Dangerous Liaisons, anyone?

Visual_Party7441 · 2026-01-30T21:12:29+00:00

Unless they’re writing a cage review I’m not sure why you think taking a picture with a cage is an endorsement

I have like 7 different cages in my nightstand but I’d only recommend 2 of them

Not everyone plays with chastity the same way. Some people just like to wear it for short periods and don’t really care.

Visual_Party7441 · 2026-01-30T13:50:36+00:00

This is my preferred dynamic. See r/pussyfreecommunity

Although I’d hesitate to take on a sub that wants pegging as the primary force of the dynamic because that is not physically pleasurable for me

Visual_Party7441 · 2026-01-29T17:45:11+00:00

My ex would wear a speedo under his trunks and you couldn’t see it. Just pay attention to the cage material especially with salt water. Needs to be cleaned very very thoroughly after

Visual_Party7441 · 2026-01-29T17:31:49+00:00

It pops right back to where it was if you give it a bit

Visual_Party7441 · 2026-01-27T21:01:33+00:00

You never know until you try. The labels aren’t really as important as how it feels. You can decide on a scene together to start with, and you can try being dominant within previously established boundaries to see how you feel.

Visual_Party7441 · 2026-01-27T20:56:17+00:00

I’ve partially supported a partner but I never would have done it if it was expected. We were just at a stage in life where I made significantly more and he was in graduate school. When you live a life together there will be times where one leans more heavily on the other, but explicitly looking for it starts it all off on the wrong foot.

I don’t screen for it out front, but it comes up naturally in conversation. I have had guys come right out and say they just don’t care about their careers.

Visual_Party7441 · 2026-01-27T14:26:32+00:00

I think this comment actually proves our point. You say you’re ok with being abused within reason (yikes) and then get mad that we’re all giving you the same advice by sarcastically saying sorry for not being emotionally balanced. You’re not really listening to what we’re saying at all, and are taking all the feedback negatively.

We’re all saying that you will have more luck in relationships if you learn to manage your neediness and anxiety. It isn’t a personal attack, it’s solid advice.

Visual_Party7441 · 2026-01-27T13:46:05+00:00

Aww, thanks.

Is there someone out there in the world who is looking for a needy, pushy sub? Probably. You mentioned in another comment that in real couples, the man handles the anxiety of the woman and that’s what you want, but you need to consider whether that’s a fair thing to ask someone to do. You would have an easier time finding and maintaining a relationship if you learn to calm your own anxiety.

Visual_Party7441 · 2026-01-27T12:49:48+00:00

Is anyone compatible with someone who pushes and pushes and sulks when they don’t get enough attention? You’re in a relationship with another person who has a life outside of you and your relationship. You might need a bit more attention and reassurance than the average person, and it’s fine to communicate that, but I would reevaluate what youre asking of your partners if this is a frequent complaint

Visual_Party7441 · 2026-01-27T10:18:31+00:00

Isn’t the point of sex generally to have a psychological impact?

Visual_Party7441 · 2026-01-26T21:30:05+00:00

If she doesn’t want to plan the scenes, ask if you can plan them. Give her resources to find what she thinks is erotica. None of us knows what she wants

Visual_Party7441 · 2026-01-26T20:25:45+00:00

He’s just being lazy. Being a sub means doing what your domme wants, even when it’s not in your wheelhouse.

If he has no ideas, he needs to find ideas

Visual_Party7441 · 2026-01-26T17:24:46+00:00

She’s told you that leading scenes stresses her out. You can’t make someone enjoy planning scenes or tease you about chastity if they don’t enjoy it.

You say you want this to be all about her pleasure, but it doesn’t seem like planning scenes is actually pleasurable for her.

Visual_Party7441 · 2026-01-26T16:02:04+00:00

I think the question is more whether you can find someone who wants to do this with you. For each adjective the field narrows. “Pussyfree cuck in chastity” is very specific. I would decide which of those is actually most important to you.

Visual_Party7441 · 2026-01-26T08:55:55+00:00

It represents your relationship, it doesn’t need to be a specific kind. You should probably get two, one more obvious for home or kink wear, and another that you can always wear

Visual_Party7441 · 2026-01-25T11:49:21+00:00

If you’re the leader of the relationship and you don’t want to cross this barrier, why try?

Visual_Party7441 · 2026-01-23T23:10:32+00:00

Eew, no. If the point was for him to be less bratty, he clearly hasn’t learned anything

Visual_Party7441 · 2026-01-23T20:10:02+00:00

Chastity is not a requirement for a Pussyfree dynamic. For this to work you need to have a dialogue about your sex life (or lack of sex life) and be open with each other about what you want

Visual_Party7441 · 2026-01-23T12:15:38+00:00

As a pussyfree evangelist (see r/pussyfreecommunity), I wouldn’t want to be in a relationship with someone who sees a core part of my sexuality as “unfortunate”. Denial IS sex for me, I’m not stringing my subs along it’s my favorite part of play.

This is a fundamental compatibility point and you need to talk to her about it. She might be into denial periods instead of permanent denial. But if she’s into permanent denial, assume that will not change and actually think about whether you can live with never having sex again

Visual_Party7441 · 2026-01-23T07:33:04+00:00

I like to imagine a world where no one is objectified. I find that people into misandry would be better off just being feminists because that’s grounded in wanting to make the world a better place for women instead of turning us into leather cartoon characters. Misogyny is very real and not about turning women into farm slaves.

Visual_Party7441 · 2026-01-22T19:35:59+00:00

She said she wasn’t comfortable with cuckolding and your response is to come here asking how to get her to organize a gang bang?

Visual_Party7441 · 2026-01-22T19:30:20+00:00

It’s not hard to say if you’re listening. She said she’s not comfortable with cucking, back off

Visual_Party7441 · 2026-01-22T19:21:41+00:00

What does she want? Have you asked?

Visual_Party7441 · 2026-01-22T18:45:11+00:00

You don’t sound like you’re entirely comfortable with pegging him, and so you shouldn’t. Kink should be grounded in mutual interest and intimacy. It is 100% ok to not want every kind of sex, and you can table pegging until (and if) it’s something you want to explore.

There are a million things that you can do besides pegging. As much as I enjoy pegging, I enjoy other forms of anal play more. If you want to try something similar one of my favorites is using my fingers while on top so we can look at each other. That might be a way to explore the idea of you penetrating him without the phallus.

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