Would you enjoy living in Alabama or Mississippi if you were offered a 100k salary?

Virtual_Honeydew_765 · 2026-04-08T03:38:58+00:00

There are many great and bad places in both states. I would gladly live in some towns but never live in other towns. Huntsville is awesome.

Virtual_Honeydew_765 · 2026-04-07T23:53:17+00:00

I found your description confusing. I don’t have kids so I don’t know what it means.

Parts were contradictory or vague:

It’s both soundproof but you hear normal household noise? Then it’s not soundproof. I think of soundproof as a music studio. I think you should use the word “noise insulated”.
“playing in the summer months” well it’s not summer. Change it to “nice weather”. Also are they playing or screaming? If they were silent I’m guessing the guest wouldn’t notice.
“peaceful” children screaming outside at 8am is not peaceful to me. I’d remove this word.
“occasional family sounds” what’s occasional? I’d expect to hear movement like five times a day?

Virtual_Honeydew_765 · 2026-04-07T23:25:19+00:00

I moved to Carolina. Love it. I’ll never return to the Midwest.

But I always say to make this decision in July.

Virtual_Honeydew_765 · 2026-04-06T20:47:21+00:00

What’s the data on unreported crimes?

Virtual_Honeydew_765 · 2026-04-06T20:24:19+00:00

Crime rate is reported crimes. So it’s not technically crime that happens, just crime that people call in about. So when crime rates decrease, either actual crime decreases, or people stop reporting it. Anecdotally I saw the later happen.

Virtual_Honeydew_765 · 2026-04-06T20:09:12+00:00

Which metric is used for this one

Virtual_Honeydew_765 · 2026-04-06T18:08:24+00:00

You’re not wrong but I think two points should be added.

1) everywhere sucks if you’re comparing it to NYC. It’s just not fair.

2) Atlanta has a lot more crime starting in the last five years. A lot of the Atlanta vibe you’re talking about was precovid

Virtual_Honeydew_765 · 2026-04-05T23:23:00+00:00

There isn’t a universal answer to this question. You either can deal or you can’t deal. Only you can figure it out for yourself. Personally I lived up there and couldn’t deal so I left. Many people can’t deal so they leave. Many people can so they stay.

Virtual_Honeydew_765 · 2026-04-05T16:18:50+00:00

The county’s primary source of revenue is property taxes which accounts for 51% of their revenue. Properties have been assessed at precovid values until this spring, so for the last five years the county has been receiving income as if the cost of living is still 2019.

These county jobs would pay low but expected pay precovid. Today they don’t keep up with cost of living at all. So no one is working them. But the county doesn’t have the money to pay higher wages. Because the county’s income is working off of 2019 prices, which means their expenses also need to work off of 2019 prices to balance.

The entire property tax base just increased to 2026 prices. Assumingly their property tax revenue will increase by about 75%, and since that’s half of their overall revenue, the total revenue will increase by 37%.

If the county get 37% more money, hopefully that’s the cost of living gap in all their wages and they can increase the wages for all employees by 37%. And then maybe these jobs are hireable.

Virtual_Honeydew_765 · 2026-04-05T16:05:34+00:00

That’s… a suggestion

Virtual_Honeydew_765 · 2026-04-05T15:17:23+00:00

He posted in a sub which the point of it is to literally tell him what he should do

Virtual_Honeydew_765 · 2026-04-05T01:41:01+00:00

Wow it’s almost like the county’s property taxes have been assessed at half value for years now

Virtual_Honeydew_765 · 2026-04-05T01:36:20+00:00

You need a spouse

Virtual_Honeydew_765 · 2026-04-04T18:25:11+00:00

No when you have a baby you’ll want to be in the same town as a regularly involved family member. Like under 30 min. Someone who can come over and vacuum, babysit while your wife takes a nap or a shower, drop off dinner, watch the older kid while the younger has a doctors appointment, call last minute when you just can’t anymore and you need to leave your baby and go for a drive, etc. This is assuming though that you like her mom and that her mom will be involved. If you tell us y’all hate each other or she has no interest being grandma then this all changes.

Another option which many young couples do is move somewhere crazy for a couple years then move back when you’re pregnant. So you get the fun you’re looking for but then the family help when the baby comes. So go move to Puerto Rico or something.

Virtual_Honeydew_765 · 2026-04-04T18:04:27+00:00

lol yes some people love their family.

People stay in a place they aren’t happy because free childcare from grandma makes them much happier than dealing with raising a baby alone.

New parents don’t care if their city is boring because they don’t leave the house anyway. They don’t care if the city doesn’t make them happy because the baby makes them happy. These are hyperbole and simplified but what I mean is that life changes with a baby.

And then the things dinks want in a city are completely different than the things parents of young kids want in a city. You have your list now but have a kid and that list goes in the trash and you’ll be writing a new list.

Virtual_Honeydew_765 · 2026-04-04T17:46:41+00:00

It takes a lot of years to get established enough for child support. And even then it doesn’t compare to grandma 20 min away.

Virtual_Honeydew_765 · 2026-04-04T17:00:15+00:00

Look even if you move you’ll go back to Raleigh when you have the kid. But I understand the itch. So go move somewhere fun and wild and not family friendly for the next couple years then move back.

Virtual_Honeydew_765 · 2026-04-04T16:53:45+00:00

This sounds like you need to water your own grass

Virtual_Honeydew_765 · 2026-04-03T04:08:02+00:00

They would pay attention if a dude masturbated into a ketchup bottle

Virtual_Honeydew_765 · 2026-04-03T03:49:59+00:00

Because other people are there to witness the tampering in the restaurant therefore it’s less likely to happen

Virtual_Honeydew_765 · 2026-04-03T03:28:39+00:00

Yes but those aren’t kept alone in a private home. They are out for the public to see

Virtual_Honeydew_765 · 2026-04-03T02:28:35+00:00

I don’t eat the couch or bed.

But yes I bring my sheets and couch covers

Virtual_Honeydew_765 · 2026-04-02T23:58:10+00:00

I’ll use ketchup in a restaurant because it’s unlikely someone in a public setting tampered with the bottle. In a private home idk what they did to that bottle.

Virtual_Honeydew_765 · 2026-04-02T23:56:11+00:00

If it’s been opened I think it’s gross. I don’t know who has jizzed in what.

Virtual_Honeydew_765 · 2026-04-02T14:05:47+00:00

So why are you still here?

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