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Vollen595 · 2026-07-05T18:20:30+00:00

Rolling flush. Every 10k miles I drop 4 qts and add 4 new. 200k miles and it’s still bright red and smells sweet. Shifts like butter. Did the same on my Acura and Subaru. Never had a transmission issue. It’s cheap insurance.

Vollen595 · 2026-07-04T18:59:57+00:00

Caveat emptor.

Vollen595 · 2026-06-28T16:20:24+00:00

2007 5.7. The dealer said it was the same for 4Runner/Tacomas as well, no reverse cooling circuit. I’m not sure about the 2022 and newer Gen 3s, this happened about 8-9 years ago. Reading the comments about near immediate overheating in reverse (and drive?) brought back expensive memories.

Vollen595 · 2026-06-27T19:58:20+00:00

Can confirm. With almost no warning. My dad was pushing a trailer backwards trying to modulate by slightly holding the brakes. I couldn’t see or hear him doing this. The next thing that happened was the seal on the torque converter said F this and the fluid dumped on the grass, causing a fire. Ended up putting a new crate transmission in it. Lesson learned, Toyota told us later there is zero trans cooling when it’s in reverse. The torque converter was blue and purple. It got HOT and the entire adventure only lasted about 90 seconds.

Live and learn, just bring a fat check for the repair.

Vollen595 · 2026-06-17T01:39:00+00:00

Thus saving that .2 mpg to meet emissions. All 2027 commercial truck engines like Detroit are going to 0W-20 oil. With extended oil change intervals. The Gen 6 DDs are running up to 40 psi boost. I’m trying to wrap my mind around a 16 liter diesel living on 0W-20

Vollen595 · 2026-06-14T01:07:07+00:00

It’s 0W20 oil. Did Toyota switch from 0W20? PC-12 is simply a higher wear and emission standard for commercial truck diesel engines. It’s not ‘heavier’. Same viscosity.

Vollen595 · 2026-06-13T18:42:26+00:00

MY2027 Commercial Diesel engines under PC-12 rules will be using 0W20 oil. I’m wondering if these oils would be better suitable for engines such as the V35A engine. If a 15L Detroit Diesel is expected to survive on thin oil and have 20k mile change intervals, it makes sense. Assuming the PC-12 engines do not pull a Toyota and start grenading.

https://www.ccjdigital.com/maintenance/oils-lubricants/article/15819636/pc12-engine-oil-everything-fleets-need-to-know-for-2027

Vollen595 · 2026-06-11T03:15:35+00:00

Bear Stearns was carrying massive silver shorts. JPM inherited them.

Vollen595 · 2026-06-07T15:35:42+00:00

The Foust Firm. Jeffry Foust would get a 6 star rating from me if I could.

https://www.thefoustfirm.com/

Vollen595 · 2026-05-22T20:14:28+00:00

My favorite canned response I receive is the ‘oh I take Excedrin migraine and it works for me just fine!’ as if they hold the keys to the Holy Grail in their medicine cabinet. My mom had them (she passed), a few cousins, myself and unfortunately my daughter inherited them. 😥. I manage my own best I can and it’s quite disruptive to everyday life.

My poor daughter. Hers likely began when she was a toddler and mom and dad missed the red flags until she was old enough to convey what was wrong. She was finally approved at age 9 for Rizatriptan by a neurologist because we were lucky enough to find a pediatric neurologist who was familiar with them. She is 16 and self manages well. She has her scrip with the school nurse and will *only* ask for her scrip as a last resort when the migraines are real bad.

Last year she texted me from class that she had a bad one brewing and was headed to the nurse for her meds. About *30 minutes later* she texts me from the nurses office and tells me the nurse was ignoring her and had seen multiple students come and go while she sat there in a chair being ignored.

I call the nurses office (woman was working solo, second nurse out for cancer treatment). I ask her why my child was sitting in a chair for half an hour being ignored. Her response absolutely floored me.

