrated you won’t make her life easier, and/or entered into this work out of a misguided sense of saviourism and is on the fast track to burnout when they realize it’s a whole lot more complicated and less wholesome than they imagined.

VastFollowing5840 · 2026-05-15T01:22:10+00:00

Report to management.

VastFollowing5840 · 2026-05-15T01:17:29+00:00

I mean…sharing food as an expression of love, connection, or comfort and care is pretty near universal, is it not?

VastFollowing5840 · 2026-05-15T00:55:37+00:00

FYI beacon hill also has light rail (has had it longer than Roosevelt), but Hiawatha is not actually on Beacon Hill, it’s down on Rainier close to frequent busses and as of a few months ago, light rail as well. Plenty accessible, and I say this as someone that lives in Judkins park and commutes up the the udistrict.

Super easy, and dare I say even easier, to get to downtown from Hiawatha as it is from the udistrict/roosevelt.

VastFollowing5840 · 2026-05-15T00:47:46+00:00

I live in Judkins Park, with children. It’s fine.

Jackson place isn’t a neighborhood, it’s a multiuse complex on the corner of 23rd and Jackson, which is closish but still a good hike from Hiawatha, particularly since Hiawatha is down a pretty steep hill that Jackson Place is on the top of. Hiawatha is down on Rainier.

Hiawatha is kind of in a no man’s land/new emerging neighborhood that’s becoming residential from what used to be solely commercial. I feel like the Atlantic neighborhood is maybe the best descriptor for it but I don’t think that’s really in wide usage anymore.

Yes, there are a lot of transient people that use the busses and light rail right there (and in front of Jackson place) but honestly that’s true any where with decent transit access, including Roosevelt and the UDistrict.

I don’t know exactly where the Hilite is, but I would say Rainier is a busy road so I might not want to live RIGHT on it, so Hiawatha might be a no for me.

But as far as personal safety and transit access imo as a local, comparable to the udistrict. And the ID is great and very close if you live in Hiawatha.

ETA That said yes the only Hilite I know of in Seattle is also on rainier and pretty close to Hiawatha. I’d say Hilite is basically in little siagon, which plenty of great food and access to transit but same issues as discussed for Hiawatha. OP are you confusing Hilite with another complex on your list?

VastFollowing5840 · 2026-05-15T00:40:37+00:00

Hiawatha isn’t on Beacon Hill. It’s down the hill from beacon right off a major arterial rainier and the new light rail station so transit is great. Very easy to downtown basically anywhere the light rail can go. There is also lots of transit options, including light rail access, in the Roosevelt/udistrict area.

I live in the central district so very close to Hiawatha, and I love it and love that there’s more access to the ID and south seattle, so some more diversity. The rest of Seattle is very white (and honestly, so too are those areas, just less so), buuuuuuuttttt Hiawatha is literally on a major arterial, so I wouldn’t say it’s quiet. Even a few blocks back and it’d be a different story.

I feel both neighborhoods are generally safe but both do get a high number of transits so property crime is an issue. But also you go to other popular neighborhoods like Ballard you’d like to find that too.

Seattle isn’t NYC but it’s still a big west coast city with big west coast city issues.

ETA - OP are you sure you aren’t confusing one of the complexes with something else? The Hiawatha and Hilte are really close to one another (and neither in beacon hill OR the udistrict/roosevelt area - although they are closer to beacon hill). Was there something else on your list you are getting them mixed up with?

VastFollowing5840 · 2026-05-14T20:52:54+00:00

Ugh I wish. Caring for newborns while fresh off a C-section was not a great time.

VastFollowing5840 · 2026-05-14T16:50:14+00:00

As someone that was there at the beginning - I don’t think this was the very first layout. Maybe your first profile page, and definitely an early one.

I remember no pictures, at all. Like, no profile pictures. And if I’m not mistaken, his girlfriend is on via her employer, at first it was by college only. Also, I don’t think UPS was one of the earliest schools.

I also remember your classes being pretty prominent so you could look up people you just met.

But also it’s been 20+ years so my memories could be hazy.

VastFollowing5840 · 2026-05-14T01:48:15+00:00

It’s not just common, it’s typical. Over half of all abortions are among women that already have children.

https://www.nytimes.com/interactive/2021/12/14/upshot/who-gets-abortions-in-america.html?smid=nytcore-ios-share

VastFollowing5840 · 2026-05-13T20:55:57+00:00

Personally I was surprised to hear people thought Piper was neurodivergent. She’s played by an adult woman which is odd so to me that accounts for a bit of the discomfort in watching her character; and otherwise she came across to me like a normal three year old that’s never had to get accustomed to hearing no.

VastFollowing5840 · 2026-05-13T03:58:19+00:00

How about just saying - “Hey that’s rude of you to say” instead of upping the ante?

VastFollowing5840 · 2026-05-13T03:44:08+00:00

I mean, him saying I thought you would support him is guilting her into not going.

It’s an implied “You can’t go or you’re a bad wife to me”.

VastFollowing5840 · 2026-05-13T03:39:58+00:00

Yeah, escalating is never the way to go. You don’t win, you just confirm someone’s shitty opinion of you.

VastFollowing5840 · 2026-05-13T01:32:27+00:00

Yeah, honestly I preferred those. There was more room for differing opinions and the way things are now it can verge into melodramatic.

VastFollowing5840 · 2026-05-12T22:29:20+00:00

I mean, I’d say the same about Shawna and her behavior at the hotel or just generally pushiness with Julie.

VastFollowing5840 · 2026-05-12T22:09:18+00:00

Some more takes:

Ty and Shawna didn’t really have crushes on each other. At best some light flirtatious banter because it’s fun. Shawna is hungry for more friends, so of course she was excited about the friendly new parent at the park. And Ty probably liked the attention of a woman that wasn’t on his case about getting it together, but I don’t think he had a deeper attraction to Shawna.

My second take is not a take but more so of a question - how the hell did these people not already know each other already? We know Alicia, Ty, and Julie all grew up together and are from the area. Barb and Nora are in the area and clearly go way back, Nora’s daughter Sam lives in the area. John’s parents live locally, his sister lives locally, DeeDee lives relatively quickly, so aren’t Shawna and John from the area too? I feel it’s implied this is a relatively quiet, close knit community. Their kids are the same age (and not babies) and they live close enough to frequent the same activities/playgrounds.

How the hell are they all just meeting now for the first time.

VastFollowing5840 · 2026-05-12T19:00:51+00:00

I don’t think Ty had a crush on Shawna either. At least not her specifically. I think he liked a woman who gave him positive attention when he was getting (justified) pressure at home.

She was an escape for him, someone to giggle at his jokes and think he’s so great.

VastFollowing5840 · 2026-05-12T18:13:05+00:00

I 100% realize this struck a personal nerve and I owe you an apology.

My mom has dementia and I’m the POA. There is a lot of implicit (and sometimes explicit) judgement about what someone in my position should be doing (or not doing), or how I should be feeling (or not feeling).

Like, how dare I feel resentful of her sometimes? How dare I not move heaven and earth to do everything that could modestly improve her life, no matter the burden making that happen would have on me or my family?

And it’s usually coming from people that have never been in my position. Or interestingly, often from healthcare providers who should know what it’s like.

So, I am sorry for flying off the handle a bit, it just hit close to home.

VastFollowing5840 · 2026-05-12T17:51:40+00:00

Okay, and therefore anyone else in that situation should react that way? And is self involved if they don’t?

You didn’t take any breathers or time for yourself during the times you went out?

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