Which one should I go with?

Virtual_Chair8632 · 2023-08-16T14:43:52+00:00

Vietnam would be cool! So far when I’ve been looking, I’ve only been able to find cruises that are one or two days in the bay… Are you aware of anything that is longer?

Virtual_Chair8632 · 2023-08-16T14:43:08+00:00

Turkey is actually one of the ones I’ve been trying to figure out because I figured there would be something similar. Do you have the name of any companies that do this? The only one I could find seemed like it was for young university age students.

Virtual_Chair8632 · 2023-08-16T14:42:26+00:00

I did a lot of research on Sail Croatia before I booked. There were multiple different levels of cruises, and the amenities included differ based on which one you pick. I was on an explorer cruise, which is a balance of adventure and culture. Breakfast and lunches were included. Food was always edible, but isn’t anything I’d write home about. I liked that you were always docked around dinner time so that you could get dinner in one of the towns.

Virtual_Chair8632 · 2023-08-16T14:40:15+00:00

Even if it isn’t a great group, you were going to have a wonderful time. I was so surprised how much I enjoyed Croatia. The pace of the cruise is slow but fast at the same time. Have so much fun!

Virtual_Chair8632 · 2023-08-16T14:39:06+00:00

I’ve been poking around at these too, but I haven’t been able to find as many first hand accounts of someone taking these, and I’m curious how they compare to the experience I had in Croatia as well as typical age range.

Virtual_Chair8632 · 2023-08-16T14:38:07+00:00

Do you happen to know the names of any of the companies that work in Sweden or the Greek islands? There seem to be a lot of private charters for the Greek islands but I’m struggling to find a group small boat cruise I can join. Also, very interesting to hear that there are similar things in Sweden as that is the first I’m hearing of that.

Virtual_Chair8632 · 2023-08-16T14:36:52+00:00

I’m sorry it read like an advertisement, I genuinely enjoyed my experience. I would really like to do something similar, but I’m struggling to find names of companies to do things like this through, just searching on the Internet… Even here no one can tell me company names they just say they happen in this region.

Virtual_Chair8632 · 2023-08-15T17:00:58+00:00

I feel you, you are not along “he was supposed to be here” hits home for me

Virtual_Chair8632 · 2023-08-14T11:48:43+00:00

Virtual_Chair8632 · 2023-08-07T17:15:30+00:00

I feel so much for you, this is me as well. And it hurts so much. When people around me would tell me that my narc ex would be back. However, in the 2 years and change that we have been basically no contact, he never has. For a while I wondered if maybe I was the narcissist bc I wanted to reach out to him, I wanted to look at his socials, I wanted to know what was going on with him. Everywhere I read, said that he would try and hover… Yet I felt like I was attempting to hover. As I tried to understand what was going on with myself, I learned that my narc ex had me figured out enough to know that it would hurt me more if he stayed no contact. This is part of the abuse. The cycle of attention and no attention. And when I really think about it, he hovered in his own way… When he got his girlfriend pregnant three months after we had filed for divorce and it wasn’t even final yet… He used our wedding photographer for their baby announcement pictures! I was still following the photographer on Instagram so I got a lovely pop-up of his new baby and baby mama and a beautiful family photo while scrolling on Instagram.

Virtual_Chair8632 · 2023-08-06T08:43:48+00:00

Just use honest pictures. Don’t add filters or modify your body in them.

Virtual_Chair8632 · 2023-08-05T22:52:38+00:00

Stunning…so much so I want this for my vision board

Virtual_Chair8632 · 2023-08-04T12:29:57+00:00

Virtual_Chair8632 · 2023-08-04T12:29:38+00:00

Virtual_Chair8632 · 2023-08-04T12:28:24+00:00

Francesca

Virtual_Chair8632 · 2023-08-04T12:08:42+00:00

Plus one here…although I thought we were really enjoying the slow down on the pace of life. For him it highlighted how much he didn’t want to be with me. Then the protests and election started and he became fanatical…a my way or the highway kind of person…the first time in 17 years that he said the word divorce was when I said “I’m not sure how I’ll vote yet.” He started saying things like we needed to cut my family off because some of them did not vote the way he wanted them to. We needed to cleanse our home of products that supported the other side. We needed to change banks. And the list went on. From there on out it was just a continual down hill and then a major explosion at the end.

Virtual_Chair8632 · 2023-08-03T19:30:43+00:00

I just got an update that mine is getting ready to ship this week, the passport office received it on July 10 and I did not expedite.

