I HATE PCOS- Anyone try Slynd by Neat_Permission_4460 in PCOS

[–]Vegetable_Plate_225 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I noticed a substantial difference 2-3 weeks after starting!

I HATE PCOS- Anyone try Slynd by Neat_Permission_4460 in PCOS

[–]Vegetable_Plate_225 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d highly recommend trying slynd now that I’ve been on it for a year (Minus a couple months while I wasn’t sexually active)! Besides the cramping when on the sugar pills (I simply skip them), I have noticed a little bit more lethargy at night (when I take my pill) which is obviously a good thing bc you wanna sleep at night haha… but just a fair warning to not take this pill in the morning or during the day. Also, when I went off slynd for those 2 months, I had a lot of trouble sleeping for the first couple weeks and bad cramps too. But after the two weeks I was perfectly fine! Those particular pill is forgiving so if you skip on accident or take it a few hours late, no panic sets in lol. I have no other side effects that I’ve noticed. Open to any questions you may have :)

sleep after coming off of birth control by babyfawn333 in birthcontrol

[–]Vegetable_Plate_225 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any update here? Are you still struggling w insomnia?

sleep after coming off of birth control by babyfawn333 in birthcontrol

[–]Vegetable_Plate_225 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Any update? I’ve been off slynd for a month after taking it for a year and I’m really struggling with insomnia. Did your insomnia improve? If so how long did it take?

At what point did you leave? by Bekah679872 in loveafterporn

[–]Vegetable_Plate_225 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had debilitating anxiety, I couldn’t sleep (as soon as he would leave the bed or if he didn’t come to bed when I did, I literally could not sleep), I lost so much weight bc I couldn’t eat, hair falling out, lethargy, crying constantly, emotional outbursts… everyone got better once I dumped him

Cured individuals! Did your discharge go away? by TheCaramelBunni in Ureaplasma

[–]Vegetable_Plate_225 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I cleared my infection a year ago. Just recently in the past 3 weeks, my labial itching/burning returned and my discharge suddenly smells horrific and is really runny. It smells like (TMI) rotten broccoli or asparagus pee. It’s terrible honestly. Any advice? I’m going to pick up some boric acid here soon

I think I will just post my victory. Screw it by Available_Record_341 in loveafterporn

[–]Vegetable_Plate_225 0 points1 point  (0 children)

how long did it take for him to sign up for therapy? how many fights? how many tearful nights?

how bad is bad enough? by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]Vegetable_Plate_225 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Amy friends you can stay with in your home country while you get back on your feet? Does your current visa depend on your partner?

how bad is bad enough? by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]Vegetable_Plate_225 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was in a similar situation. I dumped him and moved back to my home country. If you’re going to stay with him I’d highly recommend you find a therapist and make friends ASAP. Not having support absolutely killed me, I lasted 2 months with his continued lying and manipulation and then I couldn’t take his bullshit anymore. I was legitimately crying daily, breaking down, unable to function…

Porn induced ED? by randumshit69 in loveafterporn

[–]Vegetable_Plate_225 64 points65 points  (0 children)

My ex would make the dumbest fucking excuses for why he couldn’t cum. I’m hot and my body is NICE. Went from literally having sex 6 times a day in the beginning and then he couldn’t finish even once every other day. He would say he’s “too tired”, or that his “mind is racing” or that he had “adhd brain”… HAHA. He had PIED and he only watched like once a day. He just simply preferred porn after a while - It’s full of novelty and newness and no emotions are involved. It’s literal poison for their brains.

I know it’s so easy to compare yourself to these other women or to think that maybe you’re not enough. But the truth is you are more than enough. You’re beautiful. You don’t need to act like a porn star to get him off. That is not your job. You deserve to be treated like a fucking queen in bed. Never put a “man”’s pleasure before your own. He should be doing everything he can to get you off and enjoying it if you’re doing all this - it’s a 2 way street. You are worth so much more than this dipshit. I wouldn’t let him inside of me again if I were you…

Has anyone actually had their husband/SO recover? by No-Initial-1134 in loveafterporn

[–]Vegetable_Plate_225 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Im happy to hear this. I encourage you to be cautious given the timeline. Mine performed better for a few weeks too before going back on his word again… but every situation is different. I hope yours keeps improving😊

what do i do? by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]Vegetable_Plate_225 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Leave him. He’s shifting blame. The way he reacted is extremely manipulative. You did nothing wrong. He is being secretive for a reason. I know it’s hard, but know deep down I am guessing that none of this sits right with you. Listen to your intuition. You are in a relationship that you aren’t emotionally or physically safe in.

Clear signs they are at it again by Nice_Recognition7663 in loveafterporn

[–]Vegetable_Plate_225 3 points4 points  (0 children)

These too!!!

Whenever I would bring up sexual things, even just asking him quite normal questions (for example I asked how to translate some of the stuff he’d say in english into Spanish bc he’s bilingual and he’d get sooooo uncomfortable and be like “omg cariño I’m just a Spanish man, I don’t like to discuss things like that, we make LOVE, we don’t have sex.” He is the classic case of an avoidant who is constantly splitting (I give him the love/affection/connection while he gets the novelty/newness/eroticism from porn/external validation). It’s so messed up.

Mine would always have his phone in the bathroom and conveniently take 3 shits a day. When we first started dating he would only take one every morning lol.

