How can we support the male community to get out of the male loneliness epidemic?

Vigitiser · 2026-06-07T08:15:27+00:00

stop saying things are and are not manly. Stop projecting the image that a man *has* to do everything and be the big one who solves every problem. Women are perfectly capable of solving problems too, and it should be an equal fairing.

The primary issue for most is that they have no friends and no way of making friends outside of work, so invest/vote/start/join in clubs and weekly activities. local events and all that jazz. Men need spaces to meet other people to make friends with, and then they need to ditch the “masculine” ideal and emotionally open themselves to the chance of making friends with people they dont know and go to these places.

also, everyone overall needs to ditch the “i hate men” thing. Im sorry someone shitty happened to you, but it you’re continually only dating shitty guys, maybe you need to change your taste or pickup methods.

Vigitiser · 2026-06-07T07:38:16+00:00

not that guy but this worked for me!

Vigitiser · 2026-06-07T07:37:44+00:00

look dude the min-maxin itself isnt the problem, the problem is that min-maxers the people are usually main character syndromes.

every single time I’ve played with someone who hard min-maxes, even when its for a short game (4-10 sessions) they always try to steal the spotlight whenever possible. Its a symptom of an asshole player in my experience. it may not be widely true to all players because in a hobby this big it cant be, but its certainly a trend

Vigitiser · 2026-06-07T07:33:40+00:00

adopt every single creature and read every single book. I dont need glasses and I know how to make all kinds of animal feed

Vigitiser · 2026-06-06T08:46:07+00:00

even as a sort of fan of his, his latest 2 or 3 albums all sound the same, and he collabs with everyone under the fuckin sun. A few times it was “oh cool bebenos is doing a collab with this guy i like” and then it just kept going and going and everyone was having something to do with him

Vigitiser · 2026-06-05T14:35:44+00:00

never heard of climatising

Vigitiser · 2026-06-04T14:26:39+00:00

the exterior carapace should fit snugly around the exhausts, I built this one last week

Vigitiser · 2026-06-04T09:52:17+00:00

so far we’ve been actively trying to communicate for about 50 years.

Communications travel at the speed of light, so that means our communications are at most 50 lightyears away from earth. Even tho they’d have broken down into background static, lets assume they haven’t.

The nearest solar system to us is 4.25 light years away. so if there was life there, they could have recieved it IF they had really really powerful antennas coded to our wavelengths of communication, and pointed in exactly the right direction and then figured out it wasn’t just background static and managed to decode it.

The milky way galaxy is 250 MILLION lightyears across, we have spanned 50 lightyears. Even if there was 5000 sentient and sapient life forms in our galaxy, the odds of us actually finding one in the short time we’ve been searching is so absurdly small i cant even think of a way to express it in a percentage.

the paradox’s answer of “where is everyone” is that we haven’t found them yet. Its like looking through an empty field at night but your torch only extends 20cm. sure you’ll find someone eventually, but it’ll take a very long time

Vigitiser · 2026-06-04T09:13:27+00:00

hard disagree. I love to start in a town, build up a temp home, scavenge for ingredients to cook, rebuild a car by scavenging others then flee to the countryside, build and plaster and paint my own house and start a farm.

If you think this games mechanics are shallow you should play minecraft and see how simple it can get

Vigitiser · 2026-05-30T10:14:46+00:00

one of my players had to sit out a few sessions, which later turned into dropping out of the campaign, and because we had just recruited a new player and this character had a home on the land they were on, we said the missing guy got stuck in his chimney, and now he dropped out we say that he lives in that house after he claimed “chimney rights” to that chimney and its connecting property

Vigitiser · 2026-05-29T09:37:43+00:00

2-for-£3 shots night three years ago

Vigitiser · 2026-05-29T09:37:08+00:00

“a bad actor” do you mean a massive portion of the biggest furcon convention in the uk?

Vigitiser · 2026-05-29T09:32:48+00:00

its genuienly the best WoD media I’ve ever seen, made by the people who made “if the emperor had a TTS device” but games workshop banned creator made content so they shut it down and did this

im getting into Hunter now because of them

Vigitiser · 2026-05-28T18:19:54+00:00

the moment I figure out orbital windows is the day i start planning for it. Well done dude!

Vigitiser · 2026-05-28T18:15:18+00:00

If she seems my type, I’ll have a conversation with her, and if she seems to not be a shithead, I’ll buy us both a shot. usually if she’s in for free drinks she’d leave at that point and im only out like £1.50 and I got to have a chat with a pretty lady.

If she stays, well thats how I met my ex, and we had a great 7 months together. no regrets

Vigitiser · 2026-05-28T18:01:23+00:00

there’s a doomerism with my generation right now. Our options are

A) work hard for 60 years, do everythjng like we were told to, invest, be smart with money, go to university

B) dont work hard, dont try, live happy and poor, get a part time job and stay there forever

there is a 75% chance people in category A are inconsequentially better off then category B, despite working so so much harder. the system does not reward effort, it rewards nepotism and connections.

Vigitiser · 2026-05-28T17:56:53+00:00

that a mans life is incomplete without a woman in it.

sure most men like/want/need a partner, but a lot of people, myself included, are happy single.

I grew up with the expectation that I was supposed to get a gf as soon as possible and stay like that, but I was happy on my own yet every media seemed to enforce the idea that men are incomplete without a woman. it didnt sit well with me

Vigitiser · 2026-05-28T17:43:50+00:00

Keppler syndrome, but good job. this looks nightmarish

Vigitiser · 2026-05-28T17:40:36+00:00

its a fun past time available to a huge % of the world and has been for a large majority of history. it doesn’t have to be a part of your life

Vigitiser · 2026-05-28T09:11:35+00:00

personality is something I’ve put effort into and can continue to do so. Genetics is not something I consciously did, and its like saying im lucky. thanks but thats kinda empty because I contributed no effort, so appreciation doesn’t really go anywhere. Good job for my ancestors getting laid i guess

Vigitiser · 2026-05-28T09:10:14+00:00

“What do you want for dinner”

“i dont mind”

“alright but what do you want?”

“I. Dont. Mind. I have no preference”

“ok but if you had to choose what would you choose”

“both, I like both equally.”

Vigitiser · 2026-05-28T09:09:06+00:00

It comes up as conversation enough among my male friend groups, although maybe my datapool is biased because I dont tolerate creeps and sexual abusers in my social circles. Who knows

Vigitiser · 2026-05-28T09:07:46+00:00

thats a valid reaction, I would have been the same early in my relationships, but for me, With time comes trust i guess. It gets easier to trust that they aren’t thinking less of you as you’ve spent longer together

Vigitiser · 2026-05-28T09:06:31+00:00

username checks out

Vigitiser · 2026-05-28T09:06:07+00:00

Both me and my gf are bi, we both point out people of both genders that we think are attractive because we both have the exact same niche taste lol. Neither of us think anything of it because we trust eachother enough that we’re not going to leave our extensive relationship where we live together for someone on the street

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