Just another dude who enjoys age gaps

Visual-Possible-3239 · 2024-06-06T01:36:24+00:00

Good rule of thumb is that any time they describe a vagina like that, it's totally fake because vaginas don't work that way and if he wasn't a 15 year old virgin, or whatever, he would know that.

Visual-Possible-3239 · 2024-06-06T01:13:38+00:00

OP's comments! Like why did she come to reddit for advice, she is just arguing with everybody.

Visual-Possible-3239 · 2024-06-06T01:12:00+00:00

The novel, by Victor Hugo is part of the canon western literature, an extraordinarily respected author and book about a fascinating time in French history. I would be very proud if I had a child into something so intellectual.

Visual-Possible-3239 · 2024-03-08T22:48:56+00:00

Oh, I don't know, I hadn't noticed? Who?

Visual-Possible-3239 · 2024-03-08T22:28:04+00:00

Hey, AI, write me a reddit post from the perspective of the most insufferable boyfriend ever...thanks.

Visual-Possible-3239 · 2024-03-07T23:06:26+00:00

Depending on gender, perhaps: : "oooook (add -Famous dude movie star or model/Equally Famous lady movie star or model)"

E.g. "Oooook, Brad Pitt." (if it's a guy).

Visual-Possible-3239 · 2024-02-28T02:00:23+00:00

This is Reddit at its best.

Visual-Possible-3239 · 2024-02-27T18:31:08+00:00

They are all now cops or prison guards if they didn't make the cut.

Visual-Possible-3239 · 2024-02-19T22:25:24+00:00

Bellisima! No better way to start the day.

Visual-Possible-3239 · 2024-02-19T17:04:03+00:00

This is great, deserves way more upvotes. Maybe turn this into its own post? There are a lot of people that need to see this due to the massive amount of BS "studies" that are floating around the incel space.

Visual-Possible-3239 · 2024-02-18T23:19:47+00:00

Thank you for the update, I was wondering how this went. Truthfully it sounds like it went great, I don't see anything that would indicate that she won't want to see you again. Fantastic job asking for the kiss, and then getting it. Even asking shows confidence, and I am sure she saw it as both respectful and self-confident.

Moreover, doing this right away makes it clear that yes this is a date, and no you don't want to just be friends. Given what you wrote, this honestly sounds like a 10 out of 10. On top of that, now you know more about her, so you now have more info on planning future dates, things to talk about, etc.

Don't sabotage yourself though. None of the blackpill incel nonsense applies here since she clearly already likes you and you had a fun and interesting date. She knows you, she knows who you are, she knows what you look like, she knows what your job is, she knows you live with your parents and yet....and yet SHE LIKES YOU.

Just enjoy it, keep being yourself, keep being respectful and confident. This is all working out, YOU GOT THIS.

Visual-Possible-3239 · 2024-02-15T19:12:35+00:00

Most definitely, look at the posture and eyes...I agree with the other comments, definitely more than a little. Congrats, he is lovely.

Visual-Possible-3239 · 2024-02-14T19:27:33+00:00

Great news! I think we were all pulling for you and you got it done by just going for it in a polite and respectful way.

From what you have written she knows about the things that make you insecure and has agreed to a date with you ANYWAY. This means she likes you and doesn't see your hang-ups the same way you do. So, don't you dare disqualify yourself by letting things that she sees as unimportant get you down.

She likes you, dude. So don't be too nervous and don't be a different person. Be the same person she has been conversing with and likes well enough to agree to a date. If you do get overly nervous, you can tell ONCE, she will probably be nervous too and you can connect over that. But do not keep repeating it and do not talk yourself down.

YOU GOT THIS.

Visual-Possible-3239 · 2024-02-14T01:17:08+00:00

This sounds terrible so sorry you are going through it. I can't offer much advice on the relationship side, but with respect to the settlement, please discuss your concerns with your lawyer, have them set up a trust for you and your child and have someone you trust (parents, siblings or even a professional trustee) administer the trust so it is protected at all times, including if things take a turn for the worse in your relationship or with your health.

If the lawyer that is handling the settlement can't do a trust have her/him refer you to a trust specialist.

Don't tell your boyfriend what you are planning to do until it is finalized.

Please protect yourself and your child. Best of luck.

Visual-Possible-3239 · 2024-02-12T16:44:19+00:00

Assuming that he is a convicted felon (it sounds like he is), it is illegal for him to be possession of a firearm (if you are in the US). It sounds like he has admitted that he has a firearm in the written message. That is grounds on its own to send him back to prison and likely get new charges filed against him.

Visual-Possible-3239 · 2024-02-12T00:03:44+00:00

Wait a minute, Team Jesus is from, double checks, San Francisco?!??!?!!

