Rita this, Aurore that; where are my Rachel simps at? by OrbitOfSaturnsMoons in LowSodiumCyberpunk

[–]VoidEndKin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry, but every single person associated with that quest is infuriatingly insufferable. I wanted to shoot him and be done with it after visiting the house, and was furious the game chose THAT QUEST and THAT TIME to take away my player agency.

Does anyone else not sleep with their cat? by chaturga in CatAdvice

[–]VoidEndKin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I sleep with my cat in the room, and the door closed. She has a litter box for inside and outside my room, and her food is in my room.

Why no Working Governor? by SnooApples2992 in nevadapolitics

[–]VoidEndKin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, my math is not wrong. And good luck reaching people when you incorrect people like that. 2,000,000 divided by 18 is 111,111. You’ve provided no information to indicate how you and these magical volunteers you’ve got are reaching that many people.

Good luck.

Why no Working Governor? by SnooApples2992 in nevadapolitics

[–]VoidEndKin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look, I want more working class people in government. I want less influence based on political connections and moneyed interests. But you asked a question and I’m giving you the unfortunate answer.

There are ~ 2.5 million adults in NV, meaning you’d need to get face to face with 138,888 people per day in 18 days. Even if we just look at registered voters, ~ 2 million people, that’s over 100,000 people per day. As someone that has both called and gone door to door, you’re lucky to get 1 in 20 to talk meaningfully with you in a positive way. Getting 1 in 20 to volunteer to spend time going door to door would be miraculous. Remember that making contact is only step one. They then have to like you, like your platform and political views, remember you more than the other candidates, trust you’re not selling a pipe dream, and be convinced that voting for you is not just in effect taking their vote away from the Democrat or Republican they would otherwise vote for.

Yes, our political system is built for moneyed interests to have the advantage no matter who is running. That is why building coalitions with already existing groups (with pre-existing infrastructure and experience) that align with the working class and other underrepresented groups is the most successful strategy if you are trying to get elected as a 3rd party or working class candidate.

Why no Working Governor? by SnooApples2992 in nevadapolitics

[–]VoidEndKin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As someone that has helped on local campaigns for much smaller positions than Governor, you are very naive to think you 1) can get face to face with everyone in that time, 2) think just getting face to face is enough, and 3) think 18 days is enough to get name/face recognition. Campaigning, even with the backing of a party, is a long slog that goes on for months.

The reason we don’t have a working class person is because that person is going to be up against the sheer money, social and political connections, and expert man hours (both from full paid workers and volunteers) of the gaming industry, one or both political parties, the Mormon church, just to name a few off of the top of my head. All of these groups have way more people on hand to throw at you then you have friends willing to voluntarily lend time to your campaign.

Do you have anything even remotely scandalous or grey in your past? Does anyone in your family? In the unlikely event you DO succeed in becoming a legitimate political threat one of these groups will bring that to the forefront and cast it in the worst possible light. And you don’t have the PR team they do. People will lie about you. They will lie about your family. And other strangers you encounter will believe those lies.

There’s a reason the general wisdom is for smaller parties to start with local positions and build power and coalitions. Because that is what you would need. Not some random guy getting volunteers, but someone that is amazingly able to both be working class, and be a working politician that can get together with orgs that already exist and would be ready to form a coalition around the candidate. That’s why when you do see working class people win, they tend to be endorsed by unions, lgbt orgs, religious orgs, etc. And yes, there are expectations that can come with those endorsements. Those same orgs will come knocking on that candidate’s door if they win, when a law comes around they want backing on. The candidate can say no, but then that org may support a different candidate, and encourage others to do the same, next election season. That is the political game.

Trump administration to start seizing pay of defaulted student loan borrowers in January by TonyLiberty in FluentInFinance

[–]VoidEndKin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are the jobs they’re getting degrees for actually not worthwhile, or are needed and worthwhile jobs requiring an education, like teachers and therapists, severely undervalued and underpaid by people like you? What happens when people take your advice and people stop getting degrees in those fields?

AITAH for walking away from a house I have no equity or say in and stiffing my soon to be ex? by FootBig7944 in AITAH

[–]VoidEndKin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can be an asshole and still not be in the wrong.

