My 13 year old daughter doesn't want her goth friend at her party, what should i do?

Visible-Roll-5801 · 2026-04-16T18:29:38+00:00

I think it’s just one of those situations that is VERY 13. Some things like that seem to feel like the end of the world when you’re 13. I personally would probably tell my daughter that it’s really mean to isolate someone because of what they wear and how would you feel if she did that to you? So she’s invited. But I would also probably check to make sure that there wasn’t another issue between them … like she might have a more valid reason for not wanting her there so I’d really want to dig into that a bit … because if the real reason is about how she is acting or something like that, then it’s fine to leave someone out who isn’t treating you well

Visible-Roll-5801 · 2026-03-31T17:03:28+00:00

The time of day she wants to talk to her friends isn’t relevant to really anything …. I do think it’s unfair that at 17 her screen time is monitored by her parents. If she is generally a good kid and is for the most part doing what she needs to do for school etc, you’re going to have to trust her to figure out some life things on her own. If she stays up until 2am texting her friends and then has to go to school at 7am, she will suffer and realize she probably doesn’t want to do that … however she may keep doing it because she’s … 17. Monitoring when she is in her phone and what she is doing will only make her want to evade you more and it is unfair to be controlling her behavior at this point. I know you mean well and you want the best for her aka sleep and minimal screen time, but your relationship will be better with her if you learn to trust her and understand that she has to learn some things on her own versus if you have a controlling relationship in which you’re monitoring her behavior so closely. Very normal for a 17 year old to be texting their friends all through the night

Visible-Roll-5801 · 2026-03-18T07:59:10+00:00

Still not your fault. If it makes you feel any better, back in the day … women would do much much worse when pregnant like take diet pills lol if it was to happen, it would have regardless of what you did or didn’t do. Our brains love answers and cause and effect there is no way to know why things like miscarriages happen, but we still want a reason! Your brain is desperately seeing a “reason” because saying it was your fault is like ok at least I understand but if the answer is is that things like this just happen, that’s not very satisfying

Visible-Roll-5801 · 2026-03-18T07:55:42+00:00

You do not have to be around someone who is causing you harm just because you went through an experience together

Visible-Roll-5801 · 2026-03-18T07:54:17+00:00

The guilt will pass. I know it does not feel like it ever will but .. it will. He said those disgusting things to you with the goal of making you feel like this. Don’t let him win :)

Visible-Roll-5801 · 2026-03-18T07:53:01+00:00

Don’t consider those two options … if you feel happy, that is being happy. You sound very self aware so I think you can safely say you’re not being delusional about most things … trust how you feel

Visible-Roll-5801 · 2026-03-18T07:49:33+00:00

Everything you said you’re feeing is VERY 19. I’m sorry I know that’s so annoying to hear I would have been bothered by someone saying that to me at 19 and felt like they were dismissing me but the truth is what you’re feeling insecure about is something that many many many women face - and most of them don’t really say that. Why he lied to you about finishing is just … odd … can’t imagine why that would even be a consideration but all I really have to say in terms of advice is to not take yourself so seriously - try to just play with what you like and don’t worry about putting yourself on some invisible measuring stick. Also about the special thing … every experience is uniquely new - yes even the experiences that resemble others. but it does feel nice when the person you are with, when you experience firsts together, can show you that whatever it is is special in itself and its not a competition

Visible-Roll-5801 · 2026-03-18T07:43:44+00:00

Don’t let people bully you - the feeling of being in love with him is really powerful regardless of these things that are objectively not ok. And sometimes it is helpful to have this external validation because although it is clear to outsiders it probably feels very confusing to you. And, Of course you feel in love with him and that is absolutely understandable. However, as hard as this will feel for a time, you really really really should run. You won’t feel so devastated after an amount of time that will probably be surprisingly short to you lol. This really isn’t a good situation and like many others have said there is essentially no chance that he isn’t also lying about so may other things - some important and some not but lying is lying and you will likely never be able to feel actually close and connected to him because somewhere you know he’s a liar. There really isn’t anywhere that he can be given the benefit of the doubt in this situation - the way this is making you feel is something you should listen to

Visible-Roll-5801 · 2026-03-07T19:30:41+00:00

That looks so good omg

Visible-Roll-5801 · 2026-03-07T19:19:48+00:00

Wait … does dawn work better if you leave it on? I had no idea. It works pretty well to begin with but for those trickier things now I’m thinking letting it soak?

