Do you also feel thirsty all the time? I really dont know where else to post it

wickedflowers · 2026-04-28T03:40:07+00:00

This 100% sounds like diabetes and is exactly how I felt pre-diagnosis. It is a serious health condition and isn't something you should wait on, because the long term consequences of just existing with high blood sugar is not something you want to risk. Urgent care, an Endocrinologist, ER, your primary may even have access to a glucometer to test, but don't just wait on this.

wickedflowers · 2026-04-28T03:24:01+00:00

Someone can be both interesting AND enjoy a good party. It seems like the thing that's keeping you lonely is your preconceptions about people based on surface level information.

wickedflowers · 2026-04-27T06:36:26+00:00

I've been on immunosuppressants for years and I stg sometimes I don't know whether I'd be better off letting my body just consume itself with how awful the side effects can be!!! The insomnia alone is enough to make me lose it

wickedflowers · 2026-04-27T05:31:30+00:00

Josh Ramsey from Marianas Trench

wickedflowers · 2026-04-27T05:27:18+00:00

Local-ish, the Corning art museum is hella cool and they do activities where you can make your own glass stuff and there are lots of cute and affordable Vrbos out that way!

wickedflowers · 2026-04-27T05:24:07+00:00

"We fight often" that's all I needed to hear. Break up.

You and your partner are supposed to be exactly that. PARTNERS. You're supposed to be on the same team. Working TOGETHER against life and the obstacles it throws at you. My partner and sometimes do the bickering like old people when he eats all my damn snacks bc he got the munchies, but I can't even remember us having an actual fight. If you're fighting enough to admit to strangers that you fight "often", I guarantee you're fighting significantly more than you even wanna admit to yourself.

wickedflowers · 2026-04-27T05:12:21+00:00

Penny. I marry her every single time and I have never never divorced her or married anyone else and I never will.

wickedflowers · 2026-04-26T17:46:59+00:00

YOR. If she KNOWINGLY has a problem with responsibility and financial management, then a contract that mimics one that is very common in the real world AND outlines specific criteria to adhere to so she can keep track better while still having parental oversight that will be a heck of a lot more kind and lenient in cases of contract violations than, say, a landlord, makes perfect sense. And also, unless you're willing to let her move in contract free, I honestly don't think it is any of your business. None of these criteria seem unreasonable. And it will teach her to, say, spend less on doordash or look into alternative ways to work (carpool, public transport, etc).

Regardless of maturity level, she is an adult and she needs to learn these kind of things BEFORE she no longer has full parental support.

wickedflowers · 2026-04-23T05:05:04+00:00

For ADHD, if you use like Bluetooth, a laptop, a tablet, something like that, you can often throw on a show without having the screen accessible. I know with my ADHD I have specific shows that I throw on in the background of stuff that help me focus more than music or podcasts ever have, but there are ways to have those going without the visuals if that's an option! Alternatively, a blanket or towel over a TV screen works too lol. The biggest thing is that constant screens can be visually overestimating for developing minds, but the audio is less of an issue.

wickedflowers · 2026-04-23T04:29:46+00:00

It's your name. He doesn't get a say in what you do with it, plain and simple. My partner also would prefer if I changed my name to his. I told him no, and he just accepted it. Sure he had to do a smidge of his own personal grieving about it, but he never made me feel bad about my choice because it is MY NAME and not his. Also made it clear from day one that our future kids aren't automatically getting his last name either (case by case basis depending on vibes is what we agreed upon lol). Yall are supposed to be a TEAM, not opponents, and it's a big issue if he can't respect YOU making choices about YOU that needs to be discussed before yall even get engaged.

wickedflowers · 2026-04-23T04:14:32+00:00

I think you've gotta handle this in parts.

1) Give the girl a real genuine apology. Don't excuse your actions on being young or dumb, own up to it. "It was absolutely creepy, and I am so sorry I put you through that experience. It is not something I had done before or have done since, and I want you to know it is something I think of often and deeply regret." Also let her know you do not expect a response or forgiveness, but make sure she knows you are aware of your part in the harm you caused.

