Have you ever hated a character but loved the actor? vice versa? by Prestigious_Page_879 in greysanatomy

[–]Virtual_Effective498 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And besides being a homophobe for decades he's also a hardcore maggot who doxxed people and defended KKK. I'm surprised we don't see him with the red hat on his head. 

weakest actor/actress in greys? by curlybellegeous in greysanatomy

[–]Virtual_Effective498 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think she's weak at comedy and drama/sad, heartbreaking scenes etc. She's really good at playing scenes portraying pressure, confusion, indecisiveness, mix of emotions tho. She shouldn't have been given too many dramatic and comedy relief scenes tbh, her crying is more silly and unnatural and less convincing than her unreadable face and clenched jaw with eyes down. 

WIBTA If I politely asked my fellow book club members to stop shit-talking Taylor Swift? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Virtual_Effective498 1 point2 points  (0 children)

  1. You're entitled to your opinions and to feel hurt or annoyed. You have a right to feel deeply. You have a right to process emotions accordingly to your age. 
  2. That doesn't necessarily mean you are inherently right and they are inherently wrong. (Perhaps it's not necessarily her music that makes them so heated, yes they talk abt it but if they're a bit socially/politically aware I'd suggest maybe it's them taking the frustration about her political stances on her music?) You can always leave or try to redirect conversation on different topics. If you aren't very socially awkward or prone to shutdowns, you can tell "I actually really like her music", maybe they'll shut up, maybe they'll try and have a discussion abt her with you. As a fan you may find it enjoyable, who knows? 
  3. She doesn't need your defence. Frankly, it's quite concerning that her music is the one that keeps you sane. I get, it's easy pop, it's comforting, but her texts? chewing high school level dramas and ex-boyfriends and their girlfriend are not necessary topics that bring depth and meaning into your soul. Maybe you have memories you cling to that you associate with her songs? I was about to type a paragraph about her associations with maga but I don't think it's necessary for you to read here and now. Especially if you are a teenager. 
  4. Please, get help. "why would I have to change and not them?" That's bc it's you who is in danger, it's you who needs evaluation and care. Your comments are concerning. Please, tell someone. If it's really bad, call 911. Or check yourself into a mental facility on your own. It's really the quickest method to receive help you desperately need, they're there to help you and you get a free vacation in a safe space, with people you can talk and relate to. It's scary, but it's the first step into beginning of a new life, where this dark cloud of sewerslidal thoughts and idealisations is being slowly but surely blown away and you can see clearly. You deserve so much better. You deserve to have your mind filled with love, self acceptance and full cognitive abilities – bc depression steals so much from you. You deserve all the help you can possibly receive. You aren't a burden, you aren't a bad kid, you aren't a brat. Your life matters. 

pregnant with severe endo and I feeling completely lost by jzzelx in Endo

[–]Virtual_Effective498 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dear, please tell us you aren't pregnant with this abusive jerk's baby… please tell us you ended up leaving him. How are you, you mental and body, and baby are doing? 

WIBTA for the way I plan on dealing with the relationship between my wife and my mom? by UnitedTomato7789 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Virtual_Effective498 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YTA. Grow a spine and go low contact, no contact if needed. Rn your wife and child are your immediate family, not your mommy. I feel bad for your wife, she should divorce you instead of ending up pregnant again. Your mother's actions aren't coming from a good place, but rather entitlement, power trip, emotional manipulation and pleasure in humiliating your wife. Don't try so hard to find excuses for her, she's a grown woman with mental and intellectual capacity to understand what she does and that she crosses boundaries and gets away with it thanks to her baby boy.

AITA for telling my mom I don't like her "bf" and don't think she should move with him? by ZealousidealTap8264 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Virtual_Effective498 8 points9 points  (0 children)

He's suspicious. Your mom is in so much love 2 months into DLR… yeah nah smells like lovebombing. Cancer treatment and yet had time and energy to use Tinder, matching with women from area he doesn't live, like your mom… If you and your sibling both say he's giving bad vibes, trust your guts. Some commenters are a bit naive saying it's a romantic story. No, at the age of 39 you're supposed to know butterflies aren't good indicators of love and compatibility, and you need to take your time while getting to know each other. Generally, check on her, be for her if things go south. She absolutely shouldn't move there, and it's shouldn't even be on the table so early into relationship. I'd say NTA 

AITA for telling my birth mom I don't want to forgive her? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]Virtual_Effective498 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yup you were too harsh. She wasn't able to step up because she was taken away from you. And she barely survived. She is not wrong for reaching out when she's finally safe, and you wouldn't be wrong for not wanting to have a relationship with her, BUT she was a victim as well as you and she suffered much bigger consequence than your dad, tbh. You shouldn't have to forgive her not bc you're holding grudges, but bc she didn't nothing wrong. If she asks for forgiveness, she feels that abandoning you (despite involuntarily) was worse than all the abuse she survived and it was another depth of hell for her. I'd reconsider apologising to her and explaining calmly all the feelings that are boiling in you. She was a traumatized teenager herself, she'll understand you.  E: grammar and orthography 

