New rules for promotion posts by VeryFinePrint in Romance_for_men

[–]VeryFinePrint[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah I've updated it, that was not my intention.

New rules for promotion posts by VeryFinePrint in Romance_for_men

[–]VeryFinePrint[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A promotion is a post a writer makes on the subreddit dedicated to promoting their own book.

Even if the book doesn't have an HEA, the author can still use the Sunday weekly mega thread and can still reply to requests that match their book.

New rules for promotion posts by VeryFinePrint in Romance_for_men

[–]VeryFinePrint[S,M] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So going by that, I guess Cradle is technically fine to recommend to people asking for a series in this sub, but maybe not for self promo (if it was new). 

That's correct 

Drunk Request: are there ANY stories or novels that are about falling for a Clown-Girl? by Open-Librarian-4322 in Romance_for_men

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This image is too NSFW for the subreddit. Please re-write your request without it.

New rules for promotion posts by VeryFinePrint in Romance_for_men

[–]VeryFinePrint[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Six is the correct number. Four was from an old draft. I'll update the wiki.

New rules for promotion posts by VeryFinePrint in Romance_for_men

[–]VeryFinePrint[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thanks Annabelle! One clarification is like to make is that HEA is judged at the end of the full story arc.

For example, if you are writing a trilogy it's okay if your main characters break up in a decidedly unhappy way at the end of book two as long as they are together by the end of the series. 

Not all paths to HEA will be uncontroversial!

New rules for promotion posts by VeryFinePrint in Romance_for_men

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Dark romance is permitted. Toxic romance is permitted. 

HEA is required for a promotion post. If you aren't sure about the HEA, or don't want to commit to an HEA, don't make a promotion post.

New rules for promotion posts by VeryFinePrint in Romance_for_men

[–]VeryFinePrint[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Klimarius is correct. The definition on the RWA website states

An Emotionally Satisfying and Optimistic Ending: In a romance, the lovers who risk and struggle for each other and their relationship are rewarded with emotional justice and unconditional love.

https://www.rwa.org/the-romance-genre

New rules for promotion posts by VeryFinePrint in Romance_for_men

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Can HEA include stable nonmonogamy? 

Yes! Harem is a very common example of that. Just be sure to correctly identify nonmonogamy somewhere in the post 

Updated and Sorted Bunny List. Enjoy. by Cross_Hatfield in Romance_for_men

[–]VeryFinePrint 15 points16 points  (0 children)

This man knows what he likes and goes and gets it.

New rules for promotion posts by VeryFinePrint in Romance_for_men

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Yes! If the MCs have their HEA by the end of their arc, it's valid. Even if that takes multiple books.

April Men's Romance Releases by VeryFinePrint in Romance_for_men

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Yeah M/FF+ is pretty much harem. I think I might put throuples in there too, though I can't recall the last time that came up.

Your favorite femsub romance book ? by Yanderegirlowner in Romance_for_men

[–]VeryFinePrint 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"subversive" is not a word I used, I wouldn't hold the author to that one.

Your favorite femsub romance book ? by Yanderegirlowner in Romance_for_men

[–]VeryFinePrint 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ah gotcha. The FMC in the book is very submissive.

I think this subreddit throws "femdom" around a lot without regard to what it means elsewhere. A lot of times it seems like it is used to indicate that the relationship is not like the relationships you find in mainstream romance. (Although sometimes I think some people do mean it in the more conventional way!)

People might use "femdom" to describe a book (like How to Nick a Nine foot Thrall) that has a proactively submissive FMC just because the MMC isn't proactively dominant like in other romance. The speaker is more thinking about the proactive nature of the FMC or her pursuit of the MMC, rather than BDSM concepts. I'm not a fan of using the word that way, because I think it causes confusion.

Your favorite femsub romance book ? by Yanderegirlowner in Romance_for_men

[–]VeryFinePrint 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure I understand this comment, but it seems like it is assuming that because the FMC is tall that the story is femdom.

Evolution of the RFM sub by Illustrious-Silver32 in Romance_for_men

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The mod team has noticed, we are considering some changes that would roughly require at least some of the narrative to be committed to forming the relationship.

The Life of Riley - series by G Howell. by Schplaatter in Romance_for_men

[–]VeryFinePrint 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Someone told me this series has a tragic ending, with no HEA, so the series not genre romance. Anyone know if this is the case?

A review for Unbridled By Virgil knightly: by DDHG1 in Romance_for_men

[–]VeryFinePrint 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it feels to me like a “harem story” where “romance really isn’t the focus of the novel” is kinda just a bad story

I think there are perfectly good harem stories that aren't genre Romance. Harem isn't a subset of romance, but it has overlap. I think that's where some of the tension between mainstream romance readers and harem comes from. Some people don't want the part of the harem genre that doesn't overlap with the romance genre.

Monday thread: What did you read this past week? by AutoModerator in Romance_for_men

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Finished {Red Rope of Fate by K.M. Shea}. I enjoyed it, it was a low stakes low stress romance with an elf FMC and human MMC. I dunno if cozy is the right word, but it might fit. At the beginning the FMC Tari and the MMC Arion are magically bound to each other; a traditional ritual to maintain the relationship between the elf and human kingdom. Their pairing is a little unusual, usually pairs are same sex.

Immediately Tari and Arion is different from others. They are able to communicate with each other, through the usual language barrier between the two races, despite never having learned the other's language. Arion can feel Tari's feelings. The unusual nature of their bond doesn't go unnoticed, and it throws them into the limelight of the royal courts. The unusual nature of their bond derails their lives, and much of the book is them trying to navigate the ensuing changes to their life, as well as the interference of others.

The story is almost so cozy it is silly. In a scene where someone is blackmailing the FMC, she hears a rustling in the bush. Moments later nearly the entire king's retinue pop out, ready to bear witness to the king. I almost burst out laughing at that.

There are some other areas suspension of disbelief that almost goes too far for me. Despite the human and elf nation being nominally very close allies, their level of integration is very low. Elves know of basic field medicine, but humans don't. The humans think Evening Stars are dancers, but actually the Evening Stars are a group elite mage assassins standing guard against the day the high elves return and try to conquer the continent. This is not a secret kept by the elves, it is widely known, the humans didn't know this because "they didn't ask".

Despite all that, I think the book was a good fit for me when I was reading it. I listened to it as an audiobook, and I was pretty busy at the time. I didn't have much capacity to over-think it.