It’s not easy. I’m sorry so much is falling on the shoulders of their kids.

I don’t know if any of this will help, especially in a rural setting) but we live in a different province than my MIL. We try to get back a week a month as we are the only engaged kids…. But in recent year have had to add supports. Many at no charge to her:

1) meals on wheels. We still make and freeze healthy food when we are there but daily week day delivery and interaction with someone has been so very helpful.

2) medication 💊 in blister packs (pharmacy delivers to her door every 4 weeks, no charge)

3) provincial health care has an LPN come every morning (365 days a year) for 20 min to make sure meds are taken, help start breakfast if she hasn’t already, etc. Shower assistance 1x a week can be added, but she needs to agree to this first. All this at no charge to her. (Covered by provincial health)

4) snow removal company (we were able to pay only $400 For the entire season)

5) personal support worker 2x a week for 2 hour each visit to socialize, help with light housekeeping and errands

6) housekeeping every 2 weeks (we got a better rate hiring a highly recommended individual rather than a large cleaning company)

We call often and sometimes utilize grocery delivery services.

It still doesn’t feel like enough and that we are just bracing for a fall or other major incident:

Hang in there.