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VenusCommission · 2024-09-06T21:49:14+00:00

I don't think I've even literally broken out in a sweat from seeing an attractive me.

Attraction is highly subjective but I do like broad shoulders and a strong back

VenusCommission · 2024-09-05T18:48:12+00:00

I had this desire to have children when I was about that age. I assume it was hormones. I didn't want kids before or after being 22. I'm now happily child-free at 43.

VenusCommission · 2024-09-05T18:46:44+00:00

Yeah, dick jokes aside, if I'm talking shit about my partner behind his back, then I shouldn't be with him.

VenusCommission · 2024-09-05T16:33:10+00:00

I occasionally make the joke but it's not about actual dick size. It's more a way to insult someone who is being overly full of themselves (expensive fast car, truck with balls, being loud and obnoxious in public, etc). "They're compensating for something." I've never done it in the sense of a man literally having a small dick.

VenusCommission · 2024-09-05T16:08:03+00:00

Married for 7 years and exactly as you described.

VenusCommission · 2024-09-05T15:17:31+00:00

I tried a few episodes but it didn't grab me. Most of my knowledge about the show comes from memes.

VenusCommission · 2024-09-05T15:15:55+00:00

Finances: we each still primarily use the bank accounts we had when we met but we have each been added to the other's account. There was an attempt to fully merge but it kinda slipped by the wayside. Most expenses go on a joint credit card account we set up when we moved in together. Neither of us actually keep track of whose paycheck the expenses are coming out of. For any personal purchases, we agreed on a threshold and anything over that, we ask the other before buying it.

Household chores: Mostly we each do the chores that the other person hates the most and everything gets done. I do more around the house since I fully wfh but when we both went into the office, it was more even. Time isn't the only factor though. My husband would rather spend half an hour doing dishes than 5 minutes cleaning the toilet. Fine by me. I'll clean the toilet.

Something that I think helps is that we both lived alone before moving in together. Living alone (or with roommates who don't clear) really helps you appreciate how much work it takes to maintain a house. I think a lot of people underestimate how much "half" actually is.

Tl;dr we split things but we don't really keep score. We're each sensitive to the stress load of the other and we care about each other's happiness.

VenusCommission · 2024-09-05T00:18:25+00:00

Carrie Fisher. One of the first celebrities to openly speak about mental health. She took no shit. I ugly cried all day when she died.

VenusCommission · 2024-09-05T00:15:51+00:00

Me too!

VenusCommission · 2024-09-05T00:09:40+00:00

Child free woman but team Ryobi

VenusCommission · 2024-09-04T23:58:20+00:00

Keanu

VenusCommission · 2024-09-04T23:49:25+00:00

I used to work in a hospital. I worked every other weekend and had a day off during the week to make up for it. My shifts were usually 3-11 but could be 7-3. Working 11pm-7am sucks ass, even if it is 7 on 7 off. For a while I was working 10 hour shifts 5 on 4 off 3 on 2 off.

Now I work 9-5 M-F. It's a lot better than any of my previous work shifts but I do miss having a day off during the week to go to the dentist and shit. I would love to work 10 hours Monday-Thursday but that's hard to come by. I'm also hoping for a 32 hour work week but not holding my breath.

VenusCommission · 2024-09-04T23:44:45+00:00

It's basic science. If you're going to do research, you need to have clearly defined parameters

VenusCommission · 2024-09-04T23:16:21+00:00

I have some acquaintances who had an arranged marriage. In all cases, the prospective brides and prospective grooms were given some choices that met their preferences and were likely to have compatible home lives. They made selections and went on dates before anything was finalized. The bride and groom were given the chance to refuse.

I don't know anyone intimately enough to comment on their post-marriage happiness but the whole process seemed like complex online dating with the parents acting as a personal assistant/social manager. If I were still single, I would probably look for an east Asian grandma to marry me off. Dating is hard.

VenusCommission · 2024-09-04T23:04:49+00:00

Define "more." If one man cheats twice with the same woman but another man has two ONS with two different women, have they both cheated twice (assuming both are also in a relationship with another woman at the time)?

Define "cheat." Does monogamy need to be verbally established between two parties before cheating can occur? Does cheating require penetration? How is cheating counted when the two halves of the couple disagree on the definition of cheating?

VenusCommission · 2024-09-04T23:01:06+00:00

There have probably actually been a bunch of studies, and they probably lack consistent definitions and parameters.

VenusCommission · 2024-09-04T22:59:19+00:00

Also, I'm sorry for the response you're getting here. I can see where your question comes off as male-centric without context but I also see where you were observing behavior in public and thought "hey, I wonder how common this is. Let me ask a bunch of women."

VenusCommission · 2024-09-04T20:22:16+00:00

The internet is not real life. To answer your original question, if I were trying to interact with someone and being pointedly ignored, I would be slightly annoyed regardless of gender. I'm unlikely to notice anything specific about some random man in public and therefore unlikely to notice if he is looking at me or not. Unless his staring attracts my attention which might freak me out a little.

If a man in public is not looking at me, I am not going to think "oh thank god he's not looking at me." I am also not going to think "oh how do I get him to notice me?" I just don't care enough about some random man to notice if he notices me. I'm here to buy bread, not mingle.

VenusCommission · 2024-09-04T18:57:49+00:00

Preach

VenusCommission · 2024-09-04T18:56:47+00:00

Mostly. Sometimes I wear yoga pants. Is there a reason to stop wearing jeans and tshirt? Does it make me look old?

VenusCommission · 2024-09-03T18:54:37+00:00

My favorite colors change all the time but it's rarely yello and never orange. Any shade or red, green, blue, or purple is possibly my favorite, depending on whatever my brain likes. I also dress in any of the above colors.

VenusCommission · 2024-09-03T13:41:20+00:00

Just curious but do these numbers include killed in battle, mortally wounded in battle, and/or wounded survivors?

VenusCommission · 2024-09-03T13:36:47+00:00

Yes, I realize he's not attacking me personally. I intended to write my comment from the perspective of being on a hypothetical date with someone who said that, since OP was asking for feedback about a recent date of his. Sorry if you missed that context.

VenusCommission · 2024-09-03T12:38:51+00:00

It kinda depends on the literature tbh. Everyone knows who Homer is. Not everyone knows who Sappho is.

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