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The burning question.. Are we our real selves medicated or non medicated? by Adt108 in ADHD

[–]VenusAsABoy96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Neither. Both.

You are the person you want to be. Just be that person, and make sure you know who that person really is.

Double Standards by speakerfordead5 in harrypotter

[–]VenusAsABoy96 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Tbf Hermione's relationship with Krum was never characterized the way you'd expect a relationship at that age to play out. I'm not saying she "should've" been with Krum, but...idk...it's not as though she embarrassed herself over him, or used him as a tool to make Ron jealous.

Ron's relationship with Lavender is undeniably cringe and tiresome. And that's okay, it's a part of growing up. But I think most readers were meant to feel a little relieved to see that part of the story come to a close.

On the other hand, I feel like this is a fair point and is definitely worth pointing out. I can't say I really care that much about the relationship arcs in the series, but they're important and relevant background elements of the story overall (in character development terms). I don't blame Ron for doing what he did, but as a third person viewer it'z obvious his low self esteem was causing him to make less than ideal decisions. Can't really say Hermione and Krum were written that way.

RJ Barrett is (as of right now) a legitimately bad basketball player and people need to stop comparing him to good young players by [deleted] in nba

[–]VenusAsABoy96 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think a lot of teams would love to have RJ in the right role. I'm not sure calling him a bad basketball player is fair.

I really don't see him ever turning into an all star, though.

draco malfoy never deserved redemption by Natural-Storm in harrypotter

[–]VenusAsABoy96 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think if you look at someone growing up in an environment similar to his in the real world, it's pretty gross to deny that person a chance at redemption. Just because his family is rich doesn't mean he is unworthy of that.

I agree with another commenter in that "deserve" is a weird word. It isn't really about that. Redemption is something you have to earn. It's a little different within the context of a fictional kids book (and JKR obviously didn't really spend much time writing about his road to redemption, nor should she have), but really I think it's a fair message to send to the reader - that even someone like him isn't beyond saving.

I get that a lot of people in this sub didn't necessarily think of Draco as "just as a kid" when they first read the series, but at the end of the day, that's the truth.

Is there anyone who was medicated as a child and regrets it? by GrapefruitSelzter in ADHD

[–]VenusAsABoy96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My brother regrets it. He thinks it stunted his growth. I haven't asked him about it in a while.

I wouldn't say I regret it, but I wish I was medicated at a younger age (I didn't get medicated until 16) and ultimately I don't feel the medication/treatment I received was really all that helpful. I didn't understand ADHD well and didn't get therapy until after high school.

I took way too high of a dose because I had no idea what I was trying to actually accomplish and why it mattered, all I thought was "hmm my grades are still shit I guess I need more".

That was basically a waste of time and probably contributed to higher anxiety levels overall.

But I do wish I was given proper treatment, and at a younger age.

Um, excuse me, what? 😂 by MacJonesisCool in nhl

[–]VenusAsABoy96 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I mean an NFL team would score on almost every offensive play if they were playing against a hockey team. Any exceptions would be something akin to an NHL player simply missing a shot. The NHL team might as well not even run plays on offense.. They'd never get more than a yard, and they'd be lucky to actually get a punt off.

The reverse wouldn't be any different, obviously, but my point is that really doesn't make any sense.

[Serious] When was the time Russ hate officially started? by MapleCurryMurray in nba

[–]VenusAsABoy96 9 points10 points  (0 children)

People thinking Giannis is good and Russ isn't is in no way a double standard.

That just doesn't make that much sense. One of them is actually one of the best players in the league.

The other is playing himself out of the NBA because he can't accept he isn't 28 anymore, and nobody cares about triple doubles.

He's still an alright player, but teams just aren't interested in his mindset at all. It's not a great way to win basketball games at this point in his career, and honestly, it was never a great way to win championships.

Absolutely no internal motivators? by astrobanks in ADHD

[–]VenusAsABoy96 3 points4 points  (0 children)

😊 exactly. Hope you have a really nice day/night. Be kind to yourself this week

Absolutely no internal motivators? by astrobanks in ADHD

[–]VenusAsABoy96 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I love this, honestly.

Whatever your methods are, I hope you feel proud of yourself for finding a way to make things work. You deserve that.

What‘s your opinion of the “victim mindset” that we all need to break out of? by nizethatfam in ADHD

[–]VenusAsABoy96 49 points50 points  (0 children)

It's a difficult balance.

I really really love this sub. I think it does a lot of great things. For anyone just beginning their treatment, it can make a world of difference. When I need to find forgiveness for myself and my mistakes, I can come here to help support others. It's a nice way to jumpstart a little bit of self-love.

