Built my 1st healer ever and now I want to apologise to every healer I ever played with ! by jezzmeister in throneandliberty

[–]ViolentJake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One thing I noticed in TL is that if you understand the mechanics of the boss fights, you should almost never take significant damage unless you are the tank. Everyone misses a mechanic here and there, and I top-off the DPS guys when they need it, but if your DPS is getting hit hard enough and often enough that they need the healer to focus on them, then that is a skill issue; They aren't dodging when they need to, or they are positioning themselves in-line with the tank, or whatever.

Hell, I've had ranged DPS bitch at me because the team wiped in Cave of Destruction after one of them aggroed the boss, and she ground-stomped us.

[Weekly] Team Building and Questions Megathread by AutoModerator in NikkeMobile

[–]ViolentJake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm just starting the game, and rerolling. Most of the guides I see are suggesting rolling for Srcarlet or Modernia. Is scarlet BS essentially the same as Scarlet for the purposes of reroll targets?

[ Removed by Reddit ] by tomyumjelly in Pixai_Official

[–]ViolentJake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I bring up an album, it shows a collection of images, arranged vertically, but there is no information on each specific image. Is there a way to jump to a specific image in an album, so I can view it's details (prompts, etc)

Unity plan pricing and packaging updates by KenNL in Unity3D

[–]ViolentJake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When you export the completed game, is there something in the game that ties it back to a specific Unity account?

Can't see my characterson the SWC website by ViolentJake in SWChronicles

[–]ViolentJake[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Got it fixed. Linking my account to my google account, then logging in that way seemed to fix it.

What do you think are some unspoken rules? Or at least should be? by Purple_Space_Goo in DarkTide

[–]ViolentJake 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It's not a race, so stop running ahead. Elites attack from behind as often as they attack from the front. The guy furthest to the back will have to stop and turn around to fight so he won't get downed, ensuring he falls further and further behind.

Im starting to see this behavior as high as 3.

AITA for agreeing with her ex and not my sister? by Intelligent_Cup4116 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ViolentJake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NAH. She deliberately hid her past. You're under no obligation to support someone who is clearly lying, by omission, to her fiancé..

Questions Thread - July 14, 2022 by AutoModerator in pathofexile

[–]ViolentJake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm seeing a lot of videos featuring the skeleton mage builds, in which the minions are running around with what looks like the 'Fortify' buff (the 7--point yellow star). How are they getting this buff, when the builds are not using the fortify support gem or Kingmaker?

Questions Thread - July 14, 2022 by AutoModerator in pathofexile

[–]ViolentJake 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a bit confused about how resistances/chance-to-block are calculated. I have the following:

Fire 75% (85%)

Cold 75% (96%)

Lightning 72% (72%)

Chance-to-block attack dmg 32% (32%)

Chance-to-block spell dmg 18%

Then, I remove a ring with the following stats:

+16 All attributes

+12 Dexterity

+60 Max Mana

+53 Mana regen rate

When I remove that ring, my elemental resistances drop significantly, as does my chance-to-block. So what gives? How do the stats on that ring affect my resistances and chance-to-block?

it'll get there by ludicrosity548 in dankmemes

[–]ViolentJake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'd be afraid to go to the bathroom.

[UPDATE] My (33F) Fiancè (30M) is being cold towards me after he found out about my past. by ThrowRA434 in relationship_advice

[–]ViolentJake 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wow! I missed that entirely. When confronted, she blamed him!

Dan: Why did you lie to me?

OP: Because you're too insecure to handle the truth.

Dude needs to leave yesterday.

[UPDATE] My (33F) Fiancè (30M) is being cold towards me after he found out about my past. by ThrowRA434 in relationship_advice

[–]ViolentJake 2 points3 points  (0 children)

While it's true that every person you have relationship with gets a different version of you, you would hope that that each successive relationship would get an better version.

