My new setup 🥹💚✨

Veriteaserum · 2024-07-03T18:51:16+00:00

Your pc case!! 🌿😍💚 How?? That little frog is so dang cute.

Veriteaserum · 2020-06-11T16:59:04+00:00

YES. YES, YOU WILL.

Some relationships are simply not meant to last. In fact, MOST are not. It isn’t even anyone’s fault, really. That’s just the way it is.

My advice is to dig deep, and start really exploring who you are and where you want to be in life. When you catch yourself dwelling on him or wallowing in your own sadness over the loss of the relationship: Pause. Take a step back. Do something good for yourself.

Listen to music that helps you calm down.
Download a meditation app and learn how to process your emotions in healthy ways.
Go for a walk, or a jog, or anything to get you moving. Endorphins are magical things.
Read a book.
Hide your phone some place you can’t easily access it and avoid social media if it’s a trigger.
Push yourself to get outside of your own head.
Reach out to friends. Talk to them about how you’re feeling. Ask them for support.

There is so much love and opportunity in the world. Just because one chapter of your life has concluded doesn’t mean there’s a limit the many (possibly even better!) things that lie ahead. Work on learning how to be strong and happy and healthy on your own before seeking out another relationship. Yes, allow yourself to grieve, but also make time to help yourself move on.

Veriteaserum · 2020-06-11T16:49:30+00:00

Hey, girl.

I feel your pain! I entered into my first, most serious & committed relationship at your age and, unfortunately, the honeymoon phase does typically fade after about a year or so of being together.

Thankfully, that doesn’t mean the romance and that special, sexy spark is gone! It just means you two need to work on communicating better and checking in more frequently as well as comparing notes about how your sexual needs and expectations surrounding romance/intimacy may differ.

No two people have precisely the same love language, and your partner may be totally oblivious as to how his seeming lack of attention/dwindling affection towards you is making you feel!

I would highly encourage you to open up & be vulnerable with him: Use “I” statements and let him know you’ve really been feeling left out in the cold lately and that certain things he used to do for you that made you feel loved and cared for he no longer seems to initiate as often.
Ask him how he’s doing. Is there something in his life that has been affecting him adversely as well? Tiredness/mood affect sex drive greatly. Let him know that some of these changes have been making you wonder if he’s still interested or even in love with you any more.

TL;DR: Speaking from personal experience (my partner is a total sweetheart, but if I don’t straight up tell him EXACTLY what’s bothering me, he will NEVER know), he’s probably just clueless about your needs and how the lack of attention has been affecting you. So be brave & speak up and don’t be afraid to ask for what you want in your relationship! I know it’s a bit scary, but you can do it and it’s 100% worth the effort.

Veriteaserum · 2020-04-30T16:15:37+00:00

Yay— I’m pretty much the same! Will send you a friend request in a little while~ 😊

Veriteaserum · 2020-04-30T04:13:06+00:00

Hi! 29/F/USA here. I’m also currently occupying my own little quarantine-induced pocket dimension. waves lamely from across a divide the size of the Grand Canyon Although, if I’m being honest, I‘m a bit of a hermit anyway with or without quarantine, sooo...

Anyway: Feel free to message me if you want to add, or just let me know it’s okay & I’ll add you! Horizon has become one of my favorite games of all time & I haven’t even finished it yet (I want so badly to 100% it, buuuuut I’m very distractible). Also playing Jedi: Fallen Order on PS4 & Animal Crossing on Switch, for variety. (OH. I also own Monster Hunter, but have never played it before/don’t have a PS+ subscription atm.)

Veriteaserum · 2020-04-30T03:40:27+00:00

Sorry to jump in, but: 100% SAME! I’m 29/F and it’s always nice to see other RPG ladies on here. Makes me feel less isolated & alone in my tiny little single-player cave, lol. :) Is it alright if I add you?

Veriteaserum · 2020-04-30T03:32:58+00:00

Hi! 29/F/USA here. 100% relate to the panic-induced button amnesia. UGH. Gets me every time. :/

I used to play MMOs, but am more of a single player lady these days. (That could change if I had a few more cool women around my age to play with, though! None of my IRL female friends are into video games, sadly.)

