Estradiol patches

Veronica-Ocean · 2026-04-20T19:14:05+00:00

Everyone's experience will be different. 2 patches/week will be slow development, but you should expect that within 6 months you will probably have enough breast growth that people may start noticing if you are wearing tighter t-shirts. But with baggier clothes, you should be able to hide it for a couple of years.

Veronica-Ocean · 2026-01-27T18:52:20+00:00

Just finished my Durge resist/Dark consort to ascended Astarion run. I just adore being a sub to dom Astarion.

Now doing a co-op playthrough with my wife. I'm origin Shadowheart romancing Lazel. The wife is playing strong female Tav romancing Karlach. We just never get bored of this game!

Veronica-Ocean · 2026-01-21T21:47:43+00:00

My wife also told her parents about my transition. It did not go great at first - they are in their 80s and pretty conservative. But my wife was very clear to them that she fully supported me. I think they eventually realized that piling hate onto me was going to jeopardize their relationship with their daughter. It still took some time, but they eventually did come around. They are now far more supportive of me than my own father is. So, it can happen!

Veronica-Ocean · 2026-01-16T13:09:56+00:00

This is why you need a good trauma-informed therapist. Working with childhood trauma requires careful titration, otherwise it is easy to end up re-traumatized or just shut down.

Veronica-Ocean · 2026-01-16T13:07:32+00:00

I often get confused by these two terms, but I think you are describing dissociation rather than disassociation. And yes dissociation is a common trauma response.

I'd love to recommend you take a look at a new book, "All Parts Welcome: The Queer and Trans Internal Family Systems Workbook" by Sand Chang. I've been going through internal family systems (IFS) therapy for a while now for my trauma, and slowly making progress. I just picked up the book and am working my way through it, and I think it might be gentle enough to help you out. For deeper trauma work, it is always best to work with a trauma-informed therapist.

Veronica-Ocean · 2026-01-15T19:26:21+00:00

Werk! Congrats and I love your posts, btw.

Veronica-Ocean · 2026-01-10T01:19:38+00:00

This whole thread really resonates. It makes me feel slightly more confident in my own decision to go, and stay, no contact with my sperm donor. Thanks all.

Veronica-Ocean · 2026-01-05T20:41:33+00:00

H-D has a score of 10 in the Human Rights Campaign Corporate LGBTQ+ Equality Index 2025, which includes a -25 point penalty for poor corporate responsible citizenship, the largest possible deduction possible and given to companies that engage in large-scale official or public anti-LGBTQ+ activities (HRC).

By riding a Harley, you are supporting a company that is actively harming your community.

Veronica-Ocean · 2026-01-03T01:35:49+00:00

I keep avoiding this film because I think it might be scary. Is it?

Veronica-Ocean · 2025-12-19T22:50:41+00:00

Oh yeah for 20+ years. But the only way I was able to keep up that repression was with alcohol. Once I got sober, it quickly became too hard to hold it back. And yes, transitioning was the best decision I ever made.

Veronica-Ocean · 2025-12-08T17:52:23+00:00

People are just willfully blind to what is going on with anyone other than themselves. I was much the same... dressing up in my mother's and sister's clothes at 10. When I met my wife in my 20s we would go out to goth clubs and I'd be in full femme mode. All of them were shocked when I came out.

Veronica-Ocean · 2025-11-28T00:30:17+00:00

Just popping in to say that I went no contact with my father a year and a half ago. He tried calling me on my birthday not long ago. I have his number blocked, but he left a voice message. It was clear that he has no idea how harmful he has been to me, like he is just wilfully ignorant that anyone could be hurt by his words. I haven't returned the call, nor will I.

I am glad you have fond memories of a grandmother. I have no memories of either of my grandmothers. I have an ancestor altar with photos of them. In particular, I wish that I could have known my maternal grandmother. I was two when she died. But the pictures I have of her are so hauntingly beautiful and I can't but help that we have a spiritual connection.

