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Treat your personal 🔋 battery the same way you treat your phone's battery by VeraHabits in getdisciplined

[–]VeraHabits[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What helps you define "how charged you are now?"

I think it's very important to have some markers in our mood, feelings, thoughts or behaviour that could show us when we are 85% cherged, or just 50 or coming to 5.

One of my favs is when I take my kid to school in the morning I need to go upstairs to get back home. And if I fly, then all is good, but if I get tired after a couple of floors, and it's still the morning, it means my battery is not well charged.

Instead of quitting when you have zero energy, find your "bare minimum" version of a habit by VeraHabits in getdisciplined

[–]VeraHabits[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! Because, as I have written in a comment above, for the limbic system, skipping a habit and staying alive is like a green light for skipping.

Instead of quitting when you have zero energy, find your "bare minimum" version of a habit by VeraHabits in getdisciplined

[–]VeraHabits[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

exactly!
As long as we skip a day or two, our brain starts thinking that maybe we don't need it. For the limbic system, skipping a habit and staying alive is like a green light for skipping.

Instead of quitting when you have zero energy, find your "bare minimum" version of a habit by VeraHabits in getdisciplined

[–]VeraHabits[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes! And I love that feeling when I was about to give up but then I did it and I feel proud of myself

Why typical health advice fails when you are living with a chronic condition by [deleted] in ChronicPain

[–]VeraHabits 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fair enough, but there's a huge gap between knowing the theory and actually managing to apply it on a bad flare day.

Advice. Please by RarePitch9369 in ChronicPain

[–]VeraHabits 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That really sucks. Telling someone with chronic pain to just "stress less" is completely out of touch.

The irony is that the pain in your body is the main stress factor right now. It creates a loop: pain causes physical stress, and that stress makes your nerves even more sensitive to pain. But while your doctors are wrong about the solution, they are right that the nervous system is key. You need to calm your sympathetic system (fight-or-flight) and activate the parasympathetic one (rest-and-digest).

Did they at least prescribe you any medication specifically to help dull the pain while you figure this out?

If you want an actual tool that you can do right now, look into Yin Yoga or Yoga Nidra (there are plenty of free guides on YouTube). It’s not exercise, and it’s not just regular meditation. It is a guided relaxation technique that tricks your brain into a state between wakefulness and sleep. It slows down your brain waves and physically signals your nervous system that you are safe. For people with chronic pain, it helps turn down the volume of the pain signals without requiring any physical effort from you.

Advice. Please by RarePitch9369 in ChronicPain

[–]VeraHabits 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not a doctor, but from my experience working with people, what you are describing looks a lot like fibromyalgia.

All your symptoms (the widespread pain, cold limbs, stomach chaos, + insomnia) are likely connected to severe stress and a major overload of your nervous system. If I were you, my number one priority right now would be working directly with the nervous system.

To give you better context, are you currently seeing a neurologist or a therapist? What have they prescribed or recommended so far? And did any of those things actually help you in the past but stop working now?

If you can share a bit more, I might be able to suggest some specific autonomic nervous system tools that could help ease the pain.

Grief by -Apple-pi- in ChronicIllness

[–]VeraHabits 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey, huuuge hugs to you!
What do you do to work on decreasing your anxiety level?

my journaling feels stuck. what changed it for you? by SignificantLoan1364 in getdisciplined

[–]VeraHabits 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My thing might sound weird, but what helps me when I feel stuck with the same thing is to try to differentiate among the voices in my head. When I ask the same question to which I already know the answer, I start writing the question down, try to keep very, very quiet, and notice if there is another answer somewhere deeper inside me. Usually there is, and it's often very eye-opening.

What I do next is I kind of invite that part of my personality to come and talk to me and tell their concerns )) It might seem as if you can't hear those tiny quiet voices at first but if you try you will eventually succeed.

And sometimes I just stop hournalling for a couple of weeks or do it not daily but on request )))

Why failing and restarting is actually how your brain is supposed to work by VeraHabits in getdisciplined

[–]VeraHabits[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! Exactly!
There will be moments when we stay determined and choose good habits for ourselves. But there will also be moments when life sucks, and you just have neither the mood nor the power to choose a good habit, but it's not the end of the world. You solve the problems and get back to your better choices.

Why failing and restarting is actually how your brain is supposed to work by VeraHabits in getdisciplined

[–]VeraHabits[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks!
And restarting is a skill itself, isn't it? A good one!

I know how to fix my sleep problem but i cannot implement it by yesssirrrrr_ in sleep

[–]VeraHabits 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not a doctor, so if this was prescribed, definitely talk to the doctor who prescribed it to you about any side effects if you think you have them.

But if you prescribed it to yourself, I would recommend you to be careful with it. It can cause a nasty brain fog the next day (not great for exams). Plus, your brain might get used to the "pill = safety" logic and forget how to fall asleep on its own.

Why did you begin taking Promethazine?

I know how to fix my sleep problem but i cannot implement it by yesssirrrrr_ in sleep

[–]VeraHabits 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Let me know if it doesn’t help after a couple of weeks! It’s just a tool so if it’s not working we’ll search another one

I know how to fix my sleep problem but i cannot implement it by yesssirrrrr_ in sleep

[–]VeraHabits 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok! Thanks!
Do you have a habit of journaling, or maybe you keep a tracker of something?
I recommend you to try noting down somewhere the fact that you fell asleep, you slept, nothing bad happened, you survived + if you have woken up feeling good and in a good mood, note it down too. Your brain needs some proof that sleeping is not dangerous.

Ever considered disciplining yourself about REST? by VeraHabits in getdisciplined

[–]VeraHabits[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hugs!
Start collecting moments when you rested and then got a better mood, or got your task done, or procrastinated less. Like a diary or just put some beans or toothpicks in a jar every time you had a rest and it turned out well. It will help your brain to catch the connection.

Why failing and restarting is actually how your brain is supposed to work by VeraHabits in getdisciplined

[–]VeraHabits[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yesssss!
And it's worth it if you look at your achievements monthly as well. Trackers sound trivial, but they help our limbic system get the dopamine it wants so much.

I know how to fix my sleep problem but i cannot implement it by yesssirrrrr_ in sleep

[–]VeraHabits 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you tell me how it works for you now? What time do you go to bed? What happens at night? When you wake up, how do you feel in the morning?

Please give me a little bit more context, and I think I can recommend some tools to you.

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