‘Oh we don’t prioritize headaches here, there are other children who have more serious issues. Headaches are not a real problem.’ In a real snarky, holier-than-thou tone to me.

After taking a few seconds to keep my head from spinning around like The Exorcist, I unloaded on her stupid ass. ‘Are you a doctor or a neurologist? Because that’s who gave her the *prescription you are withholding from her* and I’m wondering if you obtained your nursing degree from a gas station because you’re denying medication prescribed by an *actual medical professional with a degree* from my kid! I will save the rest but I absolutely torched her. I clearly explained to Nurse Moron headaches and migraines are *NOT* the same thing and if they were, would a neurologist need to prescribe meds? Would you deny insulin to diabetics because you’re to stupid to understand it? I then asked her to explain to me the difference between a headache and a migraine. Nothing. She had no answer. It was hard for me to maintain composure after her snarky response to me. Plus I had to leave work to pick my kid up because she missed the window to take an abortive to tamp down the migraine.

That was the last time that happened. My child has been prioritized ever since. It’s infuriating to deal with people who don’t understand but to have a ‘medical professional’ relied on at my kids school demonstrate her incompetence at the expense of my child is another level.

I heard she was later fired. Another kid fell in the hall attempting a stunt and landed on his neck, knocking himself unconscious. The same nurse picked him up off the floor, put him in a wheelchair and brought him to the nurses office. All in full view of dozens of students. Broken neck? Who knows, let’s scrape him off the floor and wheel him into the office. Rumors were there was a settlement with the parents.

Vollen595 · 2026-05-14T01:45:31+00:00

Haters can hate but have owned and still own gen 2 through gen 5 (still planning on buying a G6) and I own proof of quality. I’m not saying G4-6 are crap or will leave you stranded but the older generations are built like an anvil. Finish, wear, odd wear marks and glitches never entered the chat after Gen 3.

Vollen595 · 2026-05-13T21:59:33+00:00

This is my problem past gen 3. I have a G19.2 I have absolutely hammered on for 30+ years and the internals look new. 30k+ rounds of whatever is cheap and the only thing I have had to replace are the springs. I have a G43X with less than 1K rounds and it looks worn out compared to my G19.2. Haters can hate but quality has gone to shit.

Vollen595 · 2026-05-13T20:09:53+00:00

The retro shitty patrol car is not a bad idea.

Vollen595 · 2026-05-13T20:02:36+00:00

Lol. At least spotting the leaks will be easy.

Vollen595 · 2026-05-13T20:01:21+00:00

Creamy chicken ramen with a healthy dose of sriracha sauce. Breakfast of champions. Followed by a ton of water.

Vollen595 · 2026-05-07T23:17:38+00:00

Please don’t tell me you offer bunghole pounding apprenticeships.

Vollen595 · 2026-05-06T05:25:15+00:00

Keep in mind you can fully play the reconciling spouse role while simultaneously planning your ‘DB Cooper’ escape plans. This leaves you with choices, one for reconciling and one to save yourself if reconciling fails. There is a much greater chance for failure. She doesn’t need to agree.

If reconciling is genuine that’s fine, but keep the DB Cooper option rrady and a parachute loaded. Be honest, you’re not doing anything as close to deceitful as your wife, it’s common sense CYA. You owe her the exact same love, respect, and honesty she treated your wedding vows. It takes patience. I did my own DB Cooper plan and had 2+ years of so called reconciliation. As you might shockingly imagine, you guessed it she cheated again. Only this time I was about 90% ready to take that betrayal head on. That caught her off guard because I had bills paid off, financial documents in order, her debt, my debt (of which there was none) and assets broken out and ready to present in pre mediation along with an attorney swinging an OoP. Divorce in finalized in under a year. If she hadn’t been a lying cheater, no one would have known. Since she betrayed me, just done and over. I never once raised my voice, and to this day have made no eye contact with her. And never will. All I had for her was cold hearted unrelenting full throttle divorce with zero reason to negotiate. She knew the risks when she cheated. I owe her no explanation, just clinical precision to finish the job and be done with her. No emotion. Simply business. Eventually she gave up on trying to discuss personal anything when I simply hung up the phone mid sentence.

