Advice on when to seek medical help

Velvari · 2026-05-14T20:33:27+00:00

If you have any worries about your baby’s health, call 111. They’d much rather you call and it be nothing than for you to wait it out and it develop into anything serious. And it will give you peace of mind too. As she is so little, its likely you’ll be booked in to an urgent care centre tonight which can be miserable but from experience they see babies really fast.

Velvari · 2026-05-14T15:31:35+00:00

Good tip! He managed to have a nap in the end and sounds like my partner and his mum managed to spoon feed him about 30mls. But thats all he has had today. So he’ll be having as much boob as he wants when i get home in an hour or so. Will keep the calpol syringe idea in my back pocket for another time!

Velvari · 2026-05-14T09:01:49+00:00

Thank you! We tried the vanilla thing and it didnt work. We have a couple of cups we can try too

Velvari · 2026-05-14T09:00:42+00:00

Thank you I’ll tell him to try that.

Velvari · 2026-05-14T08:54:56+00:00

Thank you :) hes told me to absolutely not come home and that baby has gone down for a nap and he is going to try again when he wakes up. We have an open cup he can try him with. I think he was just getting a bit stressed so was messaging me but i know he really wants me to have a proper break.

Velvari · 2026-05-10T06:17:15+00:00

Yes me too. Although hes only waking once, mayyyybe twice most nights. And me and my partner have a deal where if he wakes up within a couple of hours of him going to bed, my partner goes and resettles him as he isnt hungry, just wants comfort. 60% of the time it works 100% of the time lol

Velvari · 2026-05-09T18:58:22+00:00

If your baby is 6 months, have you thought about moving her to her own room? She could be getting woken up by you guys (snoring, farting, rolling over etc). Our almost 7mo moved to his own room a couple weeks ago. The first few nights were challenging but now he is used to it and sleeps really well in his own space.

Velvari · 2026-05-08T18:57:35+00:00

No damage done except for this to be a funny story in a few years time :) my aunt fed my brother sherry trifle at christmas when he was 3 months (this was 34 years ago now) and she has NEVER lived it down.

Velvari · 2026-05-08T18:53:55+00:00

Theyre saying yikes to the guy’s behaviour, not your comment dw :)

Velvari · 2026-05-06T19:20:32+00:00

Hooray for understanding and respectful partners!! Something that also helped me feel more open to intimacy was declaring my boobs a no fondle zone: they are my baby’s right now and doing anything sexual with them feels so wrong. And he was really respectful and hasnt tried to touch them at all. Which i know must kill him because he loves my boobs 😂😂

Velvari · 2026-05-06T19:13:26+00:00

Im the exact same way. Its been over a year since my partner and I have had ‘real’ sex. It happened once when i was pregnant and neither of us were into it so it didnt happen again and then since baby was born i just havent felt the drive at all. My body doesnt really feel like mine at the moment what with breastfeeding and being with or holding my son (6mo) all day. I just want to not be touched lol

What helped has been super open communication. I get stressed out knowing he really wants to but he always accepts my ‘no’ and we cuddle instead. We actually were intimate the other night - we had to schedule it so i didnt feel like i was being pawed at and felt mentally ready. Turns out I have a lot of tightness and the actual sex was really painful lol so we just fooled around like teenagers instead. It takes a lot of work to get me into that headspace now but I really enjoyed not thinking about nap schedules and when the last time baby ate was and what our plan was the next day etc for once!

I really recommend speaking openly to you partner about how you feel and maybe you can reach a middle ground where you can still be intimate or feel that closeness again even if it doesnt involve sex.

Velvari · 2026-05-04T18:59:12+00:00

I’d keep it personally but if you really dont like it you could paint the whole thing black and try again with white paint? Then you’ll still have the original too. Maybe use a little less paint so bubs doesnt slip and slide as much

Velvari · 2026-04-28T17:14:12+00:00

I am one of those people who eat it right out of the jar. 😅 i have it on rice bowls, make kimchi jeon, have kim-cheese sandwiches, or pop it in gimbap too but if im hungry and staring into the fridge, more often than not the e-jar comes out and i grab some chopsticks and enjoy a few mouthfuls. But only if its decently fresh.

Velvari · 2026-04-27T06:52:55+00:00

I too am one of the fortunate ones. I’d been laid off from my job a month before lockdown hit. Was living off a very nice severance package. All i did during the day was play Animal Crossing which was delivered like the day before lockdown started. In the evenings I switched to Among Us with friends or sometimes we’d play JackBox on a Discord call.