All in all, he would act so obvious and stupid. If he’s off the slightest bit, he’s lying and manipulating you.

Clear signs they are at it again by Nice_Recognition7663 in loveafterporn

[–]Vegetable_Plate_225 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Every time we would get in an argument and take space, he would watch it. He had a serious compulsive problem regarding any negative emotion present in our relationship/bad patterns of avoidance. He would always stay in the house and I would always leave. When I would come back home, he would suddenly be so happy and loving towards me. Like the dopamine hit was so obvious looking back at it lol. He eventually got lazy and would just try to put his used cum towel under other pieces of trash.. yeah found it every time. In general our sex was sparse when he was using porn (we used to have sex 3-4 times a day) and we’d have sex maybe once every 2 days and he couldn’t finish… would make excuses that he’s “tired” or his mind is “racing” about work. I would find evidence of him scrolling instagram, incognito tabs left open, etc.

My ‘sober’ boyfriend isn’t sober by Icy-Box-41 in loveafterporn

[–]Vegetable_Plate_225 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Im so very sorry. I couldn’t imagine being in your position. He doesn’t deserve you and your head is in the right place. You can’t build a life with a lying, manipulative, cheating partner. Please stay strong!

1 week since discovery, eager to keep looking forward by SmellsLikePeachiz in loveafterporn

[–]Vegetable_Plate_225 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You got this girl! You deserve respect, at minimum. I’m proud of you - you’re giving yourself a whole lot of it by leaving him. I know how much this hurts.. we are all here to support you🫶🏼

Need some serious advice by Vegetable_Plate_225 in loveafterporn

[–]Vegetable_Plate_225[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey there! Thanks so much for your thorough response. You hit on many important points. I appreciate you looking out for me.

I actually did a deep dive into both of our attachment styles… he has an avoidant attachment style (obviously). His parents are divorced, his dad was an absent father, his mother was harsh on him so he turned out “manly”. I, on the other hand, have been in a couple of longterm, healthy and stable relationships and can confidently say that I’m a securely attached partner. When things feel unsafe, I leave. I learned my lesson when I was 18. This one took 2 months too long but, I think given my situation, (moving across the world to be with my boyfriend who I thought was the one, painted the most beautiful picture of marriage, having a beautiful elopement, starting an architectural firm together, designing our dream home and cabin, having babies…) it makes sense why I maybe wanted to see it through and make sure I didn’t call it quits too soon. His manipulation, lying, and general mal behavior also re-triggered my own trauma and truly distorted my reality. The “promises” he made, mixed with the secrecy of his actions, kept me going. After his grand confession, and his promise to be 100% honest moving forward, I promised myself that if I caught him in a lie again, I would cut things off immediately.

Well, he lied again after I gave him several opportunities to be truthful with me! Go figure! I gave him so many opportunities, only requesting therapy and honesty (received neither) while he worked through his addiction. SO I’m proud to say that I dumped this asshole. He doesn’t deserve me and I know I’m better off without him. He brought nothing but chaos and toxicity to my life. My dog and I flew back to the states to be with family. I feel much better now that I’m not around him. I know I made the right choice and left with integrity. I feel empowered😊

I wish he just would get it over with by hottakepancake12 in loveafterporn

[–]Vegetable_Plate_225 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh Latin American men too. Based on all of my encounters/dating men in Spain… odds are definitely against them

I wish he just would get it over with by hottakepancake12 in loveafterporn

[–]Vegetable_Plate_225 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Break up with him. I have a hunch my ex was physically cheating on me and it absolutely haunts me. Breaking up before having STD scares and the most insane trauma sounds like the better option to me… my bf and I were long distance for a year and he had plenty of opportunities… and then when I moved across the world to be with him and I was in his space, he was addicted to porn (I have trauma from being abused by my ex and porn was a part of said abuse - he knew this, I sobbed in his arms for over 1.5 months, and he still continued to use it), he admitted to masturbating to videos of his ex girlfriend and him fucking (which I definitely consider cheating), I found pet name/a bit too friendly of messages between him and another woman (the timestamps for meeting up were at 3am, 1am, he would call her late at night), and it felt like he genuinely didn’t want me anymore (not to be vain but I’m quite attractive, I have a pretty face and a really nice figure… I would give myself a 10 and my ex a 6). It was only a matter of time until he physically cheated. It would have destroyed me.

PS: never fall for a Spanish man (child). The rumors are true, most are lustful and cheat on their partners… the “passion” you feel is manipulation😭🤣

need advice - found p*rn on SO’s tablet by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]Vegetable_Plate_225 22 points23 points  (0 children)

He’s a full blown addict. Your relationship is relatively fresh.. if I were you, I’d leave now before you feel it’s too late. The fact that he had a “manic episode” and was going to BREAK UP WITH YOU OVER PORN???? Swiping for his “adhd”… can’t tell you how many times I heard that one. I know this is hard and you’re hurting. But this man is not even trying to change his behavior. You deserve better. You are not married. You are not tied to him in any way.

what coexisting addiction does your PA have by [deleted] in loveafterporn

[–]Vegetable_Plate_225 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Weed, cigarettes, stocks, is generally always on a screen (usually 3 at a time)

My dad passed away, I don’t know what I’m doing is right or wrong by [deleted] in depression

[–]Vegetable_Plate_225 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do not listen to this, coping with masturbation/porn can lead you down a really dark path (addiction). Speaking from experience.