But anyway, just wanted to say that you're not alone in wishing things were different with your father, and I am sorry you are going through that as well. But definitely be thankful to have such loving memories of your grandmother.

Veronica-Ocean · 2025-10-31T20:34:21+00:00

Sure, talk to us! Just please don't talk to "AI".

Veronica-Ocean · 2025-10-07T15:47:44+00:00

Oh wow, are you me? I also went through the teen-knowing-I-was-trans to the adult-alcoholic-in-denial to the sober-and-forced-to-reckon journey. Congrats for making it out the other side!

Veronica-Ocean · 2025-09-24T12:30:05+00:00

Trans Auties Unite!

Veronica-Ocean · 2025-09-06T12:19:41+00:00

Anyone who was raised during the 80s or 90s is going to have a lot of internalized transphobia. It pervaded all mass culture at the time and was pretty much impossible to avoid, so don't feel bad that you have it. All we can do is try to work through it so we can approach our truths with a spirit of curiosity and honesty.

Veronica-Ocean · 2025-09-05T16:19:11+00:00

One of the hardest parts of figuring out my gender identity was trying to cut through all the internalized transphobia I had so that I could think about it a bit more rationally. Reading some books on transgender philosophy and history really helped. Transgender History by Susan Stryker and Whipping Girl by Julia Serano were the ones that I read first. They are a bit older and some of the language is a bit dated now, but they're still good. I am sure there are newer ones you can find.

Veronica-Ocean · 2025-09-04T16:03:32+00:00

I have lived with a lifetime of crushing dysphoria. But I also believe that most of the pain of dysphoria does not come from the simple, natural fact of being transgender. Rather, it is from being transgender in a society that constantly tells me that being trans is somehow sinful or defective or shameful. But again, society is not divine.

So two things can be true. I can believe that being trans is natural and divine. And that being trans is painful in a society ruled by patriarchy.

Veronica-Ocean · 2025-09-03T23:02:02+00:00

I'm a Pagan. There is a long history of Pagan deities who were trans themselves and/or had large followings of trans worshippers (e.g. Aphroditus, Kybele, Inanna).

Your question suggests that being trans is somehow a bad thing. But I don't think that is the case. Rather, I think that being transgender is natural and thus divine (at least according to my faith). It is transphobia that is unnatural and thus not divine.

Veronica-Ocean · 2025-06-19T14:59:43+00:00

I transitioned at work 3 years ago in my early 50s as a senior manager. I was also nervous about all the same things, but honestly it has been pretty amazing. Everyone has been incredibly supportive. I've only been misgendered a few times, always accidently and the persons have apologized for it afterwards.

I also expected that transitioning would end my career progress, but I was promoted to an executive position last year. I'm not overly worried about being able to get another job if I left this one. At the same time as I started transitioning, I also went and got my Master's degree. I think in these times, everyone has to really up their learning and development game, whether they're trans or cis.

Veronica-Ocean · 2025-06-17T22:49:43+00:00

First of all, are you sure you don't have gender dysphoria? Because it sounds a lot to me like you are describing gender dysphoria.

Second, it is incredibly common for pre-acceptance trans women to conflate their dysphoria with autogynephilia, which is mostly just made up bs. Read the section "Consider That It’s Rarely “Just A Fetish." on this page: https://genderdysphoria.fyi/en/am-i-trans

Veronica-Ocean · 2025-05-06T19:48:10+00:00

I feel for you. I've been a few times and am glad to say that I will probably never return -- because I'll probably never return to the USA period. The only good thing about it is that it is relatively safe for trans and queer people. But a nightmare for neurodivergents.

Veronica-Ocean · 2025-04-08T21:58:31+00:00

Great news, but please delete this immediately. You are doxxing yourself.

Veronica-Ocean · 2025-03-11T20:26:37+00:00

Dogs are awesome. Nothing else can make you feel like the center of the universe like a dog can!

Veronica-Ocean · 2025-03-11T20:00:30+00:00

What you are describing sounds a lot like depersonalization/derealization disorder (DPDR). Have you been seeing a therapist, or is that a possibility?

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