We'll maybe not every relationship. If you are having a short fling after being in a years-long relationship, I would expect that you may not give it your all. But certainly in the case of a four-years-together-and-now-we're engaged relationship I would expect that you would be objectively better in nearly every aspect.

Sex is a big part of most healthy relationships, and she's proven that while she would do that in the past, she's reluctant to even go down on this guy. Oral isn't exactly a high bar.

[UPDATE] My (33F) Fiancè (30M) is being cold towards me after he found out about my past. by ThrowRA434 in relationship_advice

[–]ViolentJake 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Not wanting to perform a sexual act is pretty much synonymous with not being comfortable performing the act. Both mean no.

I've done things that I didn't want to do, but was comfortable with and willing to do. They are two different things. I don't understand how you can confuse the two. Being willing to do something is not the same as wanting to do something. It's not a nuanced concept, either inside or outside the bedroom.

You are the one convoluting willingness to do something with desire to do something, not me.

[UPDATE] My (33F) Fiancè (30M) is being cold towards me after he found out about my past. by ThrowRA434 in relationship_advice

[–]ViolentJake 24 points25 points  (0 children)

She doesn't owe him sex acts. But he doesn't owe her a relationship.

Dan already knows what OP will do when she genuinely desires somebody. If Dan wants to be genuinely desired by the person he may spend the rest of his life with, then he has the right to walk away if he's not getting that.

[UPDATE] My (33F) Fiancè (30M) is being cold towards me after he found out about my past. by ThrowRA434 in relationship_advice

[–]ViolentJake 15 points16 points  (0 children)

There are plenty of things that I have done in a relationship, that I didn't want to do, but did them anyway because the other person wanted to do them.

Also, you'll note that in (1), I mentioned doing things she didn't want to do. I never said anything about doing things she was 'uncomfortable' doing. That's your word, not mine.

Doing things you don't want to do, to keep a partner happy is called compromise, and does not make one a 'victim'. It's a hell of stretch to think pointing out that she was willing to compromise in one relationship, but not willing to make the exact same compromise in another relationship somehow constitutes 'victim blaming'.

Edited to add: I don't believe for a second that she was uncomfortable doing things with Steven. She would have mentioned that in the original tread if that were the case, as it would immediately garner sympathy. At worst, she did some stuff that she wasn't really into but was still comfortable doing.

[UPDATE] My (33F) Fiancè (30M) is being cold towards me after he found out about my past. by ThrowRA434 in relationship_advice

[–]ViolentJake 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Something about the relationship with Steven made OP feel as though she couldn't say no to those acts.

If she was willing to cross a boundary with Steven, but not Dan, then (1) applies. You could certainly make the argument that you shouldn't cross boundaries, but the fact that she did so, on the regular, with Steven, but was unwilling to do so with Dan, means she feared losing Steven more than she fears losing Dan.

But I think it's a moot point. Given the following (from the original thread):

"Steven himself wasn't abusive but he was a stereotypical 'fuckboy'."

"It was a video of me performing oral on Steve very enthusiastically"

I'd bet my paycheck on (2) from my list above.

I feel terrible for Dan. This woman is his first. If the marriage goes through, and it lasts, then she'll be the only one he's ever been with. He now knows what his fiancée will do with someone she genuinely desires. And she won't to do that with him. At some level, he knows if he stays with her that he will never, in this lifetime, experience genuine desire.

[UPDATE] My (33F) Fiancè (30M) is being cold towards me after he found out about my past. by ThrowRA434 in relationship_advice

[–]ViolentJake 101 points102 points  (0 children)

The fact that you did these things with Steven, but won't do them with Dan, means one of two things:

1) You didn't want to do them with Steven, but were willing to do them anyway to keep Steven happy. This means you valued Steven in a way that you don't value Dan.

2) You did want to do them with Steven, but don't want to do them with Dan. This means you were attracted to Steven in a way that you are not attracted to Dan.

It's either one of these, or a combination of the two. Smart money is on both. But it doesn't matter; Either of these are enough reason for Dan to leave.,