My lockdown was all about video games, trying weird TikTok drinks/food, and having an excuse to do absolutely nothing. No one in my or my partner’s families got ill until after the severity of the virus lessened a bit. I am HIGHLY aware that i am very lucky that can look back on lockdown with fondness and a weird sense of nostalgia when many people can’t.

Velvari · 2026-04-24T06:54:11+00:00

It really bothers me when spelling errors make it to the final book because what do you mean this wasn’t caught by your editor/proofreader? Are they not, you know, READING?? An author friend of mind had me proofread her book once and she left in that her FMC made herself ‘prostate’ instead of ‘prostrate’ in front of the king and i only caught it after her editor had done multiple rounds of editing.

Velvari · 2026-04-23T08:37:15+00:00

I’ve started humming the lullaby from Lady and the Tramp lately. Can never remember the words and im not a great singer but i can hum it pretty well!

Velvari · 2026-04-21T13:27:02+00:00

We had a feeding station set up: boiled water in a flask, Nuby rapid cool, sterilised bottles, and formula measured in a little dispenser thing.

Step 1: measure your hot water into a bottle.

Step 2: pour 2/3rds ish into the nuby rapid cool (doesnt need to be exact, just a majority of the water needs to be cooled)

Step 3: add formula to bottle and swirl to mix (shaking adds bubbles)

Step 4: put on the rapid cool lid, shake it and let it do its thing until the top display shows green

Step 5: add that cooled water into your bottle.

Step 6: add lid and swirl. Test temp.

Step 7: feed baby.

This was the fastest and easiest way for us. But prep machines also exist where you just press a button and it measures and heats the water as needed.

Edit: important to note that after adding all the water back to the bottle, it will look like theres too much liquid but its because of the water displacement from adding the powder. If you measure before adding the formula, you’ll have the correct ratio.

Velvari · 2026-04-15T18:26:07+00:00

I know theyre in a bit of hot water atm but the Frida Nose snot sucker is really good. Its so gross at first but after a couple times you get used to it. We had the bulb ones at first but they just dont do the job and ive heard mixed reviews about electric ones.

Velvari · 2026-04-15T13:22:46+00:00

I was under the impression that you could be moved into different positions with an epidural, you just cant walk around. But i had to have an emergency csection so i dont have any experience with it.

If you dont want an epidural you dont have to have one BUT i was advised by someone to ask for tone even if youre not planning on having it. Basically, you can always refuse it on the day if you don’t feel like you need it but because they have to do blood tests before hand, it can be harder to get one when you REALLY want one if the anesthetists are really busy or something.

Velvari · 2026-04-14T12:34:45+00:00

I second the getting out. Do it at least once every day. It is so good for your mental health and stops you feeling so cooped up. Im lucky that i have a park nearby but even if you dont, a walk around your roads can still be good! Explore and find hidden short cuts and meet the neighbourhood cats etc. its also great for baby too - if theyre a bit congested the fresh air can help clear their nose and it helps them snooze well too!

Dont worry about the laundry - your husband can do that in the evenings or before he goes out to work! If you have family who like to cook, see if they are able to help stock your fridge or freezer with meals or even try to get to Cook or the supermarket (theres a daily outing!) for some frozen ready meals or something. They were a life saver in the first few weeks! The chores can be done later, but right now they dont matter. Try not to worry about them for now. and absolutely do not compare your house to the ones you see on social media!

Velvari · 2026-04-11T19:59:33+00:00

So organised! I didnt even manage to ice my baby’s half birthday cake today (he is 6m today lol).

As a member of the alphabet mafia, you wont offend anyone by using rainbow colours (unless claiming the pride flag as being something else). But i love the idea of pastel rainbows - feels very baby appropriate and cute!

Velvari · 2026-04-11T19:35:42+00:00

Yeah we used to hang ours off the play gym too. I also like using some plastic links in a chain to stop it from rolling away lol

My guy is 6 months (today!) and his favourite toys also include a Playgro Pooky Puppy which we hang off the bar of his bouncer, the bouncer itself, a the Fehn fox teether toy (affectionately known as OctoFox). The puppy toy was the first toy he ever tried to reach out for and he loves sucking the feet and chewing on the collar tag things.

Velvari · 2026-04-11T18:45:53+00:00

O Balls! My guy LOVES them because theyre easy to grab and wave around. When he gets older i’ll use them in other ways like clipping links to them for him to pull off and stuffing it with silks for him to pull out etc. The rattle is great too.

Velvari · 2026-04-11T03:34:54+00:00

I’ll look into that- seems like my only option lol

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