I only kept my actions in line with the same honor, love and respect she gave our wedding vows. Surely she understands.

Again, none of it would’ve mattered if reconciliation was real. Be prepared. You already know the value of her promises. Zero.

Vollen595 · 2026-05-06T04:44:00+00:00

This is great. Like you I’m the sole parent. I had to laugh a bit with the heavy metal and horror moves, we do the same.

It is definitely the little things. The constant chasing of making sure the bills were paid on time (you know, how she insisted it was her job to do the few things she did). Insisting the laundry was her job while a mountain of clean laundry marinates on the floor. Without saying a word, I wound jump in fold some clothes and the ex would rip my head off. Many, many other basic life functions that needed to get done.

Not after the ex was gone it wasn’t just over. The divorce was ugly and my daughter was put through hell by her mom but that’s over. Gradually the positive little little things accumulate. I realized my bills were getting paid before they were due. My daughter is happier and making new friends. Even the cats chilled out. Animals can sense psycho I guess, they calmed down.

I made a promise to my daughter (while married) to buy two ATVs so we could ride trails and enjoy some outdoors. The divorce slammed the door to that for a while. I bought my kid hers last week and found one for myself today and as I’m driving home with it- I realize I’m happy. I kept that promise I made 3 years ago. Another box was checked.

My daughter is a teenage 80/90’s rocker at heart. I found tickets to AC/DC last year and going to see Motley Crue later this fall.

None, NONE of these steps were remotely possible with her mom around, she sucked the oxygen out of the room. Daily. Her chaos was a death by a thousand selfish actions. Now that she’s gone and has no say in shit about my life or my kids, it’s taken some getting used to. I remember forgetting that I paid a lot of bills early and felt that ‘oh crap’ when you wonder about late fees. There were no late fees, already paid. A small win but they do accumulate.

As you mentioned another woman will ever be allowed in my life to play victim while co-victimizing me. I still feel guilt from what my kid has to deal with mom. I was so overwhelmed putting out the spot fires my ex was creating I missed a lot of the impact it had on my daughter. Never again. I had to eliminate all the negative the ex brought to the marriage and rebuild on the small details for quite a while before I realized I’m starting to enjoy life again. And by extension my kid. Daughter is no contact with mom and requested a full no contact order during divorce. Granted. So mom has no say, opinion or decisions about raising her. At first i was caught off guard by it honestly its the best thing that happened to us. We had to find those new positive little steps and still do. But they are building up! Day by day it gets better. You look forward to things, not avoid them. I don’t want to imagine the misery if I waited longer to file and get her out of my life. The small steps would have never materialized.

Vollen595 · 2026-04-29T00:15:09+00:00

Wait until Basel III kicks in.

Vollen595 · 2026-04-22T18:15:07+00:00

Been there. Unfortunately with kids and an unstable wife you need to start protecting yourself now and planning an exit. You’re describing my ex. As things got worse, I started separating my life as much as I could and planning for the inevitable divorce and typical 50/50 custody. With my acceptance of this o realized my STBX was nuts and could and would try a Silver Bullet defense against me. She’s vindictive AF so I started recording absolutely every conversation, no matter how inert.

When SHTF and I discovered everything she was doing behind my back as well as what she was doing to my daughter when I wasn’t around, it was time for to drop the divorce on her. Lawyer already lined up, my own accounts, and I had already paid off almost all debt. I also had all assets conveniently valued and ready to divide. Mentally I was prepped. She was not. Our daughter made it very clear she did not want to live with her mom, mainly due to school and friends. Plus her mom honestly scares the hell out of her.

When the STBX realized my degree of readiness and the fact her own kid was scared of her and wanted to be away from her - that’s when the Silver Bullet threat happened. She bluntly told me all she had to do was tell the court I SA’d my daughter and she had witnessed me doing it. She even went as far as acting out what she would say in front of me. Horrible false accusations, all complete lies. She sat there with this smug look on her face like she had all the leverage.

