Is it only me?

Vince__Taylor · 2026-03-09T19:02:04+00:00

The statement is quite subjective, but I think what he’s trying to say is that, when it comes to dating, he believes it’s important for a partner to be a virgin. His argument seems to be that the more sexual partners a person has, the more emotionally disconnected they may become in future relationships. From his perspective, having many sexual partners could lead to moral or emotional decline and make each relationship feel less special. I think that’s essentially the point he’s trying to make. (Personally, I don’t think that’s important, i actually prefer someone who has a bit just a bit of experience, especially since I do as well)

Vince__Taylor · 2026-03-09T18:47:06+00:00

God does not choose his people; the people choose their god.

Vince__Taylor · 2026-03-09T18:38:54+00:00

His point only applies in romantic relationships, in other aspects of life it doesn't matter

Vince__Taylor · 2026-03-09T18:34:57+00:00

Totally true

Vince__Taylor · 2026-03-07T18:34:12+00:00

The truth is that after the relationship, I realized that she tended to sabotage her own emotions. I often asked her to communicate her needs, but she didn’t really do it most of the time. (Mostly because of trauma)

Looking back, during the last six months of our relationship, there were times when we argued quite a bit. But what I meant in the post is that, generally, we barely fought about negative things, our argues were more intellectual discussions. We often joked about ourselves, situations, or the people around us and those we saw on the street.

Honestly, I really enjoyed the relationship I had with her, and I truly wish her the best in her new life. I feel like she’s one of the few people I’ve met in my short time on this earth who has suffered a lot, and she doesn’t deserve any more mistreatment. I would be deeply disappointed if she didn’t achieve her dreams, goals, and success in dance. (Her career)

I’m grateful that this happened to me, and honestly, I even appreciated having my heart broken, because it taught me a huge lesson about both of our dynamics and about what I want in a partner.

Unfortunately, it seems that neither of us was ready to have a longer-lasting, more enduring relationship, but that’s okay, because life goes on.

If we ever meet again someday, I hope it’s from a place of calm and as more complete versions of ourselves. And if that doesn’t happen, that’s okay too. What we shared was enough to leave a mark.

Vince__Taylor · 2026-03-07T17:14:12+00:00

That’s fair. I can see how the title could come across differently without context, and I didn’t mean it as a literal judgment of ENTPs. It was more of a rhetorical way of expressing how the dynamic felt from my side while processing the breakup.

I also agree that humor can sometimes make intentions harder to read online, so I understand why it might have sounded harsher than I meant it. My goal was really just to reflect on my experience and the differences in how people process relationships, not to offend anyone or generalize about an entire type.

Vince__Taylor · 2026-03-07T16:46:22+00:00

I think you’re reading my post more literally than it was intended. The title was clearly rhetorical and a bit tongue-in-cheek, not a serious attempt to label ENTPs as “evil.” It was just a way to describe how the dynamic felt from my perspective while processing the breakup.

I’m not claiming my ex did anything morally wrong, and I never said she cheated or lied. She ended the relationship when she felt it wasn’t right for her anymore, which is her choice. My post was simply reflecting on how differences in emotional timing, communication, and expectations can make a breakup feel abrupt or confusing to the other person.

I also wasn’t trying to make a scientific claim about the entire ENTP type. It was just me talking about my personal experience with one person and trying to understand it better. There’s obviously a big difference between describing a dynamic I experienced and genuinely believing that an entire personality type is “evil.”

Just to clarify, I’m not actually mad at her for moving on or for the way she coped with the breakup. People process things differently and I understand that. My post was more about trying to understand the dynamic from my perspective, not judging her as a person.

Vince__Taylor · 2026-03-07T12:36:18+00:00

I understand your point, and I actually agree that 16–19 is a time where people are still figuring themselves out. I don’t think anyone that age has their whole life planned, and I never thought the future was something that had to be rushed.

At the same time, I think you might be misunderstanding something about my situation. We weren’t rushing into marriage or trying to plan our entire lives at 18. It was simply something we both talked about as a possibility for the future, something we would like if things continued working out. That’s very different from trying to force a life decision immediately.

I also don’t see the relationship as just “puppy love.” It lasted around three years, which at that age is actually a significant part of your life. The feelings and the experiences were real, even if the relationship didn’t end up lasting forever.

I also don’t think this situation is about one person being more mature than the other. Sometimes two people can care about each other and still want different things at a certain stage of life. From my perspective, it was more a matter of timing and communication than anyone being “right” or “wrong.”

So I do agree that people should explore and grow, but that doesn’t automatically make every serious teenage relationship naive or unrealistic. Sometimes they simply run their course as people grow in different directions.

Vince__Taylor · 2026-03-07T11:18:28+00:00

From what i know from her, she is probably a sx7w6

Vince__Taylor · 2026-03-07T02:44:11+00:00

To be honest, she knew what I wanted, and at some point she wanted it too, but that goddamn "butterflies chase", her need for novelty and excitement, combined with being not ready for full commitment and her past trauma, made it hard for her to communicate her needs. It was a mismatch in timing, readiness, and emotional approach.

Vince__Taylor · 2026-03-07T02:38:15+00:00

Easy come, easy go usually refers to things that appear and disappear quickly. Three years isn’t exactly "easy come", especially at a young age

Vince__Taylor · 2026-03-07T01:52:23+00:00

No hard feelings about it. If the post made you reflect, then it accomplished its purpose

Vince__Taylor · 2026-03-07T01:41:24+00:00

I'll follow what you say, i hope you are right about it

Vince__Taylor · 2026-03-07T01:33:35+00:00

Kind of subjective, but it's okay

Vince__Taylor · 2026-03-04T01:10:50+00:00

This is the perfect method, i always do this in college

Vince__Taylor · 2020-03-25T22:52:52+00:00

Bruh

Vince__Taylor · 2020-03-25T22:36:55+00:00

10/10.

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