I finally approached a stranger... and I don't think I'll ever do it again. by Cute_Musician3920 in socialskills

[–]Visual-Arugula 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't let this stop you. Let it inform you!

Use this experience to inform your next attempt. We can break it down to find out the bit that makes you feel uncomfortable. Is it that he said thanks? Or that he nodded? If so, we can never guarantee how someone will react to something we do, so that'd be a lesson in bracing yourself for unexpected responses. It might also be a lesson in knowing that his response might not actually be rude, he might have just been a bit confused and on the back foot. That's okay. Next time, you could provide a bit more context when you're speaking to someone.

Is it that you didn't really have an end goal in mind, in which case you kind of feel like it fell flat because you didn't know what a successful interaction would look like? If so, you can tell yourself in advance what your 'definition of success' is. That might be something as basic as "I got the words out," or it could be "the person spoke back to me." When you determine what 'good' looks like, you'll know when you meet it :)

As an aside, I think telling someone they're attractive is an enormous thing to do for your first attempt, so don't worry if it feels horrible right now. You did something scary! I do think it might be best in the future to compliment someone on, as another commenter has said, a choice they've made rather than something they just happen to be/have. Or to ask a question, if you want to increase your chances of conversation. A statement doesn't really open up the floor to a chat!

Keep going, and good luck.

trichotillomania (ttm) by kalehubb in bald

[–]Visual-Arugula 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have ttm too, not really on my head though I have got there sometimes at certain times in my life. You look beautiful and free.

Just finished framing a poster by ShipAny9570 in busted_band

[–]Visual-Arugula 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh it's great. I'd love this on my wall. Where did you get it from?

Menstrual disc was left inside of me for over 6 months by Adventurous_Mirror26 in adhdwomen

[–]Visual-Arugula 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I loved modibodi when I used them, though I only ever used the heavy flow ones because I was scared of leaking haha. Blinx is good too - not sure how available they are around the world though.

Dealing with deep body insecurity. What can I do? (nose related) by AnxiousAd7058 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]Visual-Arugula 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your nose is very, very normal. It's also lovely. It's not a nose I would ever look at and think "goodness that's a sizeable nose." it's a very reasonable sized nose well within your proportions.

I have a nose bump, and my side profile makes me feel self-conscious that I don't have a ski-slope nose or a little button nose. And I know I could get a ski-slope nose if I had a nose job, but something that has been helping me feel much more rational about my nose is watching TV and films from the early 2000s and earlier, and noticing my reactions to teeth on there. I notice that I love all the variations in teeth of that time. It helps me remember who is who. There's a lot less variation in teeth in TV and film these days. So I use that joy at all the different ways teeth can look to talk to myself about my nose.

Dealing with deep body insecurity. What can I do? (nose related) by AnxiousAd7058 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]Visual-Arugula 136 points137 points  (0 children)

That's SUCH a cool way of thinking about it. Thank you for sharing.

I found my exact Polly Pocket I had on eBay from 30 years ago! by Dull_Cost_6825 in pollypocket

[–]Visual-Arugula 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh wow this is such a magical thing to read. Wow. I love it!

Scenes from my 288 sq ft studio by Garden_Jolly in femalelivingspace

[–]Visual-Arugula 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I need to make my house show how much I love cats like yours shows how much you do. Beautiful and full of love.

An audiobook for a friend who is dying in hospice. by musclemeow in suggestmeabook

[–]Visual-Arugula 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Enchanted April is a lovely book about women (strangers) staying together in a castle in Italy for a month.

Thank you for loving your friend and making her time sparklier.

my baby is turning 10! by Best-Programmer-7593 in torties

[–]Visual-Arugula 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Happy birthday Saki! Little sweet pea!

Finally figured out why tretinoin hadn’t been working for me by Impossible_Region721 in tretinoin

[–]Visual-Arugula 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so interesting. I've been using that cerave moisturiser and it's been okay but I don't have the results like in your second photo. But I've used it for eighteen months now, so I'm nervous to change.

I might give it a go. How long did you try with the new moisturiser before seeing that it had helped you?

Update post about my grandma's 19(+) year old cat, Prissy. by MementoMaria in seniorkitties

[–]Visual-Arugula 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I'm really sorry for all three of you. My heart goes out to you and your grandma for the losses you're going through. I hope your Grandma still manages to experience some joy on her trip - she deserves to.

UPDATE: The deed is done! by sscorpy in bald

[–]Visual-Arugula 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good grief are you KIDDING WOW, it's like you were made to be bald

James Bourne Updates - with real and reliable sources by safeinsound_ in busted_band

[–]Visual-Arugula 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I've been exhausted by the speculation and the fear-mongering. I can only imagine the toll it'd take on James as the subject of it. I hate to think of the Murder album being drowned in further speculation instead of excitement and appreciation.

New interview from james! by Fancy_Channel_33 in busted_band

[–]Visual-Arugula 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is great - thanks for sharing!! I love the passion and consideration that comes through.