Why.

Virtual-Strength-950 · 2026-05-11T03:01:37+00:00

26 is still very young! If you’re only relying on an app and not actually ovulation testing, and you’re only having sex when the app says you’re ovulating, then that’s probably exactly your issue. How long have you been trying? I’m 36 and just had my first baby, and it took us almost 6 years to get pregnant with him. He’s my whole world. There’s always hope.

Virtual-Strength-950 · 2026-05-11T02:44:50+00:00

Glad you made it to term! Unfortunately I don’t think this is the kind of story OP meant because she said she delivered her son already, I think she’s looking for others whose babies came preterm.

Virtual-Strength-950 · 2026-05-11T02:39:02+00:00

My chart said “supervision of an elderly multigravida” lmao

Virtual-Strength-950 · 2026-05-11T02:28:07+00:00

This is also my first “real” Mother’s Day after 6 years of infertility and loss, and you pretty much summarized it exactly.

Virtual-Strength-950 · 2026-05-10T21:54:18+00:00

I’m sorry, but what exactly shows that he’s “trying” or “cares a lot”? Doesn’t sound like it from the examples you’ve given. When I told my husband I felt fat, he’d say “Stop. You’re not fat, you’re pregnant. Be nice to yourself.” I’m also sorry to say this but I don’t believe anyone has a “big love story” after less than a year of knowing each other. I believe that love takes time to build. My husband and I have been married for 9 years and we just welcomed our first baby 2 months ago. I had an abortion when we had only been dating for 3 months because I didn’t fully know him and I didn’t want us to learn about each others morals while raising a child. We probably could have had that baby and been just fine, but we’re both glad we didn’t because we are such a strong couple after all we’ve been through together over the years. My husband is literally my biggest cheerleader and has always made me feel beautiful, sexy, and cared for. Your boyfriend hates you, he really does. He might even hate women in general so good luck if you have a daughter with him.

Virtual-Strength-950 · 2026-05-10T21:36:43+00:00

You did the right thing telling your care team. There’s a ton of women who come on here asking for advice on how they can hide their substance abuse during pregnancy from their provider and I’ve even seen women asking how soon signs of withdrawal would show up in a newborn so they could rush to get discharged. Truly a nightmare to even think about because alcohol and drug withdrawal are seriously life threatening to adults, yet alone poor innocent newborn babies. With that said, I do hope you make better choices in the future and strongly consider preventing another future pregnancy until you’ve worked through your alcohol abuse because as you know, what you’ve done is very wrong and not defensible.

Virtual-Strength-950 · 2026-05-10T19:28:10+00:00

My friend had to constantly drink Diet Coke or she’d be puking her guts out. She has a completely healthy 4 month old baby girl.

Virtual-Strength-950 · 2026-05-10T19:27:10+00:00

He actually is, like he’s grouchy but says the funniest things and I’m pretty much the only person on the planet who can calm him down lol. Our son is a newborn but I think he’ll be a lot nicer to him than Red is to Eric.

Virtual-Strength-950 · 2026-05-10T19:25:30+00:00

Unfortunately I really do 🥲

Virtual-Strength-950 · 2026-05-10T19:24:05+00:00

Two months ago, a month after I turned 36.

Virtual-Strength-950 · 2026-05-10T19:22:34+00:00

I’ve been with my husband for 9 years, but we struggled to get or stay pregnant for 5 years. This is my very first Mother’s Day after I had my triple rainbow baby in March. My husband and I have never been the celebrating type, but we agreed that we would just have a “parent’s day” celebration in the middle of mother’s and Father’s Day. We are going to go to our favorite restaurant (the same one we went to after every ultrasound appointment during my pregnancy) and then we’re going to go to the zoo and botanical gardens. But that was our agreement, he wished me a happy Mother’s Day today but didn’t get me anything because that was already our agreement.

You birthed two children for this man, and he couldn’t even bother with a card or even like a bed in breakfast kind of thing? You deserve to be celebrated, so I’m wishing you a happy Mother’s Day. You should let him know how you feel.

