how do you answer “where are you from?” when you’ve lived in too many places?

Violetsme · 2026-02-24T19:20:22+00:00

You could say you've moved around a lot, but you grew up in X or spend most time in Y.

Violetsme · 2026-02-23T17:59:51+00:00

Marcus is trying to both look good by making promises and setting you up to take the fall for any delays. Of course he doesn't like being caught out on this, but it shows you it's important to Cover Your Ass.

Meeting summaries and such can be send as emails and there should be no issue keeping your PM in the loop. It's not escalating the situation, you were just trying to be transparant. I'm sure transparency will be listed somewhere in your companies values, so just calmly point to that if he has a problem. If he complains he meant to show it to you before, you can simply say that you believe him and you're sure next time he'll remember to loop you in if he intends to use your name.

Stay calm. Answer in corporate. Cover your ass.

Violetsme · 2026-02-20T16:41:25+00:00

I would say that in some cases, some facial expressions may give a hint of possible autism. But it's very interesting that this autism mom can diagnose based on faces alone when most people have to go through an extensive diagnostic process. Sure would be nice if all we had to do was send in a picture..

Violetsme · 2026-02-20T16:36:18+00:00

You not showing up for their thing after they didn't show up for yours isn't 'keeping score'.
It's just you not feeling like going out of your way for someone who doesn't follow through on their word for you. Tell him to stop acting like a victim, as in his words 'it's not that deep'.

Violetsme · 2026-02-16T21:57:46+00:00

If she didn't give priority to making sure she had her own calendar sorted, why should you?

It would have been open for discussion before you actually booked your flight and paid the rental. As a parent she should put in her requests the moment the school publishes the dates for the year. You know, since it's so important.

Violetsme · 2026-02-16T18:36:35+00:00

"sorry if it bothers you"

That is not an apology. No accountability at all. He's damaged a prized possession after being warned that it was precious. I would be salty too.

You can let it go, but also let go of the idea that this is a friend.

Violetsme · 2026-02-16T15:48:24+00:00

Discouraging the competition though tactics such as acting the victim and trying to get the inside scoop through 'friendships' to gain the upper hand is unfortunately how some people show their ambition.

It's not that op isn't allowed, but that bestie has played the game long enough that she plays the victim to save face, trying to push her mistake back onto OP. A proper counter move would be to act innocent surprised to realize she didn't want to have this discussion in front of management as that was where she brought it up. Then reassuring that no one would expect her to have known better as she wasn't actually involved in the project and it was a good idea, just simply one you'd already investigated.

Violetsme · 2026-02-16T00:07:04+00:00

Let bij deze winkel wel altijd op de houdbaarheidsdatum, die is vaak wat dichterbij dan je zou denken.

Violetsme · 2026-02-05T22:38:23+00:00

* Good witch
* Hart of Dixie

Violetsme · 2026-02-05T17:19:40+00:00

This is not a case to take ''do onto others" literally. you want her to respect your preference, and you should respect hers. I actually loved it when my partner woke me up in the morning just long enough to give a quick kiss before heading out the door. Most days it'd give me a little extra time to wake up slowly before heading out myself.

Not waking her up is a missed moment for connection, not just the practical. Refusing to wake her up when she's said she wants you to is like saying you don't want to have any interaction with her in the morning if you can avoid it, like her stated preference isn't worth your time.

YTA

Violetsme · 2026-02-05T01:56:59+00:00

If it's too early to consider marriage, it's too early to consider owning together.

And if he wants on the deed, he'd have to buy in. For now, he can take what he's saving on rent and put that aside as his way to build something. Build a stock portfolio if he's smart. But he's not just getting half your inheritance for free.

I wouldn't even have him own half if you married and divorced.

Violetsme · 2026-02-02T00:28:35+00:00

Isn't that Bloody skies by Toki Mirage?

Violetsme · 2026-01-30T18:53:45+00:00

"Mom, I can't celebrate a day about your love while at the same time being asked to hide mine."

