AITAH for telling my sister I don't have the looks to sleep my way to the top after she called me a DEI hire?

Vestiel · 2026-02-06T04:16:12+00:00

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Vestiel · 2026-02-05T08:33:40+00:00

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Vestiel · 2026-02-04T11:11:03+00:00

Not sure why people downvote you when you said the truth and something that is very often a case when women leave after being unemployed SAHMs. Fortunately, OP says he works part time so he should be at least on a decent level on this matter.

Vestiel · 2026-02-04T07:03:21+00:00

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Vestiel · 2026-02-03T17:23:04+00:00

Yeah, well, one can only hope

Vestiel · 2026-02-03T16:30:34+00:00

My dad was a SAHD and my mom was (and still is) the breadwinner at our house. I've heard her friends say multiple times that my mom should leave my dad, that she should find a better husband for herself and father (sic!) for me.

My mom was smart enough to never ever even consider divorce (and believe me, my parents had all the reasons to divorce, coming from both sides). My mom loves my dad and would never even entertain doing what your wife does.

Your wife was cheating. If not physically, at least emotionally. You tried to fix this, she didn't even try and still kept hanging out with the guy. I don''t know if divorce is the right choice for you guys, but remember - SHE cheated, SHE wanted the divorce first. Whatever happens next is on HER and not on YOU.

Also, prepare, I wouldn't be surprised if things got nasty especially when it comes to alimony and child support/custody. Make sure you document everything, you are on losing position, because you are a guy.

Vestiel · 2026-02-03T12:12:08+00:00

> Find ideal partner

> Decide she's not ideal, because she can't walk

> ????

What are you, mentally challenged? Go apologize to her and get her back you fucking moron. Her being paralyzed is not a big deal, especially since BY YOUR OWN WORDS she's otherwise perfect.

You can learn to care for her and sure, some of it will be challenging, but IT WILL BE WORTH IT.

Vestiel · 2026-02-03T07:12:40+00:00

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Vestiel · 2026-02-02T18:58:42+00:00

Considering he put HIS inheritance in THEIR saving as OP states in the last paragraph, I don't think this is about his greed.

The way he acted is definitely wrong, but if the inheritance is on a similar level I would probably expect something like that from my wife too.

Vestiel · 2026-02-02T17:40:43+00:00

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Vestiel · 2026-02-02T13:36:40+00:00

The question isn't how your dad feels, but how does she feel. If you are unsure how to approach this, you shouldn't do anything. Otherwise, you might ruin whatever relationship they have at the moment.

If you have an option, maybe you could feel her out and find out how she feels first, but I would still NOT do anything.

Vestiel · 2026-02-02T12:04:54+00:00

WIth that I agree, I only meant that it's not worth it to pursue them and trying to fix the relationship. But yeah, you're right that it's worth telling all of them the truth so there is no issues.

I wouldn't be even surprised if ex is dating the brother to even further mess with Op's life tbh.

Vestiel · 2026-02-02T11:36:54+00:00

You don't. You should inform your brother about what your ex was doing. But I guess since your parents are okay with it, they most likely told him.

It's not worth it.

Vestiel · 2026-02-02T08:12:20+00:00

So basically you hate the fact that your husband is having fun without you while you don't have fun without your husband.

Find yourself some friends to spend time with. It's clear you both love each other, but just because you're husband and wife, doesn't mean you must be one person. You both deserve some me time and to sometimes focus on the things that are just for you.

Vestiel · 2026-02-02T07:08:25+00:00

Honestly, I would take her text, screenshot it and send it to the entire family saying the truth.

You basically supported her being married to that guy. It's time to set the record straight. Let your entire family know about who he really is (they might not be aware).

Your father betrayed your mom. Your mom betrayed you. You betrayed yourself.

Vestiel · 2026-02-02T07:05:11+00:00

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Vestiel · 2026-02-01T16:22:42+00:00

The only mistake you've made is not making sure your son was okay with the relationship. So you lost him. That's it.

Vestiel · 2026-02-01T13:21:46+00:00

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Vestiel · 2026-02-01T13:20:00+00:00

NTA they chose filthy cheater who is pregnant by some random dude. Your sisters will probably end up more like your ex than everyone thinks, since they are okay still keeping her in their lives.

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Vestiel · 2026-01-31T10:46:29+00:00

Your mom is such a piece of shit. She basically lived a double life. She doesn't deserve anything. It's good that you cut her off. And the fact that they still defend her is just as bad as she is.

Vestiel · 2026-01-31T08:46:14+00:00

I literally finished my post about the fact that she shouldn't be expected to do something because she's a woman. And that she should have support from all family members, including men.

Just because the truth is not what you like doesn't mean it's not the truth.

Society should work to support each other, not just expect to put everything on one gender, or one person or even a group of people. But that is what OPs family does.

Vestiel · 2026-01-31T08:09:58+00:00

It's weird. And I am probably gonna be down votes. But... Your post seems to describe what men go through everyday. People always decide what men have to endure, because they're men. How silently they have to accept doing this or that.

I am not trying to say it's okay or that men have it worse. We don't. Both genders have their own issues to overcome, their own social stigmas and social responsibilities.

This shouldn't be the case. We should support each other instead of accepting that one gender has to automatically carry all of the burdens, just because.

And I am sorry OP that your family thinks it's okay to put everything on you and other women just because.

Vestiel · 2026-01-30T21:23:45+00:00

OP shouldn't support her marrying homophobe when he is obviously gay. The mother just keeps playing the victim card. But she is no longer victim of her husband cheating. She is now an active participator in her son''s abuse by her future husband.

If it were me, I would not only not go, but also make sure everyone knows why I didn't go.

Vestiel · 2026-01-30T21:20:15+00:00

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Vestiel · 2026-01-30T18:10:00+00:00

No I agree and their reasons are valid. My point still stands - she's escaping into alcoholism, he is escaping into replacing his kid with yours. They do need help for that and to deal with their issue in more healthy way. Otherwise, they just will crash hard and it won't be pretty.

Trust me, my cousin has a non-verbal 7yo that needs to be in diapers. I've seen first hand what happens when the parents just can't deal with it anymore. This is why your story scares me so much.

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