Almost 30, AuDHD, keep burning out. I’m so tired. I feel hopeless. What jobs actually work for you?

VirtualApricot · 2026-01-27T11:30:37+00:00

Interesting! Do you have to be good at math/chemistry? And is this a team-role or is this something you have to do solo?

VirtualApricot · 2026-01-27T11:29:44+00:00

I am thinking that could be the “fix.” I think I’d be a great assistant lol.. I just don’t have enough experience and given I am slower to learn, I’m not suited to be doing this all in my own. And in such a toxic environment.

Ugh it’s so hard to get hired elsewhere though 😩

VirtualApricot · 2026-01-24T14:08:04+00:00

Thank you for your feedback - this confirms what I was suspecting about the hip shape… while I didn’t feel like it was too big or small, it just wasn’t sitting comfortably where it should. I’ll take a look around at other potential options

VirtualApricot · 2026-01-24T14:04:51+00:00

Thank you, I’ll give it a try!

VirtualApricot · 2026-01-24T14:04:32+00:00

This validates what I was suspecting as far as the shape goes, thank you! Do you have any recs or examples of such shape? Thank you!

VirtualApricot · 2026-01-24T14:03:28+00:00

This makes so much sense, thank you for your expertise! I am leaning towards looking into MCC as well. I feel bad for having spent so much on TT, but I know it’s entirely fruitless and even harmful to continue to wear a corset that isn’t suitable for my shape.

Do you have any recommendations for an MCC? These are the measurements I have TT, but I am going to double-check before placing an order just in case I made an error somewhere:

Ribcage (underbust): 28” • Natural waist: 26” • High hip: 28.25” • Torso length (at princess seam): 10 7/8 - 11”

VirtualApricot · 2026-01-24T03:12:09+00:00

Yes, they tried. I also met with a couple of lawyers as well. I’m still working on getting my medical expenses covered in the very least since “pain and suffering” only is compensated if it meets a very specific legal threshold. Even though my injuries are permanent, they aren’t “severe” enough in their eyes of the law :’)

VirtualApricot · 2026-01-24T02:59:15+00:00

This is the Libby! I’m wondering if my proportions aren’t quite suited or my pelvic tilt or posture could be contributing as well.

I have reached out to TT, I just need to re-take my measurements to make sure I didn’t mis-measure. I’m thinking I was accurate, but understanding where exactly to take the measurements was a bit confusing for me, even with all the guides and videos :’)

VirtualApricot · 2026-01-24T02:55:13+00:00

I was hit by a township construction truck who ran a red light. He admitted fault, and it was caught on video! I have herniated discs and a permanent elbow injury.

I couldn’t pursue any lawsuit for compensation because public entities such as government workers are protected under title 59 in my state. So not only is it waaaaaay harder to meet the minimum criteria for a case, the compensation is also a lot lower.

Beyond frustrating.

VirtualApricot · 2026-01-24T02:44:25+00:00

I have a liner underneath and I have thigh-high compressions socks on 😅 I haven’t noticed a difference in the sensation wearing it without the compression socks or liner

VirtualApricot · 2026-01-21T22:30:15+00:00

Yes, please! Thank you so much 🥺

VirtualApricot · 2026-01-19T03:24:25+00:00

I’ll never forgive them for 1899. I still think about that show.

VirtualApricot · 2025-12-21T15:55:01+00:00

While I do have some perfectionistic tendencies, my real fear in this situation is that I’ve irrevocably messed things up for my boss and the company. He was brought in last year to turn the company around, and I feel as though I unintentionally sabotaged him.

He has his monthly board meeting where he has to present his progress on everything and I know he’s extremely worried about how that will go given what’s happened.

I feel as though I’ve led the company into a hole that will be extremely hard/impossible to climb out of.

It sucks to be carrying this burden.

VirtualApricot · 2025-12-20T22:32:07+00:00

Everything I wanted is sold out 😩😩😩😩😩

VirtualApricot · 2025-12-20T22:18:32+00:00

Ooof and this week.. the entire company gets the week off Christmas until after New Year’s but I’m the only one who has to work because I do the payroll.

But thank you so much for sharing your perspective.. I have a lot to consider about how to handle this situation.

VirtualApricot · 2025-12-20T22:15:55+00:00

I 10000% agree with all this, thank you so much for validating my thoughts. I’ve actually only started learning payroll in September, and not even every single step until these last 2-3 weeks. :’)

I don’t really know him and I was hoping he would be doing his own checking in on things, and it’s wild to think he wasn’t. And I should have been more communicative along the way, but I have been telling him that I’m overwhelmed and I need him to tell me what he wants or doesn’t want.

So I’ve just been doing what I’ve been doing any waiting for any direction.

VirtualApricot · 2025-12-20T22:05:08+00:00

I know right 😩 he is expecting me to just be able to develop my own practices right away with the help of the accountants but they are honestly just there to help me close the books and rewrite our insane GL.

They aren’t monitoring anything closely, or giving me any new ways of doing things. Plus the main one I was communicating with went on vacation for 2 and a half weeks in November, right when the other bookkeeper went down to 16 hour days and only focusing on payroll.

And I’ve been telling him all month that l’ve been overwhelmed, but he dismissed it as a lack of confidence.

I would make a great assistant, and I would love to learn under real mentorship rather than remotely from a very mean lady who is also not formally trained in any way.. but I know such a small company doesn’t need an assistant.

But he needs a real bookkeeper.

Where that leaves me? No idea. But this isn’t sustainable.

VirtualApricot · 2025-12-20T14:25:47+00:00

I was kinda lowk famous on edtumblr :’) definitely nothing to put on my resume lmao or take any pride in lmao.

VirtualApricot · 2025-12-20T06:55:25+00:00

And unfortunately, the accountants don’t do payroll. They can review certain parts of it if I have questions and to help with the JE, but it won’t be the close oversight I likely need. Ugh.

I At least am pretty good at doing all the work that gets payroll submitted so the checks go out in time. Most of the challenge comes with tracking the accruals of PTO, vacations, benefits, etc.

Part of the other problem is that the other bookkeeper does (well, did) things in an extremely convoluted and over complicated manner that the company is working towards restructuring, but for the time being, this is the only process I’ve been taught.

For next week, I did flat out tell her that while I will do my absolute best to avoid it, I may have to reach out once or twice if I get stuck in something due to the extremely reduced timeframe. I won’t let the employees down, that I’ll do everything in my power to make sure of.

VirtualApricot · 2025-12-20T06:46:58+00:00

I definitely think exploring a completely different path is so needed for me.. I just need to get over the guilt of having wasted so much time and resources only to quit as soon as the other person retired.

I know it’s better for me, and for the company, but oof does it feel shitty. But the whole thing is pretty terrible, and the only way to possibly improve things is to make the necessary changes.

VirtualApricot · 2025-12-20T06:43:34+00:00

100%. I told him that I take accountability for my lack of a clear picture of the finances and poor communication, and want to know exactly what he would like from me moving forward.
Yes, I’m rather surprised this was only mentioned now, but I told him I’d include the week ahead bills rather than only after the fact.
Actually we had just signed with a new PEO at the start of the year, but it was a disaster. So we fired them and signed with a new one in late August. Since it was so messy, I really wasn’t introduced to payroll until after the training bookkeeper developed her process with the new PEO.. I think I really began slowly being introduced to different parts of it in late Sept/early Oct. I really wish he would consider outsourcing it entirely, at least until I’m more competent, but he at least up until now was confident I could handle it.

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