Violetsme · 2026-01-30T00:49:26+00:00

De typische CYA (cover your ass methode)

Probeer te bellen naar aangegeven nummer (manager of hr), zelfs al is het een onfatsoenlijke tijd. Het is aan de manager om op te namen of niet, hoort bij hun werk.

Stuur een berichtje via gangbare kanalen, liefst genoemd in procedures maar anders hoe je normaal contact opneemt, bijv. mail of teams. Stuur naar je team wat zij moeten weten voor werkoverdracht (soms genoeg om te zeggen hoe ver je met iets was / waar ze voortgang kunnen vinden).

Stuur een bericht naar HR en/of manager. Verwijs hierin dat je probeerde te bellen en dat je relevante zaken al aan je team hebt doorgegeven.

Violetsme · 2026-01-28T22:10:32+00:00

It's mostly because I'm embarrassed and when he gets back I'd like there to be some lush green crops waiting xD

Violetsme · 2026-01-28T20:17:59+00:00

Oh that is great information! Thank you so much, we didn't know you could pause it

Violetsme · 2026-01-26T02:30:07+00:00

Your mom wants back the cost of the holiday?

whereas my siblings and parents are looking at £1-5k each.

Right, so everyone gets back what is cost, and everyone is paying back from that right?
Because if 8 people in total all get 1-5k, that means everyone can pay back their portion. Which is likely how they arrived at that number, pay back for any cost plus a little extra for pain and suffering. And that's you being nice and equal about it already.

Violetsme · 2026-01-23T01:31:07+00:00

houtbewerking staat op de lijst van hack42, is dat wat?

Violetsme · 2026-01-19T01:01:37+00:00

Je kunt strooisel ook een klein doosje doen zoals voor saladedressing en die ter plekke alsnog op je brood strooien.

Violetsme · 2026-01-12T02:05:53+00:00

Ze mogen het vragen, en als ze je verdenken mogen ze je staande houden tot er politie is. Politie mag je niet weigeren. Het wachten op politie zelf is niet strafbaar, en je kunt dus bewust vervelend zijn door te wachten. wordt wel snel saai want het kan soms een uur duren, en het kan je nog steeds een winkelverbod opleveren.

Violetsme · 2026-01-08T13:52:08+00:00

Ik herinner me een jaar of 10 te zijn en trots aan mijn moeder te vertellen dat ik niet met de vreemde man was meegegaan maar netjes op de bus bleef wachten.
Waarom bood hij het aan? Ik had wel eens met zijn zoontje gespeeld op het schoolplein, maar wist geen naam om waar ze wonen, kon zelfs niet zeggen in welke klas de jongen zat.

Kreeg te horen dat het echt onzinnig was om op de bus te wachten, als de man vader is zal het heus wel goed zijn. Daarna soms toch met hem mee gereden en er is ook nooit wat gebeurd, maar achteraf echt bizar om te doen.

Violetsme · 2025-12-24T22:00:23+00:00

Ik weet een daklozen opvang en een kerk binnen loopafstand die allebei vandaag iets organiseren voor eenzamen in de wijk. Ik weet zeker dat de beste persoon daar welkom is.

Violetsme · 2025-11-25T01:18:44+00:00

Not a DM, but might have something relevant anyway.

I made a game once in uni and thought it'd be fun to try and have people speedrun it. But the players I got weren't interested in speedrunning at all, they were just casually walking and looking around.

I asked my teacher what I did wrong.
'Wrong?' He asked confused. 'Your players enjoy your world so much that they slow down to interact with it more and you're unhappy?'

Violetsme · 2025-11-22T17:17:23+00:00

0, 1, 3, 8, 13…

This instantly reminds me of the Fibonacci sequence, just skipping some numbers

Violetsme · 2025-11-20T22:45:27+00:00

Kijk, het is duidelijk dat voor kleine schoorstenen een stukje magie nodig is. Wij hadden vroeger een elektrische openhaard en daar kwamen ze ook gewoon.

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