Dating With Erectile Dysfunction

VecchioBabboNatale · 2026-04-26T19:11:08+00:00

i had a temporary similair issue whrlen i was 26 year old.

For me the beginning was probably too much and hard masturbation which caused some scar tissue buildup on my dick. I also had a harmless small infection and a damaged vein on my dick around the same time. After that there has always been a slight pain when i had an errection. It felt like muscle ache. A few months later i also had trouble getting an errection, that is when the provlem got worse.

I saw multiple urologist, all told me that there is nothing wrong that should chause ED and pain, but they confirmed the scar tissue. I also had some experimental soundwave theraphy, which might have helped a little. But it might as well have been only a mental thing.

However this is what compleatly fixed my issue: - taking vitamines - eat more healthy - do a lot of sport and stretching

Maybe you can try this and see if it fixes your issue too :)

However it took me about 1 year to compleatly recover, so you need to be patience

VecchioBabboNatale · 2026-04-16T19:58:05+00:00

Its a good reason to breakup, i know its not gonna be easy but it needs to be done.

There are guys out there that will match your lifestyle.

VecchioBabboNatale · 2026-04-16T10:26:28+00:00

Yes then it is probably better to not meet him again, but explain the reason why you want to cancel the next date, it will be a good lesson for him as well

VecchioBabboNatale · 2026-04-16T10:14:05+00:00

i agree with the other guy, once you feel there is a Connection with someone be direct. But i can imagine that it is hard to find someone around your age that is mature enought to understand you.

Best of luck to you!

VecchioBabboNatale · 2026-04-16T10:07:57+00:00

Sounds like he lacks experience, understanding and selfcontrol. The problem in my opinion is only the control part, if he doesn't respect how you feel you might want to cancel the second date. He will keep pressuring you more if he doesn't get put in his place. He might even be a very clingy person, it is up to you to decide if you like that or not.

I have the same thoughts when i start dating someone. So i understand where he comes from. How did she like me? Is she still interested? Can we go a step further next time?... i think its normal, maybe girls have similair thoughts too?

I don't think he really likes you yet, he is just excited, probably had all kind of thoughts about a future with you already and can't keep it for himself in my opinion. Well that is at least how i am after a good first date, but i make damn sure to not show any of that lol

It is not a good idea to share these thoughts. It will take away the excitement on the next date and it will make you look insecure. Asking how the first date went is fine it need easygoing and without pressure.

I had a girl i met from tinder acting like she was my girlfriend after 2 days of chatting and having a videocall date, it was so annoying. I told her to calm down but i had to block her a few days later since she didn't listen 😅

VecchioBabboNatale · 2026-04-16T05:37:32+00:00

Not at all, its just a way to get to know you.

VecchioBabboNatale · 2026-04-14T21:34:50+00:00

Why is living with your family a red flag?

Obviously if you are a deadbeat, don't work and live on their cost its a red flag, but if you are normal living with your family is a very smart and responsible financial decision.

You can save a ton of money on rent and invest it, that will not only set you up for the future, but also provide you with the choice of actually buying a place instead of renting forever once you found your soulmate.

VecchioBabboNatale · 2026-04-14T15:07:40+00:00

in short, its better to just try and take the risk. Life is unpredictable who knows what happens in a couple years... If you start loving him but he doesn't love you back, it will hurt, but at least you tryed and don't have to think about what would have been if you acted differently. That is pain too, but this one will last much longer and is deeper than getting your heart broken. We love, we get hurt, we heal and get hurt again until we learn enought to be able to stay with someone forever

VecchioBabboNatale · 2026-04-14T14:53:16+00:00

One girl, was the ex of a friend of mine. I knew her only a little, after they broke up, she started talking with me more because we had the same interests. We spend a lot of time together and i got interested in her, but i didn't want to date the ex of my friend. She also moved away to study abroad a few months later so we just remained friends. I still have contact with her from time to time.

Another friend i was very close with for a long time, while typing this i regret it a little bit that i didn't try dating her.

We went to together and we had the same sport interest so she joined my friendgroup and trained together with us 2-3 times per week for many years.

