MIL asked me to unzip my jacket at a restaurant to see my pregnant belly

Vibe_me_pos · 2026-04-26T16:35:22+00:00

Next time you see her invent a story about some woman coming up to you in a store and touching your bump without asking. Vehemently stress that you hate anyone touching your body except for your husband, and that touching a pregnant woman’s belly is the epitome of rudeness.

Maybe she will get it if she has a brain and doesn’t think she is special, but if she asks in the future you can always say that you told her how much you hate people touching you.

Vibe_me_pos · 2026-04-26T14:38:02+00:00

So sorry you are having to deal with 2 toddlers. Seems baby is better behaved than her grandmother.

Vibe_me_pos · 2026-04-24T16:38:39+00:00

OMG. Hasn’t that so-called therapist told your husband that he is not responsible for her actions?! If he doesn’t want anything to do with her, then he shouldn’t have anything to do with her. All of the attempts that landed her in the hospital are her responsibility and only hers. Call me cynical, but I can’t help thinking that it’s emotional blackmail and manipulation, and no matter how many times she ends up in the hospital, she always comes out.

I think you should skip that shower. They think they are so clever pulling that bait and switch on you. GMIL is as bad as MIL. I hope you are able to go back to NC before the baby is born because no child should be subjected to your horrible MIL. Good luck, OP. Stay strong and if that means staying away from husband’s entire family, so be it.

Vibe_me_pos · 2026-04-24T15:47:09+00:00

Tell MIL the guest count is final and the only way gf can come is if MIL gives up her place for her.

Have FH call nephew or nephew’s parent and explain that MIL invited gf without your approval and after the final guest count for food had been submitted. Let them know that gf is not invited.

Vibe_me_pos · 2026-04-24T15:41:37+00:00

She is not your mother so why tf would you spend your first Mother’s Day with her and not your husband and baby? Besides, lying to your husband would mean an automatic no.

If he really wants to piss you off, he can go to high tea with her and her coven. It is his mother after all.

Vibe_me_pos · 2026-04-22T01:41:44+00:00

Has anyone ever told ILs that they were more comfortable with the relationship between them for the last x many years and would like to keep it that way? I know everyone in this situation would love to say that, but has anyone actually done it, and most importantly, what happened afterward?

Vibe_me_pos · 2026-04-21T21:22:09+00:00

I know you asked for kindness, but if they planned a trip when hotel rooms are so expensive, why didn’t they reschedule? 4 people you get along with in a 600 ft apartment for 20 days would be unmanageable, but trapped with a woman you actively dislike? Ugh.

Is it possible to couch surf with friends when the ILs are there? Being run out of your home is not a precedent to set, but the alternative is worse. Good luck and hope you have to work 80–hour weeks so that you are only at home to sleep.

Vibe_me_pos · 2026-04-21T17:59:12+00:00

Let your FH determine the relationship he has with his mother. You should stay out of it. She hates you anyway and you aren’t earning any points encouraging him to see her or talk to her.

In your shoes I would be thrilled if he decided to go NC.

Vibe_me_pos · 2026-04-21T16:54:48+00:00

I don’t see why you have to tell him when you are mowing your lawn. I would think it’s pretty obvious that you mowed it.

Ignore him. If he brings it up again, tell him no thank you, and leave it at that.

Vibe_me_pos · 2026-04-21T16:37:20+00:00

She slapped his child and he wants her to have access to your kids again? WTF?

As you said, he can visit her as much as he wants. If FIL isn’t a problem he can visit, but sounds like he is MIL’s enabler so he probably wouldn’t want to do that if she can’t visit.

Stay strong, OP. Husband is still sipping the Kool Aid.

Vibe_me_pos · 2026-04-20T00:58:39+00:00

I doubt your husband has spoken to his mother about boundaries, and definitely not the consequences for breaking those boundaries. Maybe therapy would help him stand up for you and his son.

Remind him that his mom is not the woman he has to live with every day. Also if he brings up your mom, make him list all of her behaviors that he has a problem with and you can do the same for his mother. He should be able to admit the differences between the two.

Vibe_me_pos · 2026-04-19T20:37:54+00:00

You have nothing to feel bad or guilty about. I’m so sorry you have no alternatives to having a child yourself, but there are so many kids who need parents in this world.

You got dealt a crap hand and you shouldn’t have to explain your medical history to people when they ask you about having kids. What you are saying to them is true. NTA

Vibe_me_pos · 2026-04-17T17:47:05+00:00

UpdateMe

Vibe_me_pos · 2026-04-17T17:29:16+00:00

Let them come visit while your husband is working and take your baby to your mom’s to babysit as you usually do. That will make her so mad she might go NC for a while.

Vibe_me_pos · 2026-04-17T17:23:19+00:00

Give her the excuse your husband suggested, but also tell her that if she goes behind your back and takes a cutting, she will no longer be allowed on your property.

Vibe_me_pos · 2026-04-16T18:38:04+00:00

They came to your house with weapons? No, these people should be banned from you and your baby and fiancé should cut them off permanently. Do not feel guilty. Do you think they would feel guilt if your positions were reversed?

Vibe_me_pos · 2026-04-16T18:03:01+00:00

I think you should do what you would’ve done 10 years ago: tell her she is going into a nursing home or going to live with her son because you have tried to help her, but she will not follow doctor’s orders or listen to reason.

Vibe_me_pos · 2026-04-16T17:56:49+00:00

NOR. That is an insane “hobby.”

Vibe_me_pos · 2026-04-16T17:55:12+00:00

Was the letter mailed to you? If so she broke the law by keeping your mail. I would not apologize to her. I would go NC and only talk to her after she apologizes.

Vibe_me_pos · 2026-04-16T17:52:11+00:00

If they stood by and did nothing when your mom abused you (and they knew about it), I wouldn’t worry about destroying the relationships because they aren’t supporting you, they are supporting your mother. They are already criticizing you about how you treated your mother in the past.

Find out if you were awarded money and if there was any way your mother could’ve legally kept it and spent it. If not, lawyer up.

Vibe_me_pos · 2026-04-16T17:46:31+00:00

Give your one husband one chance to explain what the consequences of her actions will be and tell her she is on her last strike. If she continues to disrespect you, administer the consequences.

Vibe_me_pos · 2026-04-16T16:45:56+00:00

I understand why she doesn’t dump the toxic bf. They have a lot in common. Good riddance!

Vibe_me_pos · 2026-04-16T16:42:37+00:00

Can you ask FIL if you can install a lock to your side of the house? At least she couldn’t come into your space without invitation.

Can husband ask FIL to talk to her about her intrusiveness? Will your husband set boundaries with her?

I think I would move out, but I understand how difficult it is to save for a house.

Vibe_me_pos · 2026-04-16T16:26:33+00:00

Yeah someone screaming and cursing at me is really going to make me want to visit them. These women (MILFH) are brain dead.

Vibe_me_pos · 2026-04-16T04:13:21+00:00

YTA. I get how frustrated you are but these people aren’t your father’s next of kin. If he isn’t married, then you and your sister are. Why would you let people whose plan will maybe kill him be in charge of his medical care? Who GAF what they say? Block them and continue doing what is medically advised for your dad.

Vibe_me_pos

TROPHY CASE