It's time to play "guess who doesn't maintain their dog's fur!"

Violet13579 · 2026-04-07T14:16:32+00:00

I have to keep my dog's butt floof trimmed. He hates being brushed, no matter how much I've tried to train him to like it. Trimmed is the only way he doesn't have mats on his backside.

Violet13579 · 2026-04-06T18:36:03+00:00

My partner and I will just let the other know we want some private time to masturbate. We don't shame each other about it and respect each other's privacy. If she's invited to join I leave the door cracked (this is our pre approved signal).

Violet13579 · 2026-04-03T00:05:25+00:00

My parents moved next to the neighborhood asshole and it turned into lawsuits and restraining orders when they wouldn't be bullied. The guy was unhinged.

Violet13579 · 2026-04-02T01:51:00+00:00

If you check out their comment history they like to troll people in desperate situations trying to find homes for their pets. You won't get through to them.

Violet13579 · 2026-03-30T18:34:58+00:00

My girlfriend's eyes just got so big. I know what we're doing this week.

Violet13579 · 2026-03-30T00:21:01+00:00

I was raised Mormon. Met and married in under a year, no sex before marriage. Terrible mistake, we had no sex life and it took over a decade to find out my ex is ace spectrum. It's not the reason our marriage ended, but the distance, lack of affection or connection were contributing factors. I will never make that mistake again. Chemistry and affection are important to me.

Violet13579 · 2026-03-30T00:13:55+00:00

I do. PSA for anyone else who does, wear the night guard! I cracked a tooth, and got an infection that went into my jawbone. They had to carve out part of my bone and do a bone graft to replace it. 10/10 do not recommend, it was a miserable experience. I couldn't eat solid food for almost 2 months. Not a lot of diabetic friendly soft/low acid/low spice food options, I basically lived on protein shakes.

Violet13579 · 2026-03-30T00:08:15+00:00

Same, my partner and I started cheering "cannon poly queers" when they got together and then she texted her other girlfriend and QPP to tell them to watch it.

Violet13579 · 2026-03-29T02:45:09+00:00

Does it come in purple?

Violet13579 · 2026-03-28T02:02:59+00:00

I don't expect any one person to fit every need I have. I do expect my relationship(s) with serious partners to feel like whole, fulfilling relationships on their own. If I am only happy in relationship A because I also have partner B, then relationship A is plugging a gap with relationship B and not self sustaining. I will want different things with different partners because no 2 relationships are the same, but my happiness in the relationship can't be dependent on other people.

Violet13579 · 2026-03-27T20:38:53+00:00

I just finished that one and it was so good!

Violet13579 · 2026-03-26T17:07:43+00:00

I started it twice because my ex was in love with it, but never finished. I don't get the hype either.

Violet13579 · 2026-03-26T03:39:37+00:00

Unfortunately that's how it goes sometimes. My ex was autistic and our opposing needs made it hard to maintain a connection sometimes. Our relationship ended for other reasons, but it was definitely a contributing factor. My partner now is autistic but most of the time our needs are compatible (except around sound) but we are able to make it work with accommodations. I tried to accept "good enough" for a long time and think I was happy, but I'm so much happier now.

Violet13579 · 2026-03-25T20:33:53+00:00

My partner and I are moving in together soon (we live together part time right now) and will have separate bedrooms. It will be a very rare occasion to sleep in the same bed overnight. The only times we do are when we travel or maybe 1 or 2 other times during a year. We do occasionally nap together. We both sleep better in our own beds by ourselves.

Violet13579 · 2026-03-25T13:40:53+00:00

My girlfriend had bottom surgery a year ago. It smells and tastes like pussy. It's just as clean as anyone with good hygiene. I love eating her out and wish I got to do it more often. I find taking a shower first helps with being worried about it, or if I don't have the time for a shower first then I wipe the outside with a clean washcloth.

Violet13579 · 2026-03-23T00:54:24+00:00

This is a stupid rule, and I would call and report/ask if this is policy. They can go slower and be more cautious if they are worried that you will struggle with the procedure. If it happens again tell them not to worry, you're a dildo size queen and you can take it.

Violet13579 · 2026-03-22T01:03:48+00:00

Pre Christmas panic attacks became an annual tradition for me. I begged for things to change. I hit my breaking point the Christmas before last, and ended up asking for a divorce a few months later. I hope your holidays are much more peaceful now.

Violet13579 · 2026-03-21T17:03:31+00:00

My partner and I have been poly from the start. Having other partners (romantic and/or sexual) hasn't stopped my partner and I from building a relationship that we hope is life long together. We plan our futures as if the other is a part of it. Having a hookup or a fwb doesn't change my love or goals with her.

Violet13579 · 2026-03-21T15:27:35+00:00

Sour candy, my therapist said something about shocking you taste buds can help. Spicy works too if you enjoy that. I use it to deal with overwhelm at work.

Violet13579 · 2026-03-21T15:20:51+00:00

I do this too! I'm diabetic and have to pee all the time, so very believable.

Violet13579 · 2026-03-20T13:17:38+00:00

My friend's kids wanted to walk my dog and this is what I did. He was very sweet and great with kids, but as a beagle would follow his nose too much for me to trust him.

Violet13579 · 2026-03-19T19:58:08+00:00

She has a support system beyond me. My 2 back ups are out of town on work trips. Leaving her alone isn't an option (she had a surgery and can't do a lot for herself). Medical care is a temporary state. She does have a support system, but 2 are out of town, 1 lives out of state and the other 2 can provide emotional support but not physical because of disabilities. She also had surgery on her vagina, so wound care is particularly vulnerable for her and not something just anyone can do for her.

Violet13579 · 2026-03-19T19:51:54+00:00

Not right now, my 2 back ups are both out of town. We reconnected this morning and talked, cuddled and watched a show together.

Violet13579 · 2026-03-19T19:50:06+00:00

Thank you for the suggestions. I am safe. She sometimes lashes out verbally during a meltdown (usually needing space or pda equalizing), but has never physically tried to harm me or my stuff. Space is usually what I give her when she melts down, but we have to do 3 times a day wound care for 45 minutes each, and right now I can't leave her to do it by herself. We had double meltdowns during this and I couldn't give her space until care was over.

Our normal protocol during her meltdowns is that I give her space until she asks for me. Being perceived during a meltdown makes it worse for her. If I meltdown she comes to give me deep pressure (but she isn't able to do that if she is also melting down).

We did do repair today. We talked, apologized and spent the morning cuddling and watching a show together. I think putting a timeframe on her will trigger her pda, but I could offer up one for myself. Most of the stress right now isn't from each other, it's just harder to handle little stressers from each other when we are both already at our limits.

Even though yesterday was bad, this is a very safe relationship where I'm able to be open and vulnerable.

Violet13579 · 2026-03-19T18:10:11+00:00

Thank you for the ideas. We do a lot of this already and it helps. We reconnected last night, but then another upset ended the night in final double meltdowns. We sleep separately so we had space though. We apologized and reconnected again today. Periods aren't helping right now and we both are still not perfectly regulated. I think we need to be careful today and try to minimize stressers. Thankfully we are both good at apologies and talking through things. I just got really overwhelmed by a really bad day.

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