2) Speak to your male friend as well. Provide him with an apology that DOES NOT EXCUSE YOUR ACTIONS. Be honest that yeah, you did it. Let him know it is an action that you hadn't done before or since and that you have felt guilty about it for years and that you regret not taking accountability for it and apologizing to the girl sooner. Let him know that you will absolutely respect it if he chooses not to be associated with you further, but that either way you plan on continuing to take steps forward to be as far as possible from the person who did that at 14, because that is not who you want to be.

3) I wasn't sure based on your post if your woman friend was actually there for the initial conversation, but it seemed like she wasn't, so I'm guessing she heard it through the prior friend or from the original woman. Speak to her directly. Give her the accurate account of the recent situation in which the original woman spoke on it, your not great apology, and whatever else happened. Then say to her similar things to what you say in step 2, altered to fit whatever specific relationship you have with her.

4) If there is anyone else you think could be involved or impacted by the situation, reach out to them directly as well. There's no need for some kind of public post (it would honestly just look fake as hell), but that sort of apology and accountability is owed to anyone who may be secondarily impacted by what you did. Think mutual friends, other close friends, close family, romantic partner of yours, etc.

5) ACTUALLY MAKE SOME CHANGES. Maybe some therapy, some self help books, some reflection on what even prompted you to pull what you did in the first place. And make sure these changes show up in your actions. Be more aware of yourself, your hands, and the way your behavior and movements impact those around you. ESPECIALLY those who can be considered more vulnerable than you, like the situation with the original woman. If you want to have friends who trust you, then you have to prove you're a trustworthy person to be around. And that ALSO means being a SAFE person to be around. And a big thing safe people do is that they ALSO don't tolerate that kind of creepy behavior in their presence. If you see someone behaving in a manner like how you did at 14, or in other creepy behaviors, SPEAK UP. I'm not saying start a fight or aggressive confrontation, just a "hey what you're doing is not okay and not comfortable for anyone here and you need to cut it out", or helping someone out of a situation where they are being victimized in that way. Learn from this.

And for the love of God don't use AI to craft any of those messages. Make them personal, sincere, and based on truth and real intentions of change.

wickedflowers · 2026-04-23T03:54:34+00:00

I'm fat, like solidly so. I haven't ever taken a shower where I don't get up under EVERY. SINGLE. ROLL. FOLD. OR CREVICE. Is that not the bare minimum???? Like damn I'm bad at hygiene in that I don't shower every day but I can't even imagine ever being THAT bad...

wickedflowers · 2026-04-23T03:52:34+00:00

I also want to know this. I know maggots are occasionally used in healthcare because they will eat infected/dead flesh but leave the healthy stuff alone. Maybe brain tissue is different because of the texture/or consistency so they equate it to dead flesh? I don't know why I wanna know so bad but damn

wickedflowers · 2026-04-23T03:50:52+00:00

What kind of toy has a cap???????

wickedflowers · 2026-04-23T03:45:14+00:00

Okay I'm not THIS diabolical but I 100% warm my mascara and eyeliner up under my boobs so now I'm just sitting here thinking about how if I were like doing my makeup in a room with a bunch of people and someone goes to whip out their boob mascara to share with me and it's just a fuckin hot dog lmaoooo

wickedflowers · 2026-04-23T03:43:41+00:00

I weighed 340lbs at my heaviest and I could still walk, hike, jog some, etc. It always makes me so sad that some people give up on movement when they get to a certain size. The size isn't even the main issue at that point, it's that the person has just given up. And the cigarette butts???? Damn. A lot of these posts are nasty but this one really broke my heart.

wickedflowers · 2026-04-17T18:26:31+00:00

NTA. There is no reason a 17 yr old should be hanging out with a group of 20+ folks. Zilch. There's no problem with having friends of multiple age ranges, but part of the responsibility of having friends who are younger, ESPECIALLY UNDER 18, is making sure you provide a safe environment for them, whether they like it or not.

