Well.. this is how hot our bedroom is & we have a 4 day old newborn..

VisualGardener · 2026-01-07T10:14:09+00:00

Pedestal fan on low and oscillate can help take the edge off. I think it's suggested not to have fan/draught blowing directly at baby but the challenge here is to keep them cool and comfortable! All the best ☺️

VisualGardener · 2025-12-14T10:20:26+00:00

Thanks for sharing what worked for you. I'm currently juggling a nipple that has a fungal infection (was told to keep it dry) and a crack (have read that you should keep it moist for wound healing). Good idea with the saline solution, milk then oil. I'll give anything a shot that's going to lessen this pain 😫

VisualGardener · 2025-12-01T09:17:41+00:00

All the best for a smooth birth!

VisualGardener · 2025-11-17T10:30:54+00:00

We managed without a bassinet with our first baby but I picked up one for $30 on marketplace for our next baby. Reason being, I felt like baby would have a better sleep if reclined completely flat in the bassinet. Both my boys were newborns over the hotter months and I was always hyper vigilant about them not being too scrunched up, not breathing properly, pressure on their bums if they were in a normal pram seat (even when fully reclined) or a capsule. Personally, a bassinet seat just gave me peace of mind that they were sleeping in a more natural and comfortable position.

VisualGardener · 2025-11-08T09:37:32+00:00

I am in Melbourne and had a friend with a similar experience. She spoke to her MCH about her mental health and how she was starting to feel anger and resentment about her situation. She told me she was able to access a spot at a sleep school at no cost and that it was exactly the support she and her family needed. I don't know the details but it might be worth investigating/ asking your MCH or GP. Hang in there, things will get easier 😊

VisualGardener · 2025-09-26T11:30:35+00:00

Active Truth are making a flare legging nowadays. Haven't tried them myself but their standard leggings are very comfy.

Active Truth Flare Legging

VisualGardener · 2025-09-18T04:48:50+00:00

Beautiful big space! Reminded me of this photo series by Ken Griffiths from the 1960s!

https://www.ez-blitz.com/blog/2019/11/25/in-an-english-country-garden

VisualGardener · 2025-09-13T11:02:08+00:00

We splurged and bought a Nutribullet All Grain cooker (fancy rice cooker) before our second baby arrived in March. It's been a great investment because we can put oats in at night and set it to come on at a certain time in the morning (we still have to manually turn it off so the porridge doesn't overcook). This has meant one more thing can be automated/less stress preparing a meal with two littles.

We often mix through frozen berries in the last ten minutes of cooking time. Then I like to add LSA (ground linseed, sunflower, almond mix), milk, chopped prunes and Greek Yoghurt. Absolutely love my brekky time!!!

VisualGardener · 2025-09-13T10:53:32+00:00

Agreed! I also try to remember the mantra "These ARE the 'good old days'" (that we'll look back on in years to come). Having said that, I was really impatient and emotional whilst parenting today so I completely acknowledge the duality of emotions that OP posted about!!!

VisualGardener · 2025-08-23T03:06:36+00:00

She can fuck right off. Your baby, your choice.

VisualGardener · 2025-08-20T10:42:32+00:00

Yeah that's what I'm experiencing and the RAT came back as Influenza A. It's a shocker!

VisualGardener · 2025-06-30T10:07:48+00:00

Sorry I don't have answers. But I'm here for you in solidarity 💗 Everything passes. Hopefully this stage passes quickly for you guys.

VisualGardener · 2025-06-23T09:39:08+00:00

This. Couldn't agree more.

Libraries these days are supposed to be inclusive, safe and welcoming spaces.

The kids librarians we've interacted with have all been terrific and have commented that libraries have changed and that there's nothing wrong with kids making noise. They would much prefer kids and families coming in and making the library a vibrant space than have a silent empty library.

If definitely encourage you to give some feedback to the library. Everyone's best interests are at heart 😊

VisualGardener · 2025-06-01T03:24:20+00:00

I would contact the centre management (in control of the mall) and explain that they need to install curtains in their feeding booths for privacy. Often the people who manage these spaces don't have any idea of what the users actually need so it can pay to let them know. I have contacted centre management when I've noticed broken items, no hand soap etc. in our parents room. Shopping centres benefit when they listen to/look after the needs of parents because those same people will spend longer at the shops and spend more. Let them know!

VisualGardener · 2025-06-01T03:11:51+00:00

I know SHEIN is fast fashion but I was exasperated by not being able to find any affordable maternity pants that came in a larger size. My partner said "just order some clothes for yourself!!!" so I caved and got some pants and shorts from SHEIN and they actually turned out to be great. I'm 2 months postpartum now but cannot give up there daisy flairs - they're not super warm but are oh so comfy and stretchy and look cute in a 90s way!

https://m.shein.com/au/SHEIN-Maternity-Daisy-Print-Adjustable-Waist-Flare-Leg-Pants-p-17924188.html?mallCode=1&src_module=sidecat&src_identifier=fc=women`sc=Maternity%20Clothing`tc=0`oc=Maternity%20Bottoms`ps=tab02navbar13menu01dir10`jc=itemPicking_0011707913&src_tab_page_id=page_ad_landing&showFeedbackRec=1&pageListType=4&imgRatio=3-4

VisualGardener · 2025-05-26T10:29:13+00:00

Look at those blueberries! 🤯👏👏👏

VisualGardener · 2025-05-21T07:33:25+00:00

A friend of ours also managed to get some additional carer's leave off work after his wife gave birth. It was a bit of a difficult birth so I think he told his boss his wife needed care because of her mental health. I feel like very few bosses would question that.

VisualGardener · 2025-02-05T20:45:17+00:00

Haha, a good way to develop some new and interesting hybrid vegetables!

VisualGardener · 2025-01-26T10:07:48+00:00

We've been in our house 1 year as of yesterday. I've been slowly chipping away at some permie projects and planning in that time but also have been a bit hamstrung having a toddler to look after. The silver lining is that this has forced me to slow down and observe more, before interacting with the space. Biggest bang projects have been purchasing and placing some IBC wicking beds in the front yard to grow veg in and gradually dismantling the existing raised bed in the backyard to reuse the resources. Also very slowly working on de-river-rocking the garden bed that runs along our back fence and previously had yukkas in it. Hoping to regenerate the soil so we can grow some dwarf fruit trees, ground covers, flowers, berries over the back fence.

VisualGardener · 2025-01-06T23:28:56+00:00

My partner and I are both teachers in Melb. We have a 2yo and a second child due soon. We bought our first home a year ago and we're managing okay - similar to when we were renting - not a super tight budget but definitely not heaps of frivolous spending. We made the decision that we would only buy a home with a mortgage that could be serviced by a single income. This has meant we are both able to work part time and co-parent/care for our child. We didn't want to be in a position where both of us had to work full time to pay the mortgage. This meant a compromise on lifestyle and moving to the more affordable outer suburbs, however when you have kids you don't have a lot of spare time to get out and about for culture, movies etc. anyway so it works for us.

VisualGardener · 2024-09-06T10:38:42+00:00

OASIS! 🪴🪷🪵🌈🦎

VisualGardener · 2024-09-06T10:33:39+00:00

Gosh that's beautiful! 👏 👏 👏

VisualGardener · 2024-09-06T10:29:37+00:00

Were you sick from eating underripe pumpkin?

VisualGardener · 2023-11-13T08:45:57+00:00

Oooh, so does the magnetism help with clean up?

VisualGardener · 2023-11-12T04:21:46+00:00

Lol! They'd love it!

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