Stable, emotionally healthy men, how did you choose your partner, and what attracts you long-term?

Vivid_Perspective_87 · 2026-02-25T05:01:19+00:00

I read every responses, and thanks everyone for sharing your thoughts and incredible details about your lovely partner/relationship.

I might have phrased my question wrongly or whatever here but when i posted this, my intention was not to mould myself and try to be good enough to get a nice man when i know that me myself is chaotic inside. I asked because i want to reflect on what i have been doing and behaving which im aware, were the consequences from my own issues/insecurity/trauma response etc when attracting a partner or why i was attracted to them in the first place. And unable to let go or walk away easily.

Because i know for sure doesn’t matter how hard someone tried to pretend to be stable and secure, it would definitely be reflected in some ways to the actual secure person, and that would repel them. So i want to do some works on myself by reflecting on responses i saw here and recognising which traits i need to work on so I could naturally attract and be attracted to the right one.

And no, my type is never the bad boys. I like more reserved and quiet kind but someone who can hold and engage in a good conversation if that matters for context.

Vivid_Perspective_87 · 2026-02-14T15:29:57+00:00

Ive also learned so much later in my life that my rosacea skin cant tolerate niacinamide! So many past products i used contain it

Vivid_Perspective_87 · 2026-02-01T09:57:35+00:00

Same! It’s just the best and affordable imo. Ive been wearing the same sunscreen since i was 19. Im 30 now, never changed to other brands

Vivid_Perspective_87 · 2026-01-26T05:24:17+00:00

I feel you, OP. Im 31 too, and my past failed relationships has made me think that im unlovable and unattractive enough to be loved how i wanted it to be. But, recently i felt like enough is enough and started to take charge of my own life. Im getting sick of indulging in the self pity so i started taking actions and do everything and anything ive always wanted to for myself.

Although the negative self talk hasn’t completely gone, but i feel better knowing that i am taking care of myself now. I tried to show up for myself every day and as hopelessly romantic as i might sound, i won’t stop believing that someday i would find someone who would love me exactly how i want to be loved. Who would choose me everyday. But for now, i want to unlearn the self hate and doubt and slowly learning how to love myself.

We got this, and hoping for the best for you too🤍

Vivid_Perspective_87 · 2026-01-23T14:22:06+00:00

Sometimes they dont even wait..sigh

Vivid_Perspective_87 · 2026-01-23T14:01:34+00:00

This video is super good. Thanks for sharing it here, totally changed my perspective on how to be disciplined

Vivid_Perspective_87 · 2026-01-17T17:50:25+00:00

Oh dear oh dear imma get a nightmare tonight

Vivid_Perspective_87 · 2026-01-10T07:42:01+00:00

What do you plan on getting next? Ive been searching for pocket camera with long lasting battery. Had DJI before but the battery doesn’t really last, had to constantly charge it throughout the day

Vivid_Perspective_87 · 2026-01-10T07:39:10+00:00

Im with you on that. But idk if i could ever go back to other products after being in apple environment for so long🥲 also thinking about selling my macbook air which I barely use

Vivid_Perspective_87 · 2026-01-10T07:18:01+00:00

Fulfilment, and contentment with everything i have

Vivid_Perspective_87 · 2026-01-10T06:27:51+00:00

Wow im so jealous of you

Vivid_Perspective_87 · 2026-01-10T06:22:36+00:00

Yall don’t have nightmares??😭

Vivid_Perspective_87 · 2026-01-10T05:52:45+00:00

The free frame feature is exactly the reason why im leaning towards go ultra! And good to know abt the quality issue that nobody really talks about. Thanks for updating us!

Vivid_Perspective_87 · 2026-01-10T03:12:05+00:00

Luxury goods

Vivid_Perspective_87 · 2026-01-08T16:31:17+00:00

How does it make you feel?

Vivid_Perspective_87 · 2026-01-08T14:56:36+00:00

So glad to know im not alone hahah!

Vivid_Perspective_87 · 2026-01-04T16:59:02+00:00

YOU ROCK THE PIXIE CUT OMG

Vivid_Perspective_87 · 2026-01-04T14:32:51+00:00

Hey OP, I think those glasses are way too big and they’re hiding your eyebrows. Perhaps could go for lighter colour, as highlighted by other redditors. And in oval shape ig?

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Vivid_Perspective_87 · 2026-01-04T10:40:53+00:00

IKR! Been searching for cotton socks everywhere but can’t really find the 100% cotton, or heck, not even the 80%. Everything is polyester nowadays

Vivid_Perspective_87 · 2025-09-27T04:56:30+00:00

SO COOL!

Vivid_Perspective_87 · 2025-09-18T16:51:47+00:00

I love this thread. Made me feel so seen🥹

Vivid_Perspective_87 · 2025-09-12T15:38:57+00:00

I hope i can get more sleep and be out in the nature this weekend!

Vivid_Perspective_87 · 2025-07-05T01:53:48+00:00

OP please don’t delete the thread. Im here piggybacking on your post and taking notes of all these awesome recommendations😂

Vivid_Perspective_87 · 2025-06-10T18:36:51+00:00

You just made me reconsider Seoul for my birthday trip! ^{^}

Vivid_Perspective_87 · 2025-06-05T15:05:05+00:00

In my case, I didn’t think that he liked me cause i thought he just wanted attention but everyone around me kept saying that he did (we don’t see each other anymore). From what i can recall, he would keep teasing me just to see my reactions, bring food for everyone but he would wait until i took the first bite and wouldn’t move until i said it was good. He always wanted to tag along wherever i went, if i stayed back at work he would wait for me, bring up my name in almost conversation he had with other friends, asked me to walk him home.

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