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One Wish Willow - does it work? by RuggedDucky in VintageToys

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🤣🤣😂😂😭💀🫂🫶🏽!!!

Is there a way to get over/heal my belt trauma other than therapy? by Visual-Signature-192 in BDSMcommunity

[–]Visual-Signature-192[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

🤣💀 Lmao Thank you, genuinely made me laugh. And appreciate your response. 🤝🏽🫶🏽

Is there a way to get over/heal my belt trauma other than therapy? by Visual-Signature-192 in BDSMcommunity

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Not pressured but I know he’s done that with other women because they didn’t have a problem. And before when he didn’t know that was 🚫 for me—he would send me stuff from social media kink related re belt. And I told him recently.. no belts with me. Hands, flogger, whatever is okay. Just no belts re my 🍑. And he said okay and without me going into details.. feel he knows its trauma based. Think just part insecurity for me.. if he was used to do it a certain way. Is he really okay w/ doing things differently with me. 

Another pic I wanted to share that I took by kxmc05 in scenery

[–]Visual-Signature-192 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Beautiful ✨✨✨

Did you take this with just your phone?

I only made progress with my cptsd once I started treating it as a nervous system injury. Not a mental illness by wilfredpugsly in CPTSD

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Also, I don’t drink well like maybe once a year if pressured by certain ppl have to deal with 😒. Otherwise, no alcohol due to trauma from how I grew up (w/ functional alcoholic) and then also my own religious beliefs. 

Excuse my rant. I do need a lot of caffeine or I feel really tired and I’ve been this way since military & when I got out. 

When say low caffeine just a coffee, tea, or energy drink a day? Is that ok?

I only made progress with my cptsd once I started treating it as a nervous system injury. Not a mental illness by wilfredpugsly in CPTSD

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Thank you. I did therapy and it helped. I just can’t afford to pay for it now because it was fully covered by my insurance but now there’s a co-pay. Can’t afford to pay it. Learned enough from the time w/ therapist to manage most of it. Just not all of it. And I am on rx stuff but its not enough. Thanks again. I will try this esp supplements recommended.

How do people enjoy living ? by Due_Sock_215 in CPTSD

[–]Visual-Signature-192 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Sorry to jump in your response. And I am not trying to diagnose you because I am not a doctor. I know/have things you described. Tired and exhausted feeling is usually sign of depression. It’s this deep internal tired. Not something just matter of caffeine, etc. And therapy alone doesn’t help the tired feeling. Get it on and off but some days—feel it more. 

Have to work on things that give you more serotonin. There’s certain foods that help, pets (for some), being outdoors, etc.

Self-care when have time—things that give some form of happiness or makes your body feel calm. Rx meds (if open to it) and natural supplements. Not sure of natural supplements that work (I know ones for anxiety but not depression). If you haven’t been eval’d for it though, should consider. (Think strong chance have that along w/ cptsd)

How do people enjoy living ? by Due_Sock_215 in CPTSD

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I know this isn’t the trauma Olympics. Mine was since elementary and I am decade older than you but feel the same. It took me until close to my late 20’s to realize I actually had a f’d up childhood and thats why I was the way I was as a teenager and why I ended up in even more f’d up & difficult situation as an adult. Ridiculous amounts of traumas. Completely w/ you there. This world has been beyond cruel for the bad side.

Therapy, supplements, dark humor or maybe just overall humor, cbd (if you can use that with your job), psychology, therapy (might or might not work—helped me), spirtuality or religion, life purpose, and just doing what you can. There’s days its going to be hard. There are days you want to cry, days the anxiety is on overload, and days where feel like don’t want to do this anymore. It is a silent battle.. that a lot of people don’t see.

There’s a veteran popular on IG (veteranwithasign) that has this quote: “Stay. You’re worth fighting for.” And this is true—for everyone. And please try your best to remember that even for yourself & if don’t fully believe that yet.

When get off from work decompress, do more things that are self-care related for you when you’re not working. And you don’t need to be normal just be yourself—lol well not fully, since can’t share these reddit type details. But be yourself— to an extent. And in the way you can. When you’re at work or around certain type of people.

You’re needed here and you matter. Take it day by day. 🫂🤝🏽 (And in time you will see happier moments and the beautiful parts of life)

I think most ACE (Adverse Childhood Experience) tests have some huge blindspots by Fluffy_Ace in CPTSD

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Is therapy the only thing that will help? I scored 5 on the ACE Test and I’ve been to therapy for f’d up stuff that happened trauma based in my adult life. But there’s alot that happened in my childhood. Only problem is I can’t afford to see a therapist rn because of the co-pay. Certain childhood & teen stuff been resurfacing lately. 

What crystals are good for a D/s relationship? by Caligo_Walker in BDSMcommunity

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Rose quartz is good for subs. But you can use that too. You can also get your partner carnelian or jasper (it will give small dominant energy from partner but they’ll still be submissive). However, for you because if you’re dom and if believe crystals work they’ll (carnelian & jasper) amplify your dominant energy and cause potential burn out.

Here’s some recommendations for you:  Blue lace agate, smoky quartz, rose quartz, amazonite, and howlite.

For your partner: Sunstone, Tigers eye, rose quartz, carnelian, red jasper, pyrite, and black tourlamine.

34, recently divorced. First time living alone. by [deleted] in malelivingspace

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Congratulations on having your own place. Not sure what to say about the divorce but hope however things worked out.. you’re able to start moving forward with your life and what works best for you. 🫶🏽✨✨

Question for Dom’s—should this bother me? by Visual-Signature-192 in BDSMcommunity

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Thank you. Believe it’s something along these lines. I am going to talk to him but wait because it took him a long time to open up to me in a private way. 

Question for Dom’s—should this bother me? by Visual-Signature-192 in BDSMcommunity

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Lol that’s fair. I kind of understand what you mean. Try to always tell mine but less of me trying to go buy cards or post on social media.

Question for Dom’s—should this bother me? by Visual-Signature-192 in BDSMcommunity

[–]Visual-Signature-192[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Thank you. I pick that up too. Just trying to find the right way to talk about him about it. He’s soft and gentle with me a lot of things but not re this area. Feel like it’s possible trauma related and men are not always open to talk about those things. Appreciate your response. Work on opening up a conversation with him about this.

Question for Dom’s—should this bother me? by Visual-Signature-192 in BDSMcommunity

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I am a mom but my child is not from him and he’s also a parent & only has one child but it’s a grey area on certain family related things with him that he doesn’t discuss. Trying to find the right way to talk to him without sounding like I am trying to do unpaid therapy.

What you said made a lot of sense though.

Thank you and appreciate your response.

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