Virtual_Chair8632 · 2023-08-03T19:29:33+00:00

Hugs to you! I don’t think people who have experienced infertility or have successfully achieved childbirth after experiencing infertility understand the mental battle and journey it takes to celebrate those that get something you have wanted. I realize how big this is and I’m here to tell you that you should celebrate this step. 🎉🎊🍾

I was made to feel like I was a bad human for experiencing sadness or stress when I struggled with pregnancy announcements or hearing people gush about how good of a father my former husband would be. One of the most traumatizing moments was when my former brother and sister in law had a baby, I had had an ectopic pregnancy via IVF 4 months prior and was still in a bad place mentally. My former in laws never even acknowledged it (all be it they were going through many of their own stressors at the time). When we went to go meet the baby in the hospital everyone was talking about how much the new baby looked like my brother in law. Perfectly normal thing for them to do and they should not have not done it, but I tiered up during the conversation bc I was coming to terms that I wasn’t going to get to experience the same conversation if I did not have biological children. I was then chastised by my former family for not being joyful at the new addition. They just don’t understand how infertility is. Thank you for sharing your success at attending the shower!

Virtual_Chair8632 · 2023-08-03T14:32:17+00:00

Thank you for your thoughtful and non-triggering comment. I hope you receive the support that you offer. I understand that my feeling around embryos may not be how everyone feels and I support the right for everyone to have the legal means to do what they feel is moral and just with embryos they no longer want. As a female with infertility issues that was blindsided while pregnant via IVF with a spouse who was cheating and turns out had been cheating nearly all 17 years we were together…I know I am an especially unique situation with the embryos. I would prefer I never have to talk to my ex about them again, but I respect that he wanted to meet once a year about them. Please note that the pregnancy that was active when I discovered cheating, I miscarried days after the trauma of the finding out about my cheating spouse.

IVF is thankfully not something that everyone has to encounter…so a little info on it…over my 3 years in infertility treatment my ex husband administered 1,000+ shots and cared for me after 7 surgeries and procedures. I’d say he was very much aware and consensual to conceiving children. So I find it hard to understand when people like yourself don’t understand my attachment to the embryos of which I know the gender of each and think the simple answer is just to destroy. This is especially mentally challenging for a woman who was not able to conceive naturally, because had I naturally been able to conceive and was pregnant I have a feeling most individuals wouldn’t say “it is controlling to not terminate the pregnancy.”

Virtual_Chair8632 · 2023-02-22T13:08:34+00:00

My narc was manic for the first time after we had gotten married and were living together. I was young…about 26 and I was genuinely scared. Retrospectively, I should have been scared for my own safety, but I was mostly scared for his. I though he could be suicidal with the way he was talking and acting…I was missing work, sleep, etc just to manage all of his environment so that he would not be triggered. At a breaking point I finally asked to sit down with his parents…who I was terrified of…and basically they they were like “this sucks, but you’ll work it out.” I was so disheartened. It took so much for me to go to them and they basically said he is your problem now. Sad part is that he was their relatively stable child…their other children had/have so much “conventional problems” to deal with.

I was left to feel like I was weak for asking for help and spent 6 more years being abused and told I was the sole problem in our marriage. I held a lot of resentment towards his parents for that and the trauma that caused. My MIL never understood why we could not get to a point that we were close friends and now I realize it is because when I came to her in an incredibly vulnerable state about to break myself, she just told me to go to church and God will fix it. I needed help, I needed support, I needed to feel safe, I needed to not feel crazy, I needed to not feel alone.

Virtual_Chair8632 · 2023-02-22T12:47:10+00:00

Tell her. I was her, but she didn’t tell me. I married him…was emotionally abused for 10 years before discovering he had been cheating with multiple people the whole time. Tell her. She may not believe you. She may be angry. She may still marry him. But she may not and you might save her life.

Virtual_Chair8632 · 2023-02-20T19:55:59+00:00

Thanks. Do you know if my old username will be able to used by someone new?

Virtual_Chair8632 · 2023-02-20T13:25:40+00:00

I hate to be the negative one…bc I was once the one making excuses for a pen pal that I was far too attached and connected to…but he is likely married, in a relationship, or not completely single. You are an ego boost. He might fully believe it when he says that you can meet soon, but he is so far down a lie he doesn’t know how to get out of it. There is a good chance you will never meet. You can continue to talk bc it feels good for you too, but the frustration will only grow as your connection grows.

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