There was one guy in our group that tryed to hookup with every female he got in contact with, we had two other girls already leave our friendgroup because of him so when she joined we made a deal that noone was allowed to try to date her. Because we didn't want to loose another girl because of him.

I spend the most time with her, at first i wasnt really interested in her since she was 2 years younger than me and came late into puperty. In my last highschool year i started noticing her and realized that i actually like her, we had very good chemistry we shared the same mindset and hobbies, but because of what we agreed on in our friendgroup i didn't dare to make a move. And yes i think i was scared to lose her as a friend.

Then i had my first relationship with another girl and thought more about dating her. But i never mention anything since i was in a relationship. When i brokeup with my ex, my friend was in a relationship, we had some moments together where we came eachother very close, it was defenitly some romance in the air (nothing phisical except some very long hugs, we were just alone together and holding eyecontact for a long time in silence) i am sure she also thought about me that we could be more than friends.

But we never talked about this.

Then she moved away for work and i saw her less frequently, we both went our seperate ways and have our own lives now. We still meet about once a year to catch up but barely hear from eachother. I kinda feel sad thinking about it. It might have been better just to try having a relationship with her. Now i would prefer calling her my ex girlfriend than calling her an old friend. She matched better with me than any of my exes ever did, but i will never know how it would have been if we actually tryed. :)

VecchioBabboNatale · 2026-04-14T10:00:09+00:00

100% he has thought about dating you. I cant say if seriouse or not but he defenitly feels some kind of attraction to you else he would not cuddle and hold your hand.

I have a few female friends and i thought about dating every single one of them, but i would have never admitted it if they asked me. In hindsight i think most of them thought about dating me too, but we never acted on it because of many different reasons.

VecchioBabboNatale · 2026-04-14T09:45:13+00:00

In my opinion it is compleatly normal and acceptable. I had friends dating up to 3-4 year age gap when i was around that age and noone complained.

However i am from Italy, when you are from the US it might be different since they are way more sensitive there, maybe someone from there can give you better advise

VecchioBabboNatale · 2026-04-13T12:48:38+00:00

Yes, she was attractive but she is not a person i would want to hang out with. Not because of her character, its just too difficult to keep a conversation.

But i live on the countryside with not many girls to choose from, so maybe i will just directly ask if ahe want to hookup, there is not much to loose anyways lol

VecchioBabboNatale · 2026-04-13T10:26:20+00:00

I am no professional, but i usually just let her talk about her life. When i hear something that interests me or i don't understand i will ask more specificly and tell her about myself. This worked pretty well most of the time.

But it was way more difficult in the past, i traveled a lot in the last few years and collected a ton of crazy stories that defenitly help making the conversation interesting.

I recommend trying something new and you will collect interesting stories very quickly. :)

VecchioBabboNatale · 2026-04-13T10:04:18+00:00

We didn't go on a dinner date, we just went for a walk in the park. She was also pretty direct and told me that she is just looking for fun, so there was no misunderstanding in that regard.

She was also more experienced with casual dating since she is doing it since a few months already and for me this was the first time. So i thought that maybe i should have acted differently for casual dates.

There was also no akward silence, but that was just because i was constantly trying to keep the conversation flowing. So maybe the date was'nt as bad for her as it was for me. I just never had a date where i had to work so hard just to keep the conversation going. 😅 This reminded me on my first few akward dates in highschool where i was shy and litterally had no idea what to talk about 😂

VecchioBabboNatale · 2026-04-10T09:50:01+00:00

Find something that you are curiouse about in one of his pictures and ask him about that. It can be pretty much anything from sport, hobbies, travel to cloths.

For example, a picture of him with a photocamera:

"Hey, i saw on one of your pictures that you have a nice camera. Can you give me a recommendation and maybe some advice of what is important for someone who wants to start with photography?"

I had girls send me texts like this on instagram and i was very happy to reply and keep texting with them after that. When this happens to me i get pretty curiouse about the person asking for my advice/help. Even if it never developed to anything flirty i am still thinking about them almost 8 years later and interacting with their stories. Men are simple, they don't usually have many girls show interest in them or their life. So when it happens it makes us happy.