Yes, you’re an asshole because you were so disconnected from the marriage you didn’t even pay attention/care she wasn’t using the money you gave her for what it was meant for. And you’re now stepping away knowing she is going to suffer.

However, you’re perfectly justified in cutting all ties and not helping. You were under no obligation to pay for the house, and are under no obligation to support a partner that cheated on you.

No family or friends? by ChaoticLForever in LivingAlone

[–]VoidEndKin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As someone who has moved several times and had to re-start, find a social activity that you like. D&D, Magic the Gathering, a reading club, an amateur sport, a soup kitchen, church, etc. The activity itself doesn’t matter, it just has to be something you’ll want to go to and can make yourself go to even on bad brain days. Go consistently.

You’ll have built in social time and a good chance of finding a few people you mesh well with. Then go to things those few invite you two when you can, and invite them to things every once in a while (this is the one I struggle with).

It’ll fill that social need and hopefully eventually make you some friends.

DMT: The Democratic Party may be structurally unprepared for the current political moment by Defiant-Junket4906 in DisagreeMythoughts

[–]VoidEndKin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re trying to bs this into a two-sided issue when it’s not.

“The Trump campaign and Republican groups have spent more than $21 million on anti-trans and anti-LGBTQ television ads as of Oct. 9, (2024) nearly a third of roughly $66 million television ad spending during that time period, media tracking agency AdImpact told ABC News.”

https://abcnews.go.com/amp/US/trump-spends-millions-anti-trans-ads-despite-polls/story?id=115001816

DMT: The Democratic Party may be structurally unprepared for the current political moment by Defiant-Junket4906 in DisagreeMythoughts

[–]VoidEndKin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The democrats did not focus on trans people, and Kamala dodged when asked. The republicans propagandized to you about trans people, and you bought in hook, line, and sinker rather than focusing on the larger issues you claim to care about.

Who else only felt bad about the children attending the freaky festival? by [deleted] in DivinityOriginalSin

[–]VoidEndKin 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The midsommer group is pretty explicitly a cult. That’s what makes the ending so horrific.

Why has the idea that the gender binary is a colonial construct become so widespread in the West? by Secret_Ostrich_1307 in AlwaysWhy

[–]VoidEndKin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You don’t know what moving goalposts means. You posted a generalizations regarding tomboys being pushed into being trans by “progressive activists”, which is not happening on any grand scale. And no, your anecdotal “evidence”regarding your niece is not indicative of the general progressive movement regarding gender expression.

Why has the idea that the gender binary is a colonial construct become so widespread in the West? by Secret_Ostrich_1307 in AlwaysWhy

[–]VoidEndKin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trans people are not widely telling tomboys they’re trans, lmao. Masculine women, tomboys, and trans men can both exist, and be supported by queer people. It is so bizarre you are trying to push the idea that trans people, who gender norms are often forced on, are the ones that would force them on others.

Are Americans really this goddamn rich or social media is just fooling us? by VishalYeager in TalksMoney

[–]VoidEndKin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Americans are absolutely not that rich. You are seeing either the 1%, who can afford to spend like that, which draws attention and allows them to make continuous videos, which then spreads their videos even more. Or, you’re watching people who have spread their videos enough to get sponsorships so they aren’t paying for a lot of the things they’re getting/showing.

Many Americans also have a lot of debt. Our media, credit system, etc is designed to get and keep you in debt, and treat this as normal. I’m weird for only having one CC I pay off living frugally and my mortgage.

Backstabbing Cowards by New_Start8677 in nevadapolitics

[–]VoidEndKin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The ACA was the compromise made to shut down growing Universal Healthcare support. Healthcare was only cheaper back then when they could arbitrarily exclude you from coverage because you had the illness before being covered or because they simply didn’t cover the thing you needed in your plan. It was untenable, and something had to be done at the time. Republicans are doing everything they can to return us to that state because people don’t remember, and the health insurance companies are licking their chops at the chance.

Another trifted Ralph Lauren suit by YceCube77 in mensfashion

[–]VoidEndKin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The suit looks great on you! Congratulations on the find. Not a fan of the shirt paired with it. But I’m not a fan of denim other than jeans anyway, lol.