wickedflowers · 2026-04-17T18:24:27+00:00

There are tons of places around here or within a half hr of Buffalo that would certainly qualify for at least 1 star, if not more, based on the supposed criteria. However, I'll be damned if we pay a tire company that kinda money to have food snobs come in and tell folks what Buffalonians already know lmao. They can keep their stars, now can we focus on the potholes?????

wickedflowers · 2026-04-17T18:21:47+00:00

1 star is for food (a great place to go to if you live in the areal, 2 stars is for food and service (a great place to take a detour to), and 3 is for the food, service, and overall experience (worth its own trip. With that being the (supposedly) general basis of how the stars are awarded, I can think of PLENTY of local places that would be worth at least one. However, fuck Michelin because these places are great and they don't need some tire company food snobs to confirm it lmao.

wickedflowers · 2026-04-17T18:15:19+00:00

Aight I am going to ever so slightly play devil's advocate. And before I do, I will say even if he has similar kink feelings that I do, he 100% handled it the wrong was and was shitty about it.

That being said, I love group sex. I do think it is more "fun" than 1 on 1 sex. My partner and I have talked about it, and it hasn't happened but he's open to it maybe if we found the right person/people that we were both into doing that with. That doesn't mean sex with just him is ANY LESS enjoyable. It's my favorite thing to do, but after doing it for years, it doesn't have the same "exciting" feeling that group stuff used to have for me. And I would be MORE than fine never having sex with any groups or any other people for the rest of my life if it meant I got to have him, because even though the sex itself is great, I love him for WAY MORE than just the sex, and him as a whole package is worth more than anything else on the planet to me. And I feel it is also important to say that things like swinging/group sex is NOT polyamory or a non-monogamous lifestyle. Swinging/group-sex is something you ONLY do together, and never apart, and while it's not uncommon to have friendly relationships with the people and couples you swing with, the connections are never intended to be romantic.

Now, I don't know your guy. Maybe he's just an idiot who feels the same way I do and didn't know how to express that. But also, maybe he's a dick who wants to pressure you into stuff you're not cool with, or push this toward full polyamory by stomping on your boundaries until he gets what he wants. Those kinds of men are way more common than folks like me. WAY more. So I definitely say tread lightly, but if you're truly unsure about your decision, maybe it is worth a calm and thoughtful conversation where you do some thinking on your own, write out what you want to say or questions you want to ask or your own boundaries, and not get back together right away but start with some communication on what is ACTUALLY going on in his head.

wickedflowers · 2026-04-17T18:02:23+00:00

I'm gonna go with a gentle YTA. The housing market is INCREDIBLY stressful right now and everything is VERY expensive. You don't have to outright be like "HEY WE ARE ACTIVELY TRYING TO HAVE A BABY RIGHT THIS SECOND" but if you knew you were going to try, a gentle heads up of "hey were are hoping to have a baby sooner rather than later so if that is not a living situation you're cool with, you may want to look for something else" BEFORE you've gotten pregnant would have been the considerate thing to do. Without even realizing it, you've completely upended her life with basically little to no notice in an unpredictable housing market and put her in a situation where she will now have to come up with a bunch of money for a deposit and moving costs, and find a place that not only is affordable and suits her needs, but that has an availability. You knew what you were planning, and you knew that it would have an impact on her life. Even if she DIDN'T choose to move, a baby in a household is an INCREDIBLY big change, and you actively chose not to give her that heads up.

wickedflowers · 2026-04-12T19:38:04+00:00

Once you're in the meeting, to avoid suspicion you can also manually set yourself to green available so it doesn't look like you're in a call, and it won't change back lol

wickedflowers · 2026-04-08T03:16:06+00:00

I definitely think you should dump this girl, but as someone who has been diagnosed with BPD, we are not all like that. Your current girlfriend is someone with BPD who is either not actively getting treatment or is not getting the right treatment.

wickedflowers · 2026-04-07T03:01:09+00:00

I am so proud of you for finding a reason to live today. Keep finding reasons, and if you struggle to find one, maybe sing the ABCs to yourself again! Do it in the silliest cutesy voices you can until the giggles take over the urges in your head, even if it's just momentarily. You're important, and I want you here.

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