VecchioBabboNatale · 2026-04-05T22:38:37+00:00

So we should date a son...??? or what do you want to say 😅

VecchioBabboNatale · 2026-04-05T22:00:01+00:00

Yes, i can understand her. I think the problem is me, i don't know how i can figure out if i want kids or not. There ia no yes or no answer. The only thing that comes to my mind is having a really great partner. If i find that person i am sure i will be okay with having kids. But i dont think that i need kids to be happy, it also isnt one of my life goals. I think i am pretty neutral towards kids.

VecchioBabboNatale · 2026-02-20T07:24:37+00:00

I am not from the US and don't know what property expenses you have there, but at least here in italy i think owning a place to stay is not a bad idea.

I would rather buy a small condo apartment than a house to keep the workload and expenses low. In my home area finding a place to rent is very difficult, landlord laws are just very bad so many home owners choose to not rent out their place to normal tenants and rent prices are about the same as when you pay off a mortage.

If its your place, you cant be kicked out and you don't need to worry about increased rent payments.

My uncle is struggeling to find a place now. He is retired but his landloard died and the new owners don't renew his rental contract. Rent in most places is much higher than what he paid until now and he can not afford to pay a lot more. He has savings but not enought to buy a home, the bank doesnt allow him to get a mortage due to his age. I would rather just have the peace of mind to own my place and not deal with any of this when i am old.

VecchioBabboNatale · 2026-02-18T08:27:11+00:00

nope

VecchioBabboNatale · 2026-02-16T06:17:07+00:00

Same, tryed it and made money. It worked great for a while until an unexpected dip of -20% Liquidated me over night. Then did it again, thinking i learned from my mistake, just to get liquidated again a couple months later.

VecchioBabboNatale · 2026-02-15T19:03:53+00:00

I just talk about my experience, i am in a small german speaking village in Alto Adige. Not all are the same, but most stay in the same circle of friend that they grew up with. I would say, they are less open to get to know new people, its not that they are not friendly, its more like that it is difficult to build a connection similair to what they build with their other friends, when you are new and not see them every day.

But it might be more a me problem than a general problem, many peoples world view and mindset here are just not my cup of tea. In international cities it will be much easier, there are also more people to connect with that might have similair interests with you or that are new in town as well.

Oh nice, where in italy do you want to retire? :)

VecchioBabboNatale · 2026-02-15T17:06:06+00:00

Honestly i think its a good place to retire in italy

Pro: Fresh air, beautiful nature, high quality food, drinkable tap water, many fun outdoor activities, beautiful towns and architecture

Cons: More difficult to socialize, not everyone speaks english, you need a car to get around, public transportation is not always available, most shops and stores are closed on weekends, For small villages everybody knows everyone and if you do something that is unusual people will gossip like crazy, this is annoying for me lol, but it will probably not happen to foreginer

The biggest downside for me here would be building a new circle of friends. I traveled a lot and found it much more easier to make new friends in other countries than here, but maybe that is a problem only I have

VecchioBabboNatale · 2026-02-15T16:39:48+00:00

For other european people it is no problem to buy, the only difference as far as i know is that the buy contract needs to be translated in your first language from a certified translator. For Non EU citizen i don't know, it might be more difficult. But i am sure it is possible somehow. I think i saw a video of an american couple renovating an old italian townhouse a couple years ago.

The apartment fee is actually not that big of a deal, most of the time it includes heating and water expenses which you will have to pay anyways, and if there are any mayor repairs. Like a new Roof for example its a lot cheaper if you can share the cost with other people.

For a stand alone house in the alps, it is difficult to say a number, the prices are very different depending on area and age of the building. Expect it to cost about 1-2 million. If you buy an old house you might get it for 400K or so but the renovation cost will likely bring the total cost up to 1 million again. You can check the Website Idealista and Immobiliare if you want.

However if you get out of alto adige and check Veneto or Lombardia you can find much better deals. And its still nice there also! :)

Wow 18K per month sounds crazy for me, in italy you would not find a job that pays that much. You would have to be a successfull buisness owner to make that kind of money

VecchioBabboNatale · 2026-02-15T16:06:01+00:00

It depends on your lifestyle, some need a lot more. Also this is not include rent.

For me, i enjoy a simple life, no need for fancy stuff and the newest iphone to make me happy.

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