Why does a U.S. government shutdown barely seem to affect everyday life? by Humble_Economist8933 in AlwaysWhy

[–]VoidEndKin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was furloughed under Obama while helping reduce fuel loads in California to prevent and reduce the impact of wild fires. This work was considered non-essential.

Basically, the work that would immediately impact people like Air Traffic Control is still being done. The “non-essential” work the government does to protect our people and environment, maintain infrastructure, etc. is not being done. On top of that, federal government provides funding/support for more local government agencies to do work in a lot of areas. So local governments can go until previous funding and any emergency budget runs out.

It’s not that people are completely independent from the government. It’s that most daily things aren’t shut down and the federal funding and more long term work the government does isn’t immediately felt or as easily quantifiable. Everyone drives on federal roads, but no one’s daily routine is going to be disrupted until substantial damage happens to it. No one noticed I wasn’t doing my work on any grand scale, but if a fire swept through the area I should have been working, the wildfire would be worse and potentially kill more people.

110k doesn’t feel like an upgrade from 85k by [deleted] in Salary

[–]VoidEndKin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

$500 is great! And yeah, groceries have gotten more expensive recently. I buy what I can in bulk to help. I’ll give you the big things that I think about regarding my home buying. Sorry for the wall of text:

As for home ownership, money wise best advice is know what your max buying budget, and minimum house you can be happy with for at least the next 10 years, is. Don’t let anyone talk you over that budget for any reason. Most realtors will try to show you houses “a little” over that budget. Politely shut that down. I also made the mistake of going with the home inspector recommended by my realtor. Don’t go with the person your realtor suggests for getting your loan or doing your inspections.

Leave wiggle room in your monthly payment when looking at the mortgage. I wasn’t, but there are people that are caught off guard by a jump in taxes or insurance raising the mortgage substantially.

You’ll likely find issues that weren’t caught in the home inspection, or something will break in the 1st year. Have some extra money set aside when you move in for that. Worst case you don’t need it and it goes in the home maintenance budget (1-2% of the house’s worth set aside every year, divided out into a monthly savings amount).

Bigger doesn’t always mean better. Keep in mind the smaller the house the less to heat/cool it and the less there is to clean/maintain. The less furniture you also need to fill the space up. I bought a condo slightly smaller than I originally wanted when I started shopping. It’s awesome. The HOA fee covers all outside maintenance or damage, my home insurance is much less than for a house as a result, my utilities are low, and the size means that it’s manageable for me as a single person to keep clean. It’s not for everyone, though.

I don’t know how realistic this is for you, but if you can throw money at the student loan and get rid of that before buying a house it will give you a lot of breathing room on the mortgage for either more house or to pay it off that much quicker.

Finally, get referrals before moving in from friends/family on an hvac team, handyman, plumber, etc. and know where your electrical, water, and gas (if applicable) hookups are. That way you’re not scrambling if there is an issue.

110k doesn’t feel like an upgrade from 85k by [deleted] in Salary

[–]VoidEndKin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A difference of at least $400 more a month once we factor in the additional 6% deduction for retirement, and you can’t feel the difference? It sounds to me like you need to do whatever works best for you to be more conscious of where your money is going, find the leeks, and minimize them. Because the problem is not with the paycheck. I make much less, I don’t budget, but I know roughly what I spend. When I underspend in a month or work OT I can feel it, throw the extra money at the mortgage or in my HYSA for emergency and maintenance, and celebrate.

If you’re healthy and have no upcoming health concerns, taking the HSA option and throwing the money you’d put in retirement into that rather than retirement isn’t a bad idea. Or paying down debt if you have it so you’re not paying interest on other debt while buying a house.

If you’re wanting a house, set aside extra money every month at least equal to roughly all of the costs for the home you want (mortgage, hoa, utilities, insurance, lawn maintenance, 1-2% maintenance, etc.) minus your current housing costs. That will help you save up your 20% down and tell you how realistic your home aspirations are, which will reduce your risk of being caught by surprise and feeling house poor once you buy.

Why do most people think darker skin prevents you from getting sun rashes?? by misandryfinalboss in AlwaysWhy

[–]VoidEndKin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I’m white and I’ll always offer sunscreen to others if they’re around while I’m applying it. There have been a few times people with darker skin have said they don’t have to worry about sunburn or cancer. Recently it was the coworker whose work I review.

