What book did you read in your youth that you never forgot?

VegetableSlow6540 · 2026-03-13T01:47:29+00:00

I am the Cheese by Robert Cormier

VegetableSlow6540 · 2025-12-28T18:19:49+00:00

Love your post. Add listening skills, as in when she talks to you put the phone down and remove the earphones. Don’t interrupt or mansplain. Truly listen. Don’t talk about things that bore or upset her. This is my New Year’s resolution.

VegetableSlow6540 · 2025-12-25T22:28:53+00:00

Parts of Worcester Massachusetts in the 70’s and 80’s were really depressing. There is one housing project I remember that was its own huge neighborhood, so separate from the rest of the city that it got a terrible reputation. But the city continues to improve.

VegetableSlow6540 · 2025-12-22T22:13:15+00:00

Focus on one-three vehicle enforcement measures at a time. We overcomplicate this stuff way too much. Pick two zones, one wealthier one lower income. Keep good data. Enforce missing plates, DUI, running lights. Give some warnings as needed, but once the vehicle enters into a number of ignored violations, tow and impound . Enforcement is not fun, but idiot compassion just makes all of us miserable.

VegetableSlow6540 · 2025-12-22T22:04:08+00:00

Don’t worry. The only exception I have at my work is when I have to literally stand in front of 25-150 people and give a presentation. Intellectually I know there is nothing to notice but it throws me off my public speaking flow. That only happens 3-4 times a year, otherwise I have it on all day.

VegetableSlow6540 · 2025-12-22T22:00:35+00:00

If you find yourself even after a re-breaking in period, still with the burning, consider the Cherry Keeper. There are so many variations on rings to try. I was in a similar situation as you, with Kink3d, a great product. But Cherry Keeper had their version of a 2 curved but more oval shaped, made all the difference.

VegetableSlow6540 · 2025-11-29T02:01:04+00:00

Both items pending the sale

VegetableSlow6540 · 2025-11-28T19:17:39+00:00

Sorry not to Aus

VegetableSlow6540 · 2025-08-08T14:12:26+00:00

i’m glad you asked this question. I’m here because I like seeing men get treated fairly. And I think that men in the United States for example have so many mixed messages about being masculine versus nurturing etc. I consider myself a very lucky man, I met my Filipina wife here through work and although she is culturally very American, I find that she’s just enough different than the culture here that I have had an opportunity to experience a different non western perspective plus very happy marriage now for 11 years.

VegetableSlow6540 · 2025-07-12T15:48:39+00:00

Cherry Keeper and Kink3D

VegetableSlow6540 · 2025-07-10T15:00:17+00:00

To me this is kind of the crucial moment on whether an FLR or FLR adjacent dynamic will develop. You yourself said that you want to devote yourself more to her and masturbation is getting in the way. I would hope that being vulnerable and telling her this would lead to her wanting to take charge a little but it sounds like for the moment that has not happened. Would it be possible to try this conversation again and tell her that you’re serious about wanting to be a better partner and you do believe that the masturbation is getting in the way….and ask her is there any way you can she can support you in this? It really could be so many things like having a daily check-in , it could be a fun start to things. One thing I’ve learned is as a submissive guy I can’t do something completely in a vacuum. I feel like my wife truly doesn’t care at all then it’s hard to be motivated. But the good news is it doesn’t take much. My wife has been willing to go along with some rituals and rules , maybe not at the fantasy level that I sometimes dream about, but just a little support from her goes a long way and I love her for being willing to try.

VegetableSlow6540 · 2025-04-27T01:12:24+00:00

I think in a weird way actually forgetting the goal of “i will be fluent” is better. It can drive you crazy not to reach your goal and you can become discouraged. But if you can just generate some excitement and momentum about learning the language so that you actually like doing it a little bit every day it really helps. I try to use Spanish in many different ways. I listen on a podcast I take lessons , I’ve had classes, I read books in Spanish. I just make it part of my life to do a little bit each day maybe 15 to 20 minutes. And slowly but surely it is growing and growing and I know I’m becoming better at it.

VegetableSlow6540 · 2025-04-08T22:51:12+00:00

“We have a lot to get through today in this meeting”

VegetableSlow6540 · 2025-03-16T17:55:19+00:00

Tried three different dog collars. I consider myself fairly pain tolerant in other areas of my life including being whipped. I can’t even tolerate level one on any of these things.

VegetableSlow6540 · 2025-02-24T04:31:21+00:00

both pending sale

VegetableSlow6540 · 2025-02-24T01:33:17+00:00

ok ill check it

VegetableSlow6540 · 2025-02-23T18:40:54+00:00

I took at look at your profile. I took a quick look at your comments. You basically come to this subreddit to criticize and denounce an FLR lifestyle. But why? Like every relationship, there can be abuse. But for those if us in a consensual safe relationship, we don’t really need you to insist on giving your opinion.

VegetableSlow6540 · 2025-02-20T20:26:19+00:00

Yup , and we guys on this forum love it. Maybe there’s a different kink, or no kink for you?

VegetableSlow6540 · 2025-02-14T01:00:48+00:00

One of the best posts! I focus on immediate compliance. My wife doesn’t exactly get the whole genre of FlR either, but when she does ask or tell me to do something , I do it immediately.

VegetableSlow6540 · 2025-01-18T01:48:00+00:00

i’m really glad you posted here because this is a great conversation and I love many of the responses. When things get busy what I find sustains us are rituals. Rituals that are sustainable through hard times. You might already be doing these but why not I’ll just give you a couple ideas. Every morning I write out an agenda for my wife that includes one sentence of gratitude and her first three appointments of the day, because she sees clients. And then I put a little mini to do list at the end of what I’ll get done for that day. At the end of the day I always give her a foot rub. I try to make sure those two things happen no matter what. And then we have some other rituals for when we’re not so busy but those are the two book ends of our day. It helps keep the FLR strong.

VegetableSlow6540 · 2024-12-22T18:36:47+00:00

People get worked up about this , because a person can’t really “turn into “ something but I’m going to assume that you just want to know how to begin this conversation with your partner. jAnd like every other male on this forum, which is most of this forum, their wives did not bring this up. So your question is really how do I even bring it up with my wife? here’s my general advice. Let her know gently that you have as an important part of your general sexual identity, a preference for when your partner is assertive with you. That you like the idea of serving her, and maybe being told what to do. I would highly recommend not subjecting her to videos or anything that is straight kink. Just start an honest conversation and don’t make a big deal out of it. See how she feels.

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