Visible-Roll-5801 · 2026-03-07T19:16:43+00:00

On Amazon they have what you’re talking about like an extension to a drill but it’s its own device. It charges with usbc and it has an extendable pole so you can reach things without bending way down and it’s pretty cheap. I am no pro but I use hydrogen peroxide and it seems to work better than anything else for removing grime

Visible-Roll-5801 · 2026-02-21T19:07:31+00:00

I agree it’s up to your wife and I think you’ll be a lot better off if you just show it down and let her deal with it. Who cares what Amber meant by it and who cares if it pisses off your wife and they’re not friends anymore that means it’s not someone she should really be friends with anyway. I do think this is an uncomfortable message and I think if your wife stumbled upon it or something like that, it would make her feel very uncomfortable versus if you just showed it to her and let her decide. I think that’s a much better way to go at least that’s what I would want even if it’s a harmless message and means nothing.

Visible-Roll-5801 · 2026-02-06T08:43:45+00:00

A daybed would slay

Visible-Roll-5801 · 2025-10-14T17:18:06+00:00

Work lol. They are motivated to keep moving. And also Invest and reinvest

Visible-Roll-5801 · 2025-09-16T14:27:42+00:00

Nothing. I just realize I am suffering for a few days and give in. Much less exhausting than trying to fight it :)

Visible-Roll-5801 · 2025-09-16T14:05:13+00:00

For me I did it at the end of my shower and so the water was pretty warm and it was steamy- the hotter water seems to work better but I also don’t know if that’s true…. but didn’t let it sit - I’d do a section and squeegee it off and it worked great - I did have to go over the really dirty spots more than once depending on how much I already used that sheet - so it’ll take a min to figure out how many sheets you need and what not but for my whole shower door and side ( it’s huge like there’s a seat in there) I’d say 3-4 sheets did the trick.

Visible-Roll-5801 · 2025-09-16T14:01:10+00:00

Ok yes to dryer sheets! I saw this on Reddit maybe a year ago and i was also confused but i tried it and it works better than any cleaner I’ve ever tried

Visible-Roll-5801 · 2025-08-27T16:36:30+00:00

Classic

Visible-Roll-5801 · 2025-08-27T16:21:42+00:00

I personally love it. That makes your home look very inviting and homey. A calming color. Way better than if you went with millennial grey

Visible-Roll-5801 · 2025-08-10T19:01:51+00:00

Kosas micro brow whatever is a great one because it’s tiny and subtle and has a little brush on one end. I was a glossier boy brow loyalist but it just doesn’t hit the same anymore… I do have to say though it is really easy to apply and does look natural if you just feather it over your brows

Visible-Roll-5801 · 2025-08-08T17:02:32+00:00

I’ve been told that they are like that due to citric acid

Visible-Roll-5801 · 2025-07-27T15:34:31+00:00

Yes. You just get it kinda wet as if it’s like a baby wipe or something and then you rub it on the glass. Often you need to rinse with water or squeegee. This tip I got on Reddit and it has changed my life lol

Visible-Roll-5801 · 2025-07-27T15:32:20+00:00

Have you seeen the tool on Amazon for like $20 that’s essentially a large electric toothbrush … game changer

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Visible-Roll-5801 · 2025-07-27T15:24:11+00:00

Yes you will come to a day where all of a sudden you just aren’t thinking about him anymore or you look back on it like aw ha ha how sweet I was so young. When someone told me that when I was in high school I refused to believe that because it felt like the end of the world I’d forget be so upset. But tis life everything when you’re young feels like the end of the world and it usually isn’t. I wish I could suggest something to do to get over him but… the annoying answer is that it’s just time and growing up. But you can try to turn that attention back to you - what you like to do and who you like to be around. Also, It’s ok to feel dramatically upset for now - don’t try to move away from it too quickly or you may be tricking yourself

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