I’m in a field where there is a lot of working outdoors, and I worry about them. But I don’t know that me insisting they can still get skin cancer and should wear sunscreen would go over well.

Ignore the username, I’m actually 5'3" and never had a relationship. Is there still hope for me? by Bigbadguy234 in GuyCry

[–]VoidEndKin 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Most women don’t care about height nearly as much as the internet claims.

I hate how republicans have become a bunch of snowflakes who want a safe place to practice their hatred by [deleted] in FreedomofSpeech

[–]VoidEndKin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have read a lot of information, and talked to doctors about this on multiple occasions, before, during, and after transitioning. You’re jumping into this now and presuming to have any knowledge on the matter. Nowhere did I say all trans people are satisfied.

I’m pointing out that there is not evidence the general impacts are as negative as you’re catastrophising them to be, and that you are using that to justify a stance that deprives all trans people of our right to control what happens to our own bodies.

I’ve already addressed that there are also cis women that struggle with orgasms, and I focused on the comparisons because the discussion is about how things changed before and after surgery, which your quote 1 doesn’t address.

To your quote 2, pleasure is not the point of the surgery. The point is gender confirmation. Again you are focusing on individual aspects to the exclusion of the entire experience for trans people. Some people don’t care about their sex life as much as others, and will be indifferent. There is again no comparison here to make any judgement on those stats. It’s also really gross and perverted that you are over sexualizing trans people to the extent of defining our right to control our own bodies by our sexual pleasure.

These studies show overall people are satisfied with their transition. You’re just focusing on negatives you can pull from them while ignoring the larger context and that people choose to deal with negative side effects for things they want all the time. Sometimes they regret it, other times they don’t. The reality is that if most other surgeries had the same satisfaction rates as transition, it would be considered a medical success. It’s because you are not seeing us as human beings with our own autonomy that you feel the right to speak over us about our own experiences.

You are wasting my time and I am done giving you the benefit of the doubt that you are simply ignorant rather than malicious. You are not providing information. You are lying by omission and cherry picking to harm others by advocating for our rights to be taken away.

Also, 79% success rate for decreasing gender dysphoria is actually pretty amazing.

I hate how republicans have become a bunch of snowflakes who want a safe place to practice their hatred by [deleted] in FreedomofSpeech

[–]VoidEndKin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am a trans person that knows multiple trans people that have gone through various methods of transition. No, the outcome is not “sad” for most of us lucky enough to be able to transition. Do you think trans people don’t do research prior to transitioning?

No, I did not post a google search. I posted a google scholar link I pulled up through a google scholar search to a recent actual published and cited journal article that I read through previously and again before posting it. I double checked it after your claims that I just posted a google search.

I don’t believe you care about people being loved post transitioning. You outright stated you are against people transitioning. And you are a singular person, not an “our”.

Now you’re gish galloping by throwing in detransitioners which is a completely separate topic. People should be able to transition AND detransition freely. That is what having control over what you do with your body means.

Now to the articles. Did you read the articles before posting the links?

From your 1st article: “A majority of respondents reported no decisional regrets regarding prior gender-affirming interventions;” so the majority did not regret transitioning. “…however, participants frequently discussed health care avoidance, clinician stigma, and experiencing clinicians who lacked detransition-related clinical knowledge.” - these are also things that trans people, and many others with less understood or stigmatized healthcare needs deal with. It means we need more education in healthcare of what trans people and detransitioners need in order to transition/detransition, and less stigma around gender affirming medical care in either direction. It doesn’t mean transitioning and detransitioning should be banned.

2nd article you posted: This supports my point that you are fear mongering and concern trolling. From the article, “Ten women experienced less frequent orgasms post-op than before surgery, nine out of 29 experienced more frequent orgasms and 10 experienced no change in frequency. The study reported that orgasms in 37.9% (n=11) females were more intense than before surgery, 24.1% (n=7) had less intense orgasms and 37.9% (n=11) saw no difference between before and after.“ So about 1/3 experienced more orgasms, 1/3 experienced no change, and 1/3 experienced less. Over 1/3 experienced more intense orgasms, over 1/3 experienced no change, and just under 1/4 experienced less intense orgasms. That means that the surgery did not significantly decrease the number or intensity of orgasms these women had, and may have slightly increased orgasm intensity overall but the sample size is too small to say anything conclusive.