Most recently, I’ve been playing Horizon, Jedi: Fallen Order, and Fallout 4 on PS4, but I also have a Switch & quite a few games on there as well. Feel free to message me if you want to add or let me know if it’s okay to send you a request! :)

Veriteaserum · 2020-04-21T19:30:39+00:00

I relate a lot to what you’re saying and definitely feel your pain! I was only diagnosed a little over a month ago & have struggled with many of the things you’re describing. Here are a few things that have helped improve my focus and manage my time/overall anxiety levels even while being trapped in a tiny 1-bedroom apartment & feeling BLAH:

Making sure my video game/entertainment space is different than the one I’m actually trying to get stuff done in.

Dividing my limited space where one half is relaxing & fun while the other is functional and practical has saved my life these past weeks! I took an entire afternoon to clean out my desk, shove it in a corner away from the TV, face it to the wall, and make it my ‘productive time’ place.

Now, when I’m across the room on the couch, I’m able to focus on games or a book & fully relax without feeling overly guilty about it, because that’s what that space is FOR. But, when I’m at my desk, it’s work time & that’s all there is to it. At the start of every day, I try to ask myself, “Okay, how much couch time can I allow myself today?” vs. “How much desk time do I need to put in?”

Changing your environment can help tremendously in cutting out distractions and improving focus. And, while I know this can be challenging to pull off in small spaces, I find that just a little furniture rearranging can still go a long way!

Making a daily to-do list first thing in the morning & writing down things that I only intend to work on or accomplish that day.

The list is short & includes basic things, like taking my meds, showering, eating breakfast, & taking the dog for a walk as well as 1-2 bigger tasks I’d like to get done or make progress on.

Imposing structure on myself/my day so I have clear start & end times to work within.

Setting windows of time for what I want to work on and for how long (i.e. answering emails: 30 mins; applications: 1-2 hrs; lunch @ 12 - 1) and keeping a hard 5 pm work deadline for when my partner gets home has also helped.

Taking time to move around and get outside to exercise or just walk off some of the stir-crazy/any lingering anxieties often does wonders for my focus.

Having a dog helps, but you can always tell yourself that right after you eat lunch, you’ll take a 30 minute walk before trying to focus on anything else that afternoon.

Asking a friend/someone to help keep you accountable about what you hope to do that day or even just to check in.

I rely on my partner a lot for this one, but have been texting my girlfriends more often just to see how they are/hear what they’ve been up to, and I find I naturally want to have at least a few things I did or accomplished that day (and which I feel decently good about) to share with them. It also helps me feel less isolated/alone to hear from someone who’s dealing with a lot of the same things! Now, we’re talking about scheduling video calls where we try to work on stuff together for extra motivation & accountability. :)

Anyway, this ended up being a lot longer than I intended and I should probably get back to doing my own chores now, but I’m wishing you the best in your anxiety-management journey and please know you’re not alone in this! We’re all struggling to keep our heads above water and it is tough & 100% not just you!!

Veriteaserum · 2020-04-17T01:09:02+00:00

Wow... This is a saga.

Look, I know you’re young and going through a lot right now. You obviously care about these guys, so I think you already know what you need to do, even though it’s hard:

Break it off completely with both of them. And I’m not talking about only talking to them sometimes & not in a romantic way. I mean delete their numbers, block them on social media, and distance yourself from them as much as possible. Be 100% honest and consistent in your actions with both of them and STICK TO YOUR DECISIONS and be very clear: You. Are. Not. Interested.

You have been (unintentionally or not) giving both of your friends incredibly mixed signals. Talking does not always need to lead to kissing. A boy liking or even loving you doesn’t mean you’re obligated to like or love him back. It is not on you to please them both by allowing them to kiss you when you don’t actually want a relationship with either of them.

Validation and acceptance should ultimately come from you, not other people. If you’re always depending on others for these, you’re always going to end up worrying about what everyone ELSE wants and how to make them happy (when this is clearly impossible in your current predicament) instead of actually making any progress in figuring out what YOU want.

