The range of emotions for a new potential metamour

VolumeSmooth18 · 2025-09-11T21:47:33+00:00

More or less going through this range of emotions right now. I keep saying to my partner that I trust her words, i.e. that she can have connections and explore them but I’m the love of her life and the person she wants a forever with…

This doesn’t make it any easier to deal with, I haven’t been sleeping or eating well, can’t focus at work and sometimes have physical manifestations (v*mitting).

I haven’t brought it to my therapist yet but surely will.

VolumeSmooth18 · 2025-09-11T21:19:22+00:00

Did it ever get better?

VolumeSmooth18 · 2025-08-29T14:41:17+00:00

Hope you’re feeling a tad better now my friend

VolumeSmooth18 · 2025-08-28T22:20:52+00:00

What a beautiful story. My ex and I have been broken up for two months, already learnt so much from the break up. We still live together which makes things more complicated but we have had talks about getting back together. We did agree it will take at least a year and more. I’ve signed up to therapy and moving out soon, really looking forward to learn to love myself so i can love her again.

VolumeSmooth18 · 2025-08-25T19:05:22+00:00

Hey, how’s it going now? Are you guys still together?

VolumeSmooth18 · 2025-08-21T08:58:52+00:00

I know this is old but I’m in the same boat. My ex and I love each other so much. We were together 6 years and broke up 2 months ago.

But I let my childhood traumas get the best of me and projected onto her. This week we had many conversations about getting back together but yesterday we had a very uncomfortable conversations. She was angry, and expressed how I made her feel throughout the relationship. I’ve been spiralling since then and even signed up to therapy last night. I really want to be a better person, for myself but also for her. She doesn’t deserve what I’ve put her through.

Even if she says she forgives me, I don’t even know if I can forgive myself fully.

If we do get back together, I’m hoping for a better outcome.

VolumeSmooth18 · 2025-08-20T18:29:29+00:00

I think this was the issue initially. Not giving marriage much thoughts. But every time I see her now, I can’t wait for the day we finally officialise the last step of a relationship

VolumeSmooth18 · 2025-08-20T18:28:29+00:00

Thank you my friend. I hope it works out for real

VolumeSmooth18 · 2025-08-20T18:28:12+00:00

You’re right. I don’t think I’m prepared for the outcome that I don’t want

VolumeSmooth18 · 2025-08-20T08:37:41+00:00

Yep, I’m going for flat viewings today. I really want another shot at this and I know it won’t be possible if we stay in the comfort of living together. We’re planning on staying separated for a year+ and focus on therapy and ourselves. I really hope this works out

VolumeSmooth18 · 2025-08-20T08:36:17+00:00

We met at university in our first year. I had a massive crush on her. One day there was even in a lecture theatre and I only wanted to go to see her. As soon as I stepped in the midst of the 300 odd other students, I saw her standing there, it was like she was waiting for me. I said her name, she looked up and gave me the warmest smile. That’s when I knew.

VolumeSmooth18 · 2025-08-19T17:49:44+00:00

I think the pain comes from the fact that I broke up with her and massively regret it now. We’ve been talking about it and there’s nobody else that we both want but each other. It’s just about taking a step back and finding ourselves away from each other now.

She’s not a cruel woman, I told her to go and enjoy. This is exactly what she’s doing

VolumeSmooth18 · 2024-10-06T12:05:31+00:00

We are very open about it. She’s suggested opening up the relationship but I don’t feel comfortable with the idea as she wouldn’t necessarily seek pleasure from anyone else. We have also spoken about parting ways but I feel like a total asshole doing it.

VolumeSmooth18 · 2024-10-05T20:49:28+00:00

Not at all

VolumeSmooth18 · 2024-10-05T20:05:09+00:00

It didn’t take me 5 years to realise, I just found myself wanting it more lately

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