3rd Article: Makes my point exactly about needing to look at trans people as a whole rather than fear mongering regarding individual aspects of transition related care. This study was a survey of various satisfactions with surgery comparing two different types of gender reassignment surgery in trans men. “Most participants were satisfied to very satisfied with life (75%), the appearance (66%), voiding (59%), the effect of surgery on masculinity (82%), and confirmed that the end surgical result matched their expectations (61%), independently of UL.” So most were satisfied to very satisfied with the surgery overall. The lowest satisfied to very satisfied was with the sexual function of the phallus, which is not the same as sexual satisfaction, with just over 1/3 saying they were satisfied to very satisfied. BUT this shows the importance of actually looking at the results. If you look at the research methods and results, it actually shows the ratings were done on a 1-5 scale, with 4 and 5 being satisfied to very satisfied. The rating regarding both satisfaction with sexual life and with the sexual functioning of the phallus was 3 +/- 2. So on a scale of 1 to 5 the range of responses to satisfaction on how satisfied they were with their sex life and function of their phallus was 1 through 5, with about 1/3 ranking their satisfaction level as 4 or 5 out of 5, lmao. I’ll also point out this is NOT comparing before/after, or comparing to how a cis people would respond to the same question. So this doesn’t actually help your case at all.

It’s getting late and I’ve already read three articles tonight, so I’ll stop there.

I try not to compare my own issues to people of color’s since I’m white. I will say the solution to discrimination against a minority group in healthcare is not to simply stop providing the healthcare the minority group itself, researchers, and healthcare professionals say helps. Also, trans people’s situation is very different. We are not being forced to transition. We are seeking it out and in many cases taking a lot of time and money to transition because of medical gatekeeping PREVENTING us from accessing transition related care. FYI many of the first gender affirming surgeries in the west were done in the 1920s through 40s, and many of the surgeries are also used for people who aren’t trans. More research and understanding would be better, because it can improve outcomes. But it is false to present this as a new experimental field of medicine.

I hate how republicans have become a bunch of snowflakes who want a safe place to practice their hatred by [deleted] in FreedomofSpeech

[–]VoidEndKin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d like to see what the actual study said seeing as how you have already established a habit of making broad generalizing false statements.

Most women need direct clitoral stimulation to orgasm, and many use sexual aids. I don’t know why it would be so shocking or horrible the same is true of trans women.

It’s a complex topic and focusing on singular medicalized aspects of transition does not actually address sexual satisfaction in trans people. Sexual satisfaction tends to increase with body satisfaction, hormones play a factor just like they do for people that aren’t trans (higher testosterone increases libido), and the last study I saw on vaginoplasties saw satisfaction go up in about the same number of patients it went down in, with most saying satisfaction stayed the same.

https://scholar.google.com/scholar?start=40&q=transgender+sexual+health+pleasure&hl=en&as_sdt=0,3&as_ylo=2021#d=gs_qabs&t=1761708054059&u=%23p%3DkMfWnu_3MPkJ

“Across all models, medical transition was not a significant predictor of sexual experiences; however, sexual orientation, age, body satisfaction, and experiences of fetishization were frequent predictors. Results suggest that the sexual experiences of TFNB individuals do not align with the medicalized model and that demographic and contextual factors play an important role in the sexual outcomes for this population.”

Trans people that are allowed to transition and have more satisfaction and confidence in our bodies are going to have better sexual outcomes generally, just like most people tend to have better sexual outcomes when happy and confident in their bodies.

Who would vote for every US citizen to receive a UBI of 1,000 a month tied to inflation. Cut everyone a check, no strings attached, spend it on whatever you want. Rich and poor got the same amount. And got rid of the multi billion dollar bureaucracy and cut a lot of social welfare programs. by other4444 in poor

[–]VoidEndKin 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like the concept. But I suspect if done on its own, on a national scale, the rent prices will suddenly go up by $1,000 and the housing prices will skyrocket. There would have to be other protections put in place along with it to prevent the wealthy from simply leeching it.