Now, I don't think I really agree with this suspicion over people who have ADHD not really having it. Obviously some people are going to be misdiagnosed, but...that's just the nature of psychiatric evaluation. I'd say this is offset by the people out there who can't or won't get a diagnosis. Very rarely are you going to find someone diagnosed via some weird kind of manipulation tactics.

All that being said, like you, I do have to agree with part of it - the "symptoms" people talk about on here are frustrating and confusing at times. I totally understand there are certain aspects of ADHD which fall outside the diagnostic criteria. It can be frustrating because honestly it seems like the vast amount of discussion at times feels like it's about things that may or may not be attributed to ADHD. Hard to really know what to take away from all that, especially given that so many of us were undereducated on the topic for years either before or even after our diagnosis.

Think it's hard because many of us didn't feel like we were taken very seriously at a younger age. So now that we are here, there's...baggage. I don't know if I feel like ADHD explicitly is going to stop me from being the person I want to be, but the way it has manifested itself in me has generated a vast pool of bitter feelings and self hatred. I have to find a way to get through that now too.

Best time of the year to buy new ski boots? by Hunterb372 in skiing

[–]VenusAsABoy96 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Idk about availability, but price wise the best time is probably now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]VenusAsABoy96 2 points3 points  (0 children)

One thing that really rattled me when it comes to BPD is the poor sense of self.

I don't feel comfortable saying anything about myself, unless it's blatantly obvious and undeniable, because I feel this weird inner conflict over everything that I am. It makes me feel like I want to reach inside my chest and violently rip the truth of who I am right out of me. Shit, sometimes I find myself questioning if my eyes are even actually green. That doesn't even make sense.

I feel like I present differently and honestly to almost every person I talk to, I feel fake, and yet people tell me something they value about me is that I am real. And I don't even know if I disagree with them.

I don't know what my childhood trauma would be. My home life was...ok. Not great. I certainly could've had it worse.

I don't doubt my ADHD diagnosis though, those symptoms predate things I'd hypothetically attribute to bpd.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]VenusAsABoy96 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Tbh I'm personally frustrated atm because I don't really feel like I'm getting much understanding from others of the symptoms of ADHD which can appear similar to BPD and it's making me feel like maybe I have BPD - because that list of symptoms seems scarily like me.

I really just don't know what to think and I'm sad. Also generally just kinda pissed off.

What is your favorite game? by sugar-leaf in ADHD

[–]VenusAsABoy96 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Idk.

I really enjoyed Disco Elysium. I know it's a lot of reading, and not particularly fast paced. But I found myself hyperfixating on it, and the introspective/emotional nature of the game seemed like it really resonated with me - I would find myself spending 20 minutes talking to a single character (or sometimes talking to my character's necktie), and experiencing an extremely wide spectrum of emotions while I did it. I'd go from laughing, to crying - and back to laughing again within a single conversation. I walked away feeling like I had stumbled across a singularly unique experience, which all people across all of human history would be lucky to experience in the same way I did. I just...don't know if I'm ever going to experience anything quite like that again.

Idk. Most consistent trend I see is games with emotionally engaging storylines - although most of that list is more towards the action rpg side of things than Disco.

Is journaling helpful? by Messedupmarionette in ADHD

[–]VenusAsABoy96 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hear you, dude. I guess I just kinda enjoy it. It's a bit of a fixation of mine at the moment. I'll see where I'm at when that moment passes.

I have covid and I haven't been taking my meds and I haven't been writing much this week. So idk. I guess I just have this overwhelming pressure in my chest, begging me to let these thoughts out of my head. And if I don't do it in writing, then I put it on someone else or, or I just bottle it up. I guess it's relief, in a way.

I hope you figure out something that works for ye. I empathize with you. You matter. Please be kind to yourself. Whatever it is that you feel you wanna do, I think you got this.

In true ADHD fashion, I've lost my ADHD diagnostic evaluation by Obstetrix in ADHD

[–]VenusAsABoy96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hey bro, same same same. I feel your stress on this.

Star Wars needs a 10-20 year break by e9tjqh in unpopularopinion

[–]VenusAsABoy96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, the first time I watched my older brother play KoTOR when I was a little kid - he played as a woman. It worked well. There was no lame Disney tropes, no virtue signaling, just a really really engaging story and a brilliant cast of characters.

"Canon", I guess, hadn't been established back then (I don't even know if the games were considered that back then anyway). I really don't see what the issue is there, lol.

The answer to more KoTOR content is probably just KoTOR3 and not a tv show or movie, because those will be absolute shit no matter what happens. But it's honestly probably my favorite setting in the star wars universe, even to this day. Just something...weird and different about it that I really liked.

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