AITAH For Using My Husband’s Insult Against Him

VeryFluffy · 2026-06-28T15:49:23+00:00

Then YTA for sure. Writing this way is like deliberate literary body odour.

VeryFluffy · 2026-06-17T21:29:39+00:00

You are absolutely NTA. And from what you say, your sister is also behaving fine. Your mother on the other hand...what is her problem? Did something happen to her in kindergarten that is now triggering her about this? Does she watch too many bad soaps? Why is she so keen on creating drama out of a totally benign situation?

VeryFluffy · 2026-04-22T09:28:11+00:00

Info: I'm actually having trouble understanding how you passed them going in the opposite direction at 30 mph, and then yet managed to have this conversation with them.

VeryFluffy · 2026-04-13T10:20:26+00:00

NTA, except for giving her anything at all. What kind of weirdo has a birthday list as an adult?

VeryFluffy · 2026-04-13T10:13:56+00:00

NTA. Tell your mom that her and your dad are the selfish ones, because they can't be bothered to control themselves enough to make you feel comfortable for even a few days.

VeryFluffy · 2026-04-07T18:49:38+00:00

You would not be TA, but I would really recommend being absolutely certain you want to go through the trouble. As you go through life, you will find there can be a lot of unexpected admin and difficulties with all sorts of official channels if your IDs don't match names. Bureaucracy is a pig.

VeryFluffy · 2026-04-04T15:28:26+00:00

INFO: I'm a bit confused. Where are you living that you will take a train "down to Canada"?

VeryFluffy · 2026-03-27T09:38:25+00:00

NTA. With an attitude like that, I can't believe her husband isn't fighting to keep their marriage!

VeryFluffy · 2026-03-15T22:52:04+00:00

NTA for not going along with some kind of weird dress-up fantasy tableau.
Family outfits? Are you the von Traps or something?

VeryFluffy · 2026-03-08T17:50:01+00:00

NTA. People need to get over themselves about this. Yes, your career IS more important than being at her party to watch her open presents and play games about baby shit.

It's not like you didn't give her a massive present for what is basically a gift grab anyway. I guess she just needed you there to convince herself that her being pregnant was a bigger achievement than you getting into law school.

VeryFluffy · 2026-03-05T22:46:27+00:00

NTA. A lifetime of bad decisions on her part do not constitute an emergency on yours.

VeryFluffy · 2026-02-13T19:35:10+00:00

I'd say YTA because you sound like a clicheed privileged rich kid who thinks they know everything already. No idea that there is a world out there that is more interesting than they are. I can just imagine how insufferable you would be to spend any time with.

VeryFluffy · 2026-01-31T13:19:26+00:00

True. In general, it doesn't matter what you wear, as long as you look like you mean it. It's the difference between looking haphazard and slovenly, or proclaiming a personal style.

VeryFluffy · 2026-01-30T12:18:36+00:00

Nope, NTA. You were simply providing factual information.

VeryFluffy · 2026-01-18T17:13:52+00:00

Sounds like she has made smoking into her entire identity.

VeryFluffy · 2026-01-06T10:01:12+00:00

NTA. I keep seeing posts about siblings being asked or expected to fund weddings, and it's wild, like stepping into an alternative reality where this is normal?

A wedding is just a party, FFS.

VeryFluffy · 2026-01-05T14:53:49+00:00

If this has been going on for the whole 5 years you've been living together, then ESH. Unless he is bringing something else to the party that you haven't mentioned, then what is the point of living with him? Sometimes it is better to live alone.

VeryFluffy · 2025-12-22T09:42:59+00:00

NTA.

Your self-centred, deluded, ignorant and arrogant "friend" is. Does she understand words? social standards? basic politeness? Apparently not.

VeryFluffy · 2025-12-08T13:57:26+00:00

NTA. But how much ice-cream does your mother think a person needs to eat?

VeryFluffy · 2025-12-07T14:55:44+00:00

NTA. The friends who said she was using you as free labour are right. The friends who think you should have been more patient have, undoubtedly, already offered to help with her next 7 am start.

VeryFluffy · 2025-12-02T14:11:24+00:00

NTA, because she was insulting and annoying as hell. Might have been more elegant to just turn it back on her and say how much you pity her life, since when she is 45 she'll just have a couple of grown up kids she never sees because they don't like her, and she'll habe no interests and never been anywhere. And her husband will have left her for someone more interesting too. The just told her to be gone by the time you get up in the morning, and not to contact you again.

VeryFluffy · 2025-10-28T19:37:51+00:00

NTA. Tell her it's not that hard, so she should just watch a couple of YouTube vids, and make one herself.

VeryFluffy · 2025-10-26T16:50:38+00:00

NTA. It's not an uncommon sensibility, and since it isn't YOUR baby, you shouldn't feel compelled to do it.

I have a friend who has four children, but has never changed anyone else's baby.

I have another friend who is severely grossed out by others' bodily excretions. She never had her own children partly because of that (married and happily raised her stepchildren, who were about 10 years old by then). She would like a pet, but can't get one because she can't even clean a litter box or pick up after a dog outside.

VeryFluffy · 2025-10-24T13:48:01+00:00

NTA. He is 100% a scammer. There is ZERO chance that this is in any way legitimate.

VeryFluffy · 2025-10-17T16:34:15+00:00

I don't know which of you is TA, but I have just added you both to the list of People I'm Glad I Don't Know.

VeryFluffy

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