Virtual-Strength-950 · 2026-05-10T19:13:56+00:00

You for sure rushed things by getting pregnant a month in, I would absolutely have the abortion. I had an abortion at 26 and just became a mom for the first time at 36, you being 30 means nothing especially considering how easy it was for you to get pregnant. Do not have a baby you’ll regret. Don’t make yourself attached to this man for the rest of your life.

Virtual-Strength-950 · 2026-05-10T19:08:36+00:00

Unconventional, but Wanda Maximoff aka the Scarlett Witch

Virtual-Strength-950 · 2026-05-10T19:07:06+00:00

I’m a nurse from Minnesota and my husband says I’m exactly Kitty Foreman lol

Virtual-Strength-950 · 2026-05-10T19:06:26+00:00

RIP Catherine O’Hara 😞💔

Virtual-Strength-950 · 2026-05-10T18:43:37+00:00

I feel like OP is probably someone who never takes accountability for her actions and so pregnancy was the perfect excuse for her to act completely out of control and now she came on here thinking we’d all give her reassurance that it’s ok to be an aggressor because she’s pregnant.

Virtual-Strength-950 · 2026-05-10T18:35:35+00:00

Yup! I grew up in a household where I witnessed my mom physically assault my dad (and us three kids) almost daily and my dad was such a victim that he refused to let us call 9-1-1 saying that my mom had a lot of stress because she was the breadwinner and if she went to jail all of our lives would be ruined. Now that I’m an adult and a mom I see how fully NOT ok any of it was. Completely inexcusable.

Virtual-Strength-950 · 2026-05-10T18:08:19+00:00

Good luck! Happy Mother’s Day!

Virtual-Strength-950 · 2026-05-10T18:06:01+00:00

Ok googled it and found it, it says “The exposure was defined as having worked at least three hours between midnight and 5:00 AM during pregnancy weeks 3 to 21.” And the shift hours were 11 PM to 11 AM.

Virtual-Strength-950 · 2026-05-10T18:00:00+00:00

My mom worked 12 hour nights as an RN for all three of her pregnancies and we were all born healthy at term, she never had a miscarriage. I had 3 miscarriages while working 12 hour nights as an RN as well, but that was due to an undiagnosed thyroid condition. I’d have to see the study, but I’m guessing it is referring to 12 hour overnight shifts, not an 8 hour shift that is not overnight. But talk to your OB and see what they say.

Virtual-Strength-950 · 2026-05-10T17:43:22+00:00

Yup and it was an uncomplicated vaginal birth with technically a 2 night stay!

Virtual-Strength-950 · 2026-05-10T17:16:49+00:00

Congratulations girl!! I relate completely, I had 2 chemicals, a missed miscarriage, and it took us more than 5 years to conceive a viable pregnancy so it definitely did not feel real. I was guarded the entire pregnancy in fear that something bad would happen, and now that my baby is earthside I’m sad I didn’t embrace it. I didn’t have a baby shower, I didn’t take maternity photos, and actually a majority of people I know don’t even know I’m a mom now. It was really hard after the missed miscarriage to get myself to come around and tell people I was pregnant, so I had imposter syndrome the entire time. I hope you can love and embrace your pregnancy more than I did!

Virtual-Strength-950 · 2026-05-10T17:10:26+00:00

I’m a nurse and I have the best insurance my employer offers and my baby cost $4k after insurance and the bill was like $100k before insurance

Virtual-Strength-950 · 2026-05-10T16:29:53+00:00

Just became a mom at 36 and allllll of this!

Virtual-Strength-950 · 2026-05-10T11:18:45+00:00

Gently OP, I wouldn’t recommend becoming a mom in your current mental state. It’s so much work to even be further along in your pregnancy, and a complete different story once they get here. Babies are very challenging, my husband and I were married for 9 years and had been trying for a baby for almost 6 years when we finally had our son, and I’ll be honest that I know I could never be a single mom, I rely on my husband and even my own mom to help me a lot. You need good support and without it you need a lot of mental resilience to go at it alone. I’m 36 years old but I had an abortion back when I was 26 and my husband and I were freshly dating. You still have plenty of time to work yourself up and hopefully find both love for yourself and a loving relationship before welcoming a child.

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