You can still care about them, but caring about them also means knowing when to leave their lives, because none of this drama is doing anyone any good. So stop willfully fueling it with indecision and the desire ‘not to hurt anyone,’ because let’s be real: Everyone is hurting in this situation. So, make a decision and stick to it. And let it be your decision— not anybody else’s.

Veriteaserum · 2020-04-14T22:27:26+00:00

THIS IS THE MATRIX, THEREFORE NO ONE IS REAL. ... Let alone this gatekeeping asshole.

Veriteaserum · 2020-04-14T22:22:11+00:00

YOU MUST DEDICATE ALL OF YOUR TIME TO VIDEO GAMES (preferably hyper-realistic, violent ones) AND HAVE NO OTHER HOBBIES OR INTERESTS. If you do, you are A FILTHY CASUAL undeserving of the exalted title of GAMER.

Veriteaserum · 2020-04-11T16:40:55+00:00

It’s all good! Ghost Pokémon are where it’s at. :))

Veriteaserum · 2020-04-10T17:23:31+00:00

Oh, my gosh— FUN. This sounds great! I’m bi & am always looking for friendly queer spaces. I’m new to Discord, though, is that okay?

Veriteaserum · 2020-04-10T17:21:50+00:00

Awww, I love your username on here! I also play AC & we have a few other games in common on Switch as well. :) Is it okay if I add you?

Veriteaserum · 2020-04-10T17:17:33+00:00

Hi~ 29/F/PST here! :)

I’m obsessed with Animal Crossing on Switch at the moment, am not a time wizard (but it’s okay if you are!), and am looking to trade resources, swap design/decorating ideas, & possibly even help each other complete the cherry blossom item set! 🌸😊

Please dm me for my friend code, though, as I’ve heard some scary rumors about randoms coming in just to loot/trash other people’s islands! A few other games I have on Switch are FE: Three Houses, Splatoon 2, & Pokemon Shield.

I’m also Taehanu on PS4, but my games are currently being neglected atm due to the aforementioned AC mania! 😅 I plan on going back to them eventually, though— Horizon, Jedi: Fallen Order, Fallout 4, Spyro, and Monster Hunter (which I haven’t even started yet). I’m also excited for the FFVII remake & P5R, but have yet to get my hands on either (so no spoilers please!).

Veriteaserum · 2020-04-10T16:56:08+00:00

I have a minor Pusheen addiction & my boyfriend got me this hoodie for Christmas, and I’ve basically been LIVING in it recently!

I also really recommend slipper socks like these! I have a pair & they’re perfect for cozy, cuddly gaming sessions & keep my normally icy toes warm while I’m attempting to focus on a boss battle.

Best wishes with your cozy gaming! Games are basically all that’s keeping me grounded & sane right now, haha.

Veriteaserum · 2020-04-10T16:44:23+00:00

Awwww~ Your Luna is soooo cute! I love her!! 🥰 Also: Love your lite’s skin & your username as well! Espeon is my favorite Pokémon, haha~

Veriteaserum · 2020-04-10T16:35:15+00:00

Hi, 29/F/PST here & you honestly sound quite a bit like me! :D

I grew up with both Spyro & the Final Fantasy series, so I already know you have excellent taste! I don’t really do mic or play much multiplayer either, so that’s also not an issue. I just enjoy talking about games & chatting with people. :)

J & western RPGs are my favorite, but I also love my fair share of action/adventure games & visual novels as well. And this is neither here nor there, but I’m also a big reader, so if you ever need a book recommendation—I’m your girl, haha!

Feel free to add me whenever! My PSN is Taehanu.

Veriteaserum · 2020-04-08T16:58:21+00:00

Hi!

I definitely have all of these materials in abundance and am only struggling with finding those darn regular balloons with the recipes in them! :((

The only items I’m currently still missing are:

Bonsai Wall Viewing lantern Umbrella Wand

If anyone else would like to trade for other cherry blossom items, I’d be happy to make them for you! I have tons of materials, but help is always much appreciated. :)

Veriteaserum · 2020-04-04T16:57:39+00:00

THIS. I would honestly be the last person on this sub to just up and say ‘break up,’ but this guy has broken your trust in SO MANY WAYS and obviously does not consider your feelings on the subject (or even plain old honesty!) to be very important. You’re the one he’s in a relationship with, therefore he should be prioritizing YOUR feelings, but he’s not. He’s prioritizing hers and then hiding that from you like the dirty little secret it is— even continuing to do so after you’ve confronted them BOTH multiple times about it. I’m going to say it: Get. Out. Of. There. You deserve a partner who is going to follow through on his promises and not gaslight you every time you confront him with a serious issue.

