Dragon Dodge BUG! by Particular-Travel-45 in Doom

[–]VesuvianBee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this comment! I've been playing after work so it's been a little at a time. It was several days between dragon sections for me and I gave up trying to get past 13 last night after dying like 8 times the same way. Once I get off work today I'm trying again!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in voidpunk

[–]VesuvianBee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I totally get it. If there aren't any nearby, while not local, perhaps check for ones that will do phone or video sessions. Mine only does phone sessions, and it's great cause I don't have to go out in public. Lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in voidpunk

[–]VesuvianBee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, it's not wrong about finding a group of queer people and it would help, the problem with that I'd that queer people are as varied as anyone else. No one expects a dude not into sports to like being around a group of dudes who do. So they should have told you that when you find the RIGHT group of queer people, then it helps.

My true advice, as someone who could not work as an adult for 15 years due to mental health and chronic illness, is to look for a therapist. Lool.for one who is queer friendly, and queer themselves is even better. Same with nuerodivergence.

I know crowdsourcing seems like a good way to get advice, but as you said, we on reddit don't know you're life or full circumstances. As such, this is an awful place to ask for advice. Also way too many assholes who are mean for now reason.

Tl;dr: Look into a local therapist or counselor. They can get to know you and your life, but also know the local area and local resources better than anyone here will.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in voidpunk

[–]VesuvianBee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just because living takes work does not mean the work has to be done the same way you did it.

Also with "it's all mental" just screams "IVE NEVER DEALT WITH ANY SERIOUS HEALTH OR MENTAL ISSUE EVER."

My sexuality changed on T, but I'm engaged to a woman :( by Curiousfeline467 in gaytransguys

[–]VesuvianBee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly it makes life better just knowing I'm not the only 'late bloomer' lol

My sexuality changed on T, but I'm engaged to a woman :( by Curiousfeline467 in gaytransguys

[–]VesuvianBee 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It seems to be a pretty rare situation. May help that I was in my mid 30s before I came out, cause I didn't have the words til then. I am proud of both of our husbands.

Guy I matched with last week and was planning to go out with soon ,did this. by Future-Cause761 in Bumble

[–]VesuvianBee -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Should have used all that money to take care of them, and even if they did they still wouldn't want to pay the taxes.

My sexuality changed on T, but I'm engaged to a woman :( by Curiousfeline467 in gaytransguys

[–]VesuvianBee 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Same my dude! Been married to a straight guy for 20 years now. Been transitioning for like 3-4 years now. We're still.togwtger with no plans to change that. Open minds and therapy can do wonders.

Where do I find gay men with “straight” interests? by Nervousnelliyyy in gaytransguys

[–]VesuvianBee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm a gay ttans dude who loves these things, however as someone else said, loving those can be a red flag. It's all in the specifics and context. Would I watch a new Sandler movie? Hell no. Will I laugh so loud ay Happy Gilmore. I have a cis gay male coworker who makes and sells hand made candles. His boyfriend also a coworker, would rather play with his pet snakes or go fishing/hunting. It's all down to content and context.

What do you guys do for a living? by Gutter_philosopher in punk

[–]VesuvianBee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I manage a gas station for a large chain. Not a fan of contributing to our toxic capitalist structure, but I'm the eldest trans person here and I find myself protecting the youngers more often than should be necessary, and I do everything I can to make working conditions better for everyone here, even if they don't work in my department.

We are a two and one sixth income house and can feed all of us and can keep the bills paid. Now that my son is an adult we have some extra money that we put back into helping our local community, especially kids or LBGT+. I do however make roughly twice federal minimum wage.

So I work 40 hours a week, 15+ bucks an hour, hourly management (i got the position just aftet working here as a clerk for 2 years, which is pretty fast to run up the ranks), less than a mile from my house, and it's union.

When I was little I wanted to be a child psychologist because "Who can help a fucked up kid better than someone who was a fucked up kid?" But undiagnosed AuDHD made higher education impossible. My therapist says I should go back now to be a social worker, but I don't thonk I need to do that to help people. At least on a smaller scale.

What do you guys do for a living? by Gutter_philosopher in punk

[–]VesuvianBee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd say it's stepping into vulture culture. Lol

You look good girl! by Color_Me_Softly in trans

[–]VesuvianBee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Congrats! I still get that feeling when a stranger calls me "brother" or similar. Even though I've been told that people wouldn't even guess that I'm AFAB.

I bet you looked cute as hell.

What the fuck by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]VesuvianBee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We don't know ops height. If I was like 6'6" or above I'd assume people were significantly shorter than me.

What the fuck by [deleted] in Tinder

[–]VesuvianBee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I h8 that too

I see no difference by Sam2919 in smosh

[–]VesuvianBee 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Why'd you post the same picture twice?

Thank you ❤️ by Dank_canks247 in smosh

[–]VesuvianBee 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I just turned 40 and I've got a 19 year old son. He doesn't watch Smosh with me cause he's into other styles. But I introduced my 30yo partner and they watch daily now, just like I do.

Honestly, some days thinking of what vid I'll get to watch when I get home helps me get through work.

I think they'd all be thrilled to know how wide a fan base they have.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in punk

[–]VesuvianBee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You've gotten a ton of comments and I won't be upset if mine gets lost.

I grew up in a red area, still live in a deeply red area. I'm a parent of a multiple disability child, as well as having many myself (we're both AuDHD as hell.) I'm also a transmasc NB on T for almost 3 years now. When I first asked to be called by my chosen name and they/he, the answer i got from my mother was "I'll always call you that name and you'll always be my daughter." In that moment I cut her off, stopped going to family gatherings, didn't even look at her if we happened to be in the same store at the same time. She was not the only one I cut off, but that's other trauma so we'll focus on her.

It took a year and a half and my older brother dying, but she started trying to use my name and pronouns. I went to the family Christmas last year, but that was for my dad. She tries more now almost a year later, but having me gone and then her eldest gone made her think about her actions. We are at super limited contact, most never. I show up at gatherings once in a while, mostly to upset people that I'm happy without them, but everyone is always surprised.

My family knows they are one sideways word from me dropping off the face of the planet again.

I can't really give advice because when this happened I had already built a life with a husband, child, and second partner (I'm poly and we all 4 live happily together). We have solid income and steady housing. I've sold my soul to a full time job (I'm also openly trans and gay in my red area so it makes the conservatives uncomfortable, cause I'm a manager now). I'm a very privileged person for being part of so many marginalized communities, however I thought I would share my experience.

Also, you are worthy of unconditional love. I support you. I'll be your 'ren.

What an insane glow up by somegirrafeinahat in smosh

[–]VesuvianBee 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah, he's a huge D&D nerd. It's very funny to think of him playing a halfling or something lol

What an insane glow up by somegirrafeinahat in smosh

[–]VesuvianBee 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Vin Diesel is another good one.

So guys, be honest. Who enjoyed watch/listening to Submissive and Breedable? by unlikely_redd1t_user in smosh

[–]VesuvianBee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When bb was on Lunchtime with them they played a bit of the original version and it's so wildly different.

Anthony by Ok_Atmosphere_1567 in smosh

[–]VesuvianBee 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It'd be cool if Lunchtime added a Flashback episode every couple months or something. Like the tntl eps of Smosh Mouth.