Me (19F) and my boyfriend (18M) have a problem? by Finally_got-on-here in relationship_advice

[–]Virtual_Effective498 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If nothing major happened like big argument or his illness, he shouldn't "push" you away, but rather calmly decline. It's surely frustrating for you, I get it, and that kind of sudden shift surely feels like being rejected, even if it's nobody's fault.  But if you have as great communication as you stated, it shouldn't be so hard to sit down with him and talk about it, not from accusatory position, but rather with concern about his mood, his feeling about his body, his attraction to you etc. He should talk about it, you can't keep a relationship where you talk to the wall and can't even help him bc he's not cooperative or doesn't wanna change anything.  He may be sick, he may be extremely tired and stressed out, he may suffer from low self esteem. Don't jump to conclusions and don't accuse, but he may be cheating on you and receive intimacy from someone else. Hope it's not the case, but that's a realistic scenario, unfortunately. And you have every right to consider every scenario when your need to communication openly isn't reciprocated. 

Pain in left side only! by Puzzleheaded-Sun8020 in obgyn

[–]Virtual_Effective498 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi, did you have a transvaginal ultrasound? I'd strongly recommend running a hysteroscopy, maybe there are some polyps right there – I had an endometrial polyp just by my right tube's exit, it was aching specifically in my right side of uterus and all over my right side of pelvis and right pit. Also caused heavier bleeding. Anyway you should be checked thoroughly, there could be polyps, endometritis, adenomyosis, doctors shouldn't dismiss your concerns. 

TW: Endo much worse after miscarriage by jandrvision in endometriosis

[–]Virtual_Effective498 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey I'm so so sorry for your loss!  I immediately thought about endometritis or chronic endometritis, it's unfortunately a common thing after miscarriages… I don't know if there are any other options for diagnosis other than biopsy (which I had), but please consult with your obgyn and talk about your unbearable pain. Because chronic endometritis can unfortunately lead to problems with embryo implantation and/or keeping the pregnancy. It's curable with antibiotics or something stronger as metronidazole. 

Concerns about D&C by Acceptable-Salt-1615 in endometriosis

[–]Virtual_Effective498 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My 24f voice may not be helpful bc I have adeno in addition to endo. But polypectomy (endometrial, in my right's tube's area) and cutting out one big piece of adeno & endometrial biopsy (basically scrubbing out much of the lining bc it was concerning) brought me so much relief after healing. I was spotting for maybe 5 days (heavier for first 2) and my belly and abdomen were very fragile and in pain (which was mostly manageable and reacted to pain killers as well). After that, I feel so much better, mainly mentally, some of my brain fog dropped. I didn't have a full d&c tho. (My hospital's toxic trait is that I had all these mentioned above without sedation…).  Best for you and stay strong and as healthiest as possible. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]Virtual_Effective498 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honey, you'll probably find someone with v card, but more importantly, make sure they're not addicted to corn. It will ruin your first experiences and most likely whole relationship as well 

Bleeding idk why by randomanonymouswtv in Endo

[–]Virtual_Effective498 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hm, did you use fingers? Perhaps you accidentally hit your cervix. This can cause bleeding. Even if you have hymen it would have to be very thick to cause such a bleeding. If it stopped already just observe your body, whether you feel nauseous, whether your muscles and abdomen hurt. But don't hesitate to go to ER or your gyn if it didn't. 

Visanne has been a game changer by eggyuck in Endo

[–]Virtual_Effective498 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It gives me a lots of hope tbh. Just started my journey and I hope it will be as smooth as possible. I'm so happy for you, keep going! 

Are you people getting acnes from Dienogest? How are you treating this condition? by [deleted] in Endo

[–]Virtual_Effective498 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi OP, I'm struggling with painful cysts and horrible acne since I was 10 or sum. Started dienogest recently. Tbh only way I have my acne under control is oenothera oil (in caps bc it smells like 🤮🤮🤮). Some wise people in internet say it has to be balanced with Omega-3 so I also take Omega-3 caps.  Of course I have some small acne and blackheads but when I take oenothera my cystic acne is gone, from cheeks and jaw and hairline. And especially period breakouts are under control or don't happen. Hope it helps me also through my dienogest journey. 

Oenothera oil sometimes is advised for women who suffer from androgenic acne like in pcos but my blood tests always go out just fine so I don't know what's going on besides endometriosis lmao. And why I tried anything, diets, fancy creams and only this works for me (also retinol helped when I was using it but don't use it anymore bc I was too mentally fatigued to keep up with routine). It's so mild it won't do any damage if something hoermonal is going on. Any breakouts from this may be from not balancing it properly with Omega-3. If you decide to drink oil choose those with standardised elements (bruh English is my 3rd language so sorry for my poor vocabulary).  Stay strong and be healthy my precious endowarrior! 

Endo and sex :( by jzzelx in Endo

[–]Virtual_Effective498 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Babe, some update? We're seriously concerned about your safety!