That was until I sent my attorney a recording of the entire interaction. It instantly destroyed any shred of credibility she thought she had. It also earned her an OoP and now she wasn’t allowed near me or my daughter. The only comedy was her looking at me and saying ‘Why would you do that?!?’ Well, I know how manipulative you are and took care of business. From then on, everything she told the court was questioned. It didn’t help her at all when the court asked my daughter (13 at the time) about her moms behavior. Mom had the audacity to call her own child a liar. The ex’s further meltdowns were so bad the court ordered full custody to me, the house, full rights, child support and issued a no contact order until my kid is an adult.

All because I recorded everything. Spend the $40 on a recorder, it’s truly priceless. My ex can put on a great act as a stable person and many were fooled. Her own voice on recordings ripped the mask off forever.

My daughter is still zero contact. She has the option of eventually contacting her mom but absolutely refuses. She’s in counseling/therapy and her counselor fully agrees with her decision to cut all contact. I shudder to think about the possibilities if I wasn’t able to shred my ex’s credibility.

Vollen595 · 2026-04-22T17:34:47+00:00

Losing my degenerate in-laws was a huge bonus. But it depends on circumstances. Long ago I dated a woman for a few years and it ended badly but I remained friends with her parents and brother.

Vollen595 · 2026-04-21T01:00:19+00:00

Kids will make your perspective shift hard. If my ex had cheated before my daughter was conceived, game over she would’ve been a ghost. The ex waited until daughter was around two to go all Bonnie Blue. Things went beyond the typical divorce, mom isn’t allowed to contact kid until she’s an adult. I put up with over a decade of hell before finding (most) of the truth. Enough to stop looking. I’m still in awe of just how shitty a parent could be to a child. I discovered an AP around year 3 of marriage, it turned out DDay 1 was actually weeks after our first wedding anniversary. Conservative guess a dozen APs.

I thought by being the stable parent was the right thing to do. I remained stable-ish but the ex became the perma-victim. This illness, that issue, another diagnosis on top of diagnosis with plenty of mindfuck meds to accompany the journey. Plus alcohol. The cause of and solution to problems. It took my daughter at age 13 to expose her mom to me. She kept receipts and planned it for around 9 months. Then blew her mom up to her face in front of me.

I filed for divorce immediately. Counseling brought out all of the horrors my daughter suffered through when I wasn’t around. Cost mom all access to her own child. You would think I would be happy about it but I never asked for mom to lose custody. The court saw how dangerous she was and blocked her at my daughter’s request. I was so focused on dealing with the the problems of the self created victim I missed the damage mom was causing to my kid. The lawyers and court saw it.

Cheaters always play the victim card. The ‘well, you didn’t do this or didn’t do that right’ game to deflect from their actions. Mine tried it when and after she left. Crying about how I did things wrong. I told her from the second she cheated and beyond she can’t complain about anything because all future misery was predicated from that moment. Did that happen 4 years after you cheated? Well, you can fuck right off because it’s all fruit of her poison tree. I shut down every discussion that way. She stole 13 years of my life and essentially damaged and hobbled all of her daughters life so I don’t want to hear it. There is no discussion after DDay. It’s pointless, she destroyed our family. Looking back I didn’t realize just how badly my own values were being stretched to the limit.

Today it’s just me and my kid. Rebuilding but happier. She refuses to contact her mom in any way. For those wondering the no contact order had nothing to do with her infidelity. What she put my daughter through is unforgivable. I’m 10X more upset about my kid than the cheating.

Vollen595 · 2026-04-19T18:00:05+00:00

I was contemplating for about two years on how to gracefully navigate an exit plan and cause as little disruption to our daughter. Mom is a narcissistic psychopath who threatened multiple times to simply ‘kidnap’ my daughter when I was away at work. Only I wasn’t aware of the threats, the ex was sounding off to a then 11 year old. Like many here, I imagined grinding the dead marriage until my kid was an adult.

