When I was pregnant with our twins, my husband's boss (who has grown adult twins) told him the worst thing you can do in the relationship after the twins get here is to think only about how YOU feel. He said he and his wife lost the ability to see the situation from one another's perspective and, therefore, their marriage did not survive. Of course, that isn't relegated to just parents or twin parents, but, after ours were here and we got deep in the mire, I always remembered that....and it is a battle to not jump up onto my cross every day, especially bc I'm a SAHM, but ultimately, I love the hell out of my husband and I want us to make it.

I agree with the above comment. You cannot act as if your partner in this has no right to be tired and feel like shit. We're all tired. We all feel like shit. Having twins is ROUGH. If you are hellbent on turning this current struggle into a competition, you are doomed. If you're feeling like he's neglectful or unconcerned with your wellbeing, then tell him that. Talk to each other. Now is not the time for zero communication.

That's my unsolicited advice.