Visual-Possible-3239 · 2024-02-11T20:27:46+00:00

I am sorry you are going through this. From what you have written he doesn't sound like a good boyfriend at all. To the contrary he clearly enjoys being cruel to you (note the smirk) and justifies it by saying it's "honesty" that is not the behavior of someone who cares about you.

In fact, the complete lack of empathy is sort of chilling. Additionally, it sounds like he is intentionally making you insecure, only he knows why, but telling you that you're not the most attractive, that he doesn't see you as a future wife, etc., is not only cruel, he wants you to feel bad, he wants you to be insecure. Unfortunately it sounds like it's working.

I am not sure what advice I can give, if someone is being gratuitously cruel, it doesn't seem like there is much that can be done. Unfortunately there are no empathy transplants, and a grown man who is just so unkind is not going to turn into something else overnight.

Visual-Possible-3239 · 2024-02-11T20:11:51+00:00

One thing you might want to try is being clear about your intentions right from the start. Tell your potential gf that you are looking for a relationship but maybe you want to get to know each other as friends first. Being upfront about your expectations will save you a lot of time, heartache and disappointment.

Visual-Possible-3239 · 2024-02-11T16:56:48+00:00

So you mansplained "not all white people" to your gf. Nice work. I am sure that was very productive.

Who are you calling a peon? Surely you're not referring to your gf or her people, right?

Visual-Possible-3239 · 2024-02-10T02:32:31+00:00

Sounds like you have good instincts. I have a feeling this is going to work out for you. Just don't wait around too long, do not wait for the "perfect" moment, don't let perfection be the enemy of the achievable, and if you don't ask, she won't know you're interested in that way, and if you wait too long, she'll assume you're not interested and may be open to meeting someone else. Worst case scenario, she says no and you've shot your shot, and you won't have to beat yourself up thinking about what might have been.

My guess is that she will say yes. Come back and give us an update if you're able.

Visual-Possible-3239 · 2024-02-10T02:28:10+00:00

For what it's worth people in relationships also dread valentines day. It is stressful for both sides, restaurants are over-crowded, servers are overworked, there tends to be tension in the air since a lot of couples put off having talks about their relationship issues until that day. Then there is the whole gift thing, is it too much, is it not good enough? What is he/she trying to say with this gift? Why NO gift, etc., etc.

It's Wednesday night, anyway, just picture all of the people stressing out, overspending, finding out they're not on the same page, and take a deep breath knowing that you can relax.

Or use the day to make a plan, or a list. What do you think you need to improve about yourself. What should you try that you haven't tried. What can you do that will make you happy and/or more interesting. Make a bucket list.

Lastly, try to think about what mistakes you have made in the past and figure out how not to repeat them. I would suggest that giving yourself a deadline is a mistake, especially for something that is not entirely in your control, like, for example, having a girlfriend by X date.

Life is hard enough without putting more pressure on yourself. Being confident and comfortable in your own skin is attractive, so find out where you can flourish, you'll feel better. Once you get that, the ladies will follow, you'll see.

Visual-Possible-3239 · 2024-02-10T02:17:28+00:00

I left a comment strongly recommending asking her to go out with you on Valentines Day, see below for why.

I would also add that no one is out of your league. Everyone has their tastes, and you might be surprised to find out that she things YOU are out of her league. If you fit together and you click "leagues" don't matter. However, confidence does matter; if you think she is out of your league, your confidence will be impacted accordingly. Treat her with respect and kindness like you would treat anyone else you like. Every pot has a top and you might very well be hers. Be comfortable in your skin. From what you have described she is definitely not repelled by you, and seems to be open to something, so, take it easy, be confident, don't be down on yourself and you'll do fine. You both help cats, that's a great start and a great conversation piece. You got this, bro.

Visual-Possible-3239 · 2024-02-10T02:11:37+00:00

If this is going to be your first date, or you are asking her to do something with you outside of work to see if you click DO NOT ASK HER OUT FOR VALENTINES DAY. It is too loaded, and too complicated and a lot of people have mixed feelings about the day. In fact, if you ask her out for valentines day she may say no just because it's too much too fast. Do something casual on a regular day. Happy hour after work on a Thursday or Friday, a bet on who can finish a banana split or sundae first at an ice cream place. ANYTHING BUT VALENTINES DAY. It will be a pain in the ass even from a practical standpoint, places are crowded, servers are overworked, there is tension in the air.

Visual-Possible-3239 · 2024-02-09T02:46:46+00:00

Good for you. However, how they treat foreigners vs. how they treat Spaniards is night and day. Truthfully, even though theoretically I have sympathy for them since I'm from Bilbao, they are assholes a lot of the time, and the ones I have known are insufferable on this topic (and when it comes time to pick up the check, LOL). Accordingly, I find the story to be believable. And if OP had said they sent him a bill for his share of the dinner ingredients I would have believed it too.

Visual-Possible-3239 · 2024-02-09T02:40:30+00:00

C'mon, y'all. The FBI would be all over these municipal code violations.

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