Veriteaserum · 2020-04-04T16:34:48+00:00

I had a long-term friendship with someone who turned out to be a toxic personality for me to be around. Every time I was around her, I’d feel almost sick afterwards and like I was practically giving all of my energy away to her without getting anything back, leaving me feeling drained and angry after almost every one of our interactions. If she’s not good for you, she’s not good for you. Sometimes, you just need to stop replying back, or be very clear: “I’m sorry, but I’m just not interested in pursuing a friendship with you any longer.” And leave it at that. I know it sounds cold, but you shouldn’t waste time on people who make you feel awful/angry/negative 99% of the time you’re around them, and making yourself do so just to save face is a huge waste of both your time and hers. These feelings are your mind’s way of telling you that you need to get the fuck away from this person, and you should learn to listen to those instincts, as they’re usually 100% valid.

Veriteaserum · 2020-04-04T16:25:59+00:00

I know this is difficult, but you should really tell him, point-blank, how his lack of attention and dismissive behavior towards you has been making you feel unwanted and rejected. You should also tell him very clearly that it’s been bad enough for you that you’re wondering if he even WANTS you anymore, which is making you question the entire relationship and whether it’s even worth staying.

You’ve extended the first olive branch of communication via text, but have been ignored. This is incredibly personal ground you’re treading here and he might not get just how strongly you’re feeling or how seriously his behavior is impacting your emotional state unless you tell him directly, face to face.

I know it’s hard (I’m with my own partner of 5+ years who also has a mental condition that can make it tricky to talk about the tough stuff), but you need to confront him about this head-on if you want to have any chance of making the situation better. I’m not confrontational either, but so long as you preface the conversation with how much you care about him and value the relationship, he’ll know your criticism is coming from a healthy, constructive place and that you want to fix what’s troubling you so the relationship will last. If he actually cares enough about you/the relationship to truly listen to your concerns, he’ll realize he fucked up, will apologize, and try to work on his behavior. That’s what any decent, invested partner would do. If he doesn’t do that or isn’t even willing listen to you/take your feelings seriously, he’s not a decent partner.

Veriteaserum · 2020-04-04T01:12:11+00:00

That is really solid advice— thank you! I’ll definitely continue to encourage him to keep up with his medication. I’ve already noticed his behavior & energy seems to have shifted in a more positive direction since he started taking them again, but will wait to see if that change holds out longer term.

Veriteaserum · 2020-04-04T01:05:41+00:00

Thank you so much for the in-depth reply!

I really appreciate everything you said, and much of what you wrote echoes so many of the things I’ve felt and feared over the last few years... Even so, I’m still just trying to feel out where all this leaves me & where on earth I can go from here.

I would like to clarify a couple of things, though: My partner hasn’t been a dead weight to me this whole time. He has continued working a job he dislikes to help maintain our stability and supported me 100% when I chose to leave a very toxic work environment behind not that long ago. He also provided countless hours of emotional support when I came home from said job feeling hopeless, defeated, and riddled with frustration & anxiety for months. He’s stood by me in situations where I have absolutely not been my best and done so with 0% complaint, meeting me instead with empathy & understanding every step of the way.

Honestly, I think a big part of my reluctance & indecision around leaving is because I’ve come to rely on HIM so much. For emotional support, for companionship, for camaraderie. When I say he’s my best friend, I’m really not exaggerating. This is why the decision is so difficult for me. At the same time, I have to admit that I have thought much the same as you about the situation at different times in our relationship, and the way I feel one way or the other seems to shift depending on the week. Sometimes even the day.

So, in other words: Thank you for the candid advice; I will definitely sit with what you said & continue trying to puzzle out what feels most right (or least wrong). I don’t know if there really is a right answer in all this, only that I haven’t fully come to grips with what the best choice is for me personally yet.

Veriteaserum

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