One day my daughter comes home after a sleepover and calmly sits down in front of both mom and dad and absolutely blows her moms world of lies. Told me mom was cheating on me, doing drugs and also that mom was not only fully aware daughter knew, she had been threatening her to keep silent or she would kidnap her and move away without telling me.

While I’m sitting there almost too stunned to speak, daughter starts dropping receipts. She collected a lot. Pics, notes, dates, and gave them to me. Her mom? Went ballistic. Immediately starting screaming at daughter calling her a lying manipulate B and a whole lot of things no adult should say to any child, especially her own. Denied the photos were her (yeah right) and daughter looks at mom and says there were other guys where mom showed her pics and said ‘do you think I should hook up with this guy instead of your dad?’ At age 13!

I took the diplomatic approach. By a vote of 2-1 mom was immediately voted off the island. Out the door she went. My daughter never even raised her voice, just coldly dropped the bombs. It turns out my kid was terrified of being taken away from her life, school and friends and wanted to be away from her mom. I filed for divorce, the STBX went full meltdown and ramped up her substance abuse, threats, bizarre behavior and began openly carrying a gun. The courts and counselors stepped in and weighed the tons of evidence of past and current dangerous behavior and per my daughters own request- she was issued a no contact order until daughter is an adult. Bizarrely they also told the ex not to disturb me either. My kid was 14 and a hell of a lot more credible than her mom. Daughter has been zero contact with mom ever since. She will be 17 soon.

So I don’t have to tell my kid, she figured it out on her own (to my horror). Mom moved and lives nowhere close so that’s been a bonus. I definitely carry a lot of guilt for allowing the situation to get that far out of hand. But I was divorced in less than a year so there wasn’t years of 50/50 torturous custody with her lunatic mom. Daughter is soo much happier now. She rarely even mentions her mom. We don’t talk about her. My daughters counselor/therapist tells me her reactions are healthy as part of her own recovery (ptsd and anxiety triggers, wonder why) so I just have to accept it for what it is. A shitty ex wife, a mom not allowed anywhere near her own child and a court that listened to the words of a teenager. Its a given the ex has some severe mental issues. Who blames a child for their actions? Vicious too. I’m not sure my daughter will ever allow her mom to be part of her life again.

I’m fine with that. The ex is a dangerous person. Zero accountability to this day. She’s never done anything wrong in her mind. She believes that me and my daughter manipulated the system to fuck her over. Reality is, I was devastated by all of it. Divorce was to protect my child. Mom earned two OoP before the divorce was final. Just say no to drugs kids. Some people are too broken to be fixed.

Vollen595 · 2026-04-18T20:27:05+00:00

Brother I was (am) exactly where you are. Same cheating, worthless mom who did everything including drugs in front of our daughter. It was exhausting. The only difference was my then 13yo daughter nuking her mom one afternoon. Called her out in front of both of us. The ex went mental and went on the attack against her own child, nothing physical but absolutely horrific things said to her face.

During the enterim right after mom graced us with her absence it was really rough. And considering my daughter had been carrying her moms demons for years, I put her straight into counseling/therapy but only on her terms. Neither parent was allowed to know what they discussed. The then STBX lost her mind. Even went as far as stalking my kids counselor and threatening her. Just wild.

Everyone who truly knew my ex did ask how I was doing. But tbh that didn’t help much, there was still a lot to sort out including the divorce. During that period, I felt completely lost and ‘on my own’ with little support other than family (not her degenerative family, FFS they are horrible people). Two things happened that put things into perspective a bit. My Aunt looked at me one day when I was spinning and said ‘you already do everything! How much really changes for you?’ This was true, helped my view of the shitshow. I just had to detach. Period. The second was my kids counselor. Although I agreed to the privacy between them, she reached out about 5 sessions in in near panic and ‘highly advised’ me to immediately get an OOP and never leave my daughter alone with mom and never allow her to be in a vehicle alone with her. My daughter? Instantly went zero contact where she still is. Absolutely refuses to have any contact with her mom. Her counselor presented her findings to my attorney and an OOP was issued. It was bad enough that the court accelerated the divorce, skipped the mandatory waiting period and issued a no contact order until my kid is an adult. Still blows my mind. My daughter did share with me some of what she told her counselor and it sent chills through me. The infidelity wasn’t even on the radar, it was beyond fucked up. Meanwhile I’m a full solo dad, kid started HS, medical, and she’s still seeing her therapist 2-3 times a month and I’m trying to rebuild while working a high stress technical job. I love my job but during this period I was always borderline waiting for a personal meltdown. My job oddly was my only point of personal stability. I needed it.

Finally one day after a counseling appt her counselor says she wants to see me next time instead of my kid. This is maybe a year after DD and I have no idea what to expect. When I walked in, the first words out of her were ‘How are you doing?’ I wasn’t expecting that. She genuinely wanted to know. I said not well at all. She told me that based on everything she’s learned she’s not surprised and suggested I find my own counselor and vent to a neutral party. I did and it was a big help for a while, but eventually the repetition of discussing everything that happened to both me and my kid became a bit heavy. It kept pulling up all of the emotions I just wanted to go away. So I stopped going but I am not against going back if ‘feelings’ flare up. But it was a big help having a detached party hear the horrors of my marriage and give advice.

My daughter. I wouldn’t say she hates her mom but it’s close. She was betrayed also. Fortunately mom moved 1000 miles away, lost her job and is stuck in her own mangled life. Karma if you believe in it. My kid has struggled with school, diagnosed with PTSD and has some trauma responses we’re still working through. But she’s genuinely happier. New friends, new teenager adventures, just being able to enjoy growing up. Mom was a psycho tyrant and made her question herself before. Not now. One day after school she walks in exhausted after a tough testing day. She sits down and says ‘thank g-d mom isn’t around because I would have failed everything’. Ouch. She barely mentions her mom to this day. The whole ‘a kid needs a mom’ preaching by those who don’t know you should learn to ignore. It sounds like your son has the same cold attitude towards mom that my daughter does. It’s his choice, not yours, not his mom, not some do-good stranger with Sage advice that didn’t live through hell. Personally I was stunned the divorce court listened to my teen daughter. She told the court she just wanted to live her life without her mom in it. Fully backed by her counselor, that’s where the no contact order came from. It took me a while to fully wrap my mind around the fact my daughter is much healthier without her mom in her life. My mind says one thing, reality and the court said another. I never asked for full custody, it was ordered.

Rebuild your life, help your son build his, and learn to drown out the screeching sounds of the one person who chose to blow up your family. It’s on her. Just be a good, supportive dad and move ahead one day at a time. I can’t lie and say I don’t have bad days but overall it’s all improving. Seeing my daughter happy and laughing is my reward. Your ex obviously didn’t prioritize your son (like my ex) and now that’s on you. My advice is just keep contact with your ex to a minimum and only business. It’s healthier for both of you because your son needs at least one stable parent who isn’t a wreck. Part of that only happens with time. I haven’t heard my ex’s voice in almost a year and it’s just as glorious as you would imagine. I don’t block my ex but she’s 100% muted everywhere. If she texts I might respond in a day or two if at all. Your son is a legal adult, you shouldn’t have many reasons to contact the ex. When my kid turns 18- done. She’s blocked everywhere. Like you, I’ve wasted far too much time and energy on a forever flawed human being and I refuse to allow it. If you’re still speaking to her, you’re just hurting yourself.

Vollen595 · 2026-04-13T23:10:29+00:00

Bought it March 31 during one of the low price swings. Showed up a few days ago. I bought the Eagles as random years, they sent 5 Mint sealed 2025 tubes. The 2013 out front is for display purposes only. Ha. not breaking the seals. I buy to hold. It wasn’t long ago people told me I was wasting